photographer54 Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 So I am going out with 4 different people in a week and they are all 1st date. I have either talked over the phone/text/or email with all of them. I'm just trying to figure things out. So is that bad or am I just giving my self more options. Tell me what you think.
donnamaybe Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 That's fine, providing you're not lying to anyone.
rod_in_gtown Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I did this last week, 4 girls as well. I was very concerned about it but you have to remember that they're also probably dating other men. And after that wave of first dates, you'll probably narrow down your pool to 2 or even one. In my case, all 4 dates went splendidly, all 4 girls wanted to see me again, but for one reason or the other, I didn't see things working with 2 of them, so now I'm in a place where I'm dating 2 that I'm really interested in. I am dreading having to make a choice at some point, and I do feel uncomfortable making plans around each other. It's not how I'm built but I'm learning to "survive" in this american dating world. The biggest problem I've had is remembering what I've shared with each, so when a question comes up, or a story seems relevant, I'm not 100% sure if I've said it to the one I'm out with. And it will become even more difficult when intimacy comes around.
Lindarose84 Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I did this last week, 4 girls as well. I was very concerned about it but you have to remember that they're also probably dating other men. And after that wave of first dates, you'll probably narrow down your pool to 2 or even one. In my case, all 4 dates went splendidly, all 4 girls wanted to see me again, but for one reason or the other, I didn't see things working with 2 of them, so now I'm in a place where I'm dating 2 that I'm really interested in. I am dreading having to make a choice at some point, and I do feel uncomfortable making plans around each other. It's not how I'm built but I'm learning to "survive" in this american dating world. The biggest problem I've had is remembering what I've shared with each, so when a question comes up, or a story seems relevant, I'm not 100% sure if I've said it to the one I'm out with. And it will become even more difficult when intimacy comes around. Totally agree. I've done the same (dated 3 or 4 guys in a week) and it really does suck having to make the decision in the end as to who you'd want to stick with. Dating sucks these days and if you want to keep up you have to date as many people as possible. Personally though, I've felt bad dating that many guys in one week because I feel like I'm being dishonest especially when it comes to booking dates around the other guys but you have to figure they're doing the same thing. I also found it difficult remembering what stories I shared with which guy so that made multi-dating that much harder. These days, when I am dating, I just stick to one guy at a time- it's way less effort.
boogieboy Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 WHere are you guys/gals meeting all these people to date?
Scorpio13c Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 WHere are you guys/gals meeting all these people to date? Probably online.
torranceshipman Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 4 in a week - totally normal. I'd do this too if I wasn't so lazy, haha Seriously, it's the way of the world, these days...
Ruby Slippers Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Dating sucks these days and if you want to keep up you have to date as many people as possible. If multidating is your thing, that's fine, but I don't agree with this at all. I would have no interest in having dates with four different people in one week. I'd rather ratchet up my screening process a few notches and go for quality over quantity.
torranceshipman Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 What if you find 4 truly quality guys in a week? :D:D
WineCountry Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 What if you find 4 truly quality guys in a week? :D:D Yes, and I suppose she could hit the mega bucks too.
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