jqb05443 Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Was with my ex 3.5 years. I am still having a hard time moving on and have been a failure at NC since break up. I don't call him really, I just have a hard time not texting him which often go ignored. Well ironically next Sat will be 3 months since he broke up with me and we are going to dinner and a show. I invited him to the show (over a month ago) and he said we could do dinner after. When he broke up with me, it was out of nowhere and of course the first thing that comes to mind was that it was someone else but he has always been honest and told me there wasn't anyone else and I believe him. During the first 2 months of break up we hung out a few times and spoke a bit here and there. The times we hung out were amazing. The way he was acting was as if he was courting me all over again. I mean from walking me to my car, to holding bags for me, to being affectionate. It was great. Until I was going away on vacation last month and i gave him a card basically pouring my heart out. How I have changed, what I would do differently, how I want to make things work (you guys know the type of letter). Well after he read it he said he couldn't give me an answer at that moment but he wasn't saying no. He just needed time to think. He said he was hanging out with me because he wanted to see if things had changed for the better between us and he if we were truly meant to be he wanted to ease back into things. So he told me to let him think about it and proceded to give me a kiss before I left on vacation. Well when I got back I started pressuring him for an answer (he has never done well under pressure). After pressing for a few days he told me that we both needed to move on and he wished me the best. I was devasted and felt like I was back at square one. I sent him a few texts that day asking if we could still be friends and if we could just hang out one last time, all text went ignored by him. A few days later i text him that i had tix to a show which was a month away (next week) and if he would like to go with me? I guess I felt like I had to get rejected one last time for it to sink in. I was expecting him to ignore me or say NO but to my surprise he actually responded back with a yes. So I told myself the show is one month away. Go NC for a month and finally give him that time to miss you. I went away last week again on vacation (that's what I have been doing alot of since break up) and text him before I left to make sure he didn't forget as I was going away and if he decided to back out I needed to find a back up. So i text if we were still on for next saturday and he didn't respond to the text right away. I waited an hour and called him (which I rarely do). To my surprise he picked up the phone and told me we were def on and proceded to tell me what he was doing that day with who and where he was going without me asking him. I told him I was going away the next day and just wanted to make sure he didn't forget, I kept the convo short less than a minute, wished him a happy 4th and told him i would be in touch a couple of days before the show. I felt good about convo. he wasn't nasty and i sounded happy and kept the convo short and to the point. well yesterday i was flying home from vacay and i was flying alone. my flight got delayed 8 hours so i was bored, alone with alot of time to think. so i sent him a text just saying im bored my flight keeps getting delayed due to weather. he never responded. two hours later i sent another one saying ok well hope all is well with you. can't wait to get home already and call you next week. again no response. granted they were just statements and not questions that required a response BUT i couldn't help but feel hurt that he could ignore me like that. i almost started crying at the airport. I feel like I should take back the invite but i feel like this will probably be the last time i see him if things don't go well. I know that's false hope i am giving myself but i never gave him time to miss me after the break up and i was hoping that this month with hardly NC except the call to confirm before I left and the 2 ignored text messages yesterday. I want to see him so bad next saturday but im so hurt that he ignored me yesterday. Why would he do that? I mean I already know..he just doesn't care about me. Im just venting and deciding going back and fourth whether I should take him or not after how he made me feel yesterday
EmptyPromises Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 yea i agree go no contact, your looking a little pathetic, no offense i know how it feels i looked pathetic to my ex as well for awhile. i bet hes going to back out of the show anyway. you need to find another date and just dont even bring up the show. if anything, let him text or call u and ask YOU if you guys are still on to go.
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