OhioConfused Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Been seeing a beautiful girl for past 5 months. Everything was going good up till 2 weeks ago. Every boyfriend she has had as abused her in some way being mental or physical. I know that and would never do that to her. So 2 weeks ago she sends me email saying she always gets guard and puts up wall when she dates a guy at 3 month mark and that she cant control it or know why she does it. I stand by her and tell her that im here for her and only want to make her happy in life. She says she needs space but still wants to talk with me. So we text couple times day for 5 days thats it then she calls me I call her so on. I then go out of town for 5 days and whole time I gone she is sending me I MISS YOU text messeges and naked photos of her saying she cant wait for me to get back to town. When I do get back to town she invites me to stay over at her place for 2 nights where we have great time hanging out talking having sex like everything is back to normal. Then 2 days later she yells at me for not giving her proper space and that I never will give her space and that she doesnt want to date anyone. So I say ok and get up to leave but she asks me to stay, so is stay for 2 extra hours and we just talk about life and everything else but our relationship. Finnally after 2 hours I tell her I got to go home she then runs to me and hugs me then runs to her room. Havent talked to her since and its been 3 days. Is it over?Does she need space?Is she confused cause every other guy has treated her like ****? Im so confused on what to do. Does she like me or not. Does she want relationship but need time to figure it out. Any advice would great please help me.
2sure Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Abused or not - she doesnt know what she wants. Further, she expects you to know for her. This is called a train wreck.
analyzetheworld Posted July 11, 2009 Posted July 11, 2009 This girl is obviously very confused herself. My best advice to you would be to stop putting up with her doing all of this stuff all the time; you need to put your foot down and tell her what you will and will not accept as part of the relationship; and if you want to stay with her, one thing I think you should consider is making it mandatory for her to start up some counseling of some kind (mostly for her own good). She most likely will not start going on her own, but if you tell her it's a condition of her dating you, she may, and then it will be a little more clear to you what you're dealing with, and you also have a chance to help her out, so she is not so confused herself all the time. Good luck.
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