i left her but want her back, we met for her birthday tell me what you think?

[chslt77]

So I recently had a thread about me breaking up with my girlfriend and now wanting her back. you can read it here.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t194253/

 

like i said we were going to meet for coffee and this is my reaction as to what happened. any input would be awesome.

 

so for all of you who care to know how it went and how i am feeling right now please, continue to read.

 

surprisingly i feel awesome right now. we met today for coffee, and just talked. not about us or getting back together or how were feeling. all we talked about was our 4th of july weekend, how her family is doing, what shes got planned in the following months. just small chat. i made it a point to not say anything serious or complicated and did a great job of not looking like i was at all in any pain. a couple of times i could tell my face was reflecting my emotions, i let her pick up on it and quickly changed my mood. if it makes any sense...

 

also, for her gifts, again very simple. a card that said nothing but enjoy your birthday. and in it i wrote happy birthday, i hope you have a great day with your friends and doing whatever it is you want to. she really liked the card and actually paid attention to the detail of its design on the front which was made of felt which i didnt notice. i got her a reed diffuser which at the time i didnt remember but a while ago she bought one, and it didnt have any reeds in it.. she mentioned that and i was excited that i picked a good present without even knowning it, made it seem like i put a lot of thought into it. also i got her coconut smelling shampoo and conditioner.. now this had a reason to it. for spring break she came to my house in florida and that is the shampoo i had there and she was using it. when we came back to school i bought it and she also used it when she would shower here. also, my favorite smell happens to be coconuts and she knows this, but the funny thing is she dosent enjoy the smell that much. anyways my plan was for her to remember me everytime she used it and bring up past memories, better memories. and holy crap! it worked. today she texted me after i made it a point to not text her after we met. she said my hair smells delicious thank you again for my gifts. i simply said "i thought that you would like it and im glad to here you used it. your hair seemed to smell a bit... off today when i saw you" just trying to pick on her a little to make her smile, i used to do it while we dated, nothing mean or too bad but just little remarks that made her laugh. anyways after that little convo this afternoon i said nothing to her.

 

now, another thing about our trip. a news team came up to ask and asked her if she could answer some questions about a certain governor in our state. she was a little hesitent and trying to get out of it but then i came in. i said will it be on the news today? they said yes. i asked can you guys put a little banner at the bottom that says happy birthday ____!!! they laughed and told her happy birthday. i looked at her and she smiled.. i knew it was a good move on my part..

 

now, one more thing. it took me a while to realize this and actually put it together but, when we were talking she told me how last thursday she went shagging (the south carolina state dance) and had a good time. while we were dating she asked me several times if id take her but like a fool never did because well, im not very good at cutting up a rug. but, she said shes going this thursday again and that me and a few of my friends should go sometime (not specifically saying when). at the time i brushed it off and didnt think much of it. now i kind of see it as an informal invitation to possibly go. she may have been a little nervous or scared to ask me, at least thats what im thinking. so i asked my friends they agreed to go and so thats the plan. im going to text her thursday and just say "i was thinking about going shagging today, if you guys decide to go maybe ill see you there?" very informal in no way saying im going will you go with me or prying to see if she is going. just simple. but im still a little unsure if i should ask her. would it be better to just show up hoping shes there? because that could look a little crazy on my part. but then again saying something may scare her away from going, bit of a dilemma.

 

sorry one more thing. this is what my wholeeeee plan was with going shagging on thursday. i know shes not going with me and there will be other guys in her group and there. and i will see her dancing with other people.. but im not going to let it bother me and if it does, not to show it. show her im fine with it and i do trust her. see what im getting at? ill ask her to dance with me, maybe a few times. but ill also dance with other girls and have a good time. make sure she knows im having fun and not bothered by the fact that she is dancing with other people. because, the real reason we broke up was because of mt\e trust issues.

 

all this, just one step forward to proving to her that im going to be different. that i can trust her, and that although not wanting to, im giving her the space she wants.

 

i feel absolutely incredible right now because i have a plan. i just hope it doesnt get squashed like a bug. but if it does ill get over it go to a strict NC policy and in a couple of weeks she if she wants to meet for lunch or another coffee break.

 

sorry for the length and it you happened to make it through any ideas or opinions would be awesome. anything critical keep it light try not to crush my hopes too bad. thanks everyone.

[SweetyBear]

I'm glad she followed through on meeting with you and that you know where to find her for dancing. I thought the coconut shampoo and conditioner was a really cute idea. It shows you were thinking and that you want her to think of you too. Keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you. I'd really love to hear a positive outcome!