dxb Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Just wondering, how many people here are going through crazy mood swings now that they're split up? As I've posted elsewhere, I've just split up with my girl - long story short, first love, ultra-compatible, whirlwind romance, collapse from trust issues, my choice to end it. And now my head's all over the place as you'd expect but I'm wondering/worried whether some of the mood swings I'm having are normal or evidence that I'm a heartless bastard. Sometimes, as you'd expect, I'm pining like crazy for her. So far I've been trying to tie up a few loose ends that need tying up before I can move onto NC and I've got drawn into telling her how much I love and adore her (I know, pandering to her ego) and wish it didn't have to be like this, and pretty much bursting into tears over the whole thing. Then at other times (like right now as I type this), I'm feeling like I really couldn't give a toss and I'm strangely euphoric. I'm also one of the laziest people in the world but I've got a massive urge to go for a run or lift some weights. Basically I'm swinging massively from feeling just-slightly-better-than-suicidal to mutherluvin-king-of-the-world-outta-my way-I'm-the-daddy at least 3 or four times a day, and there's not really a lot of 'in-between'. By way of context, we were together 2 and a half years, got together in the sort of situation you only see in rom-coms (think airport pick-up), lived together for two years and even moved countries together. We've been split up for just three days. I'm expecting to feel bad, but should I also really be feeling this good in such as short space of time?
Taucher Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I think the mood swings are normal. I dont get euphoric exactly, but sometimes feel like everything will be fine. Other times, I feel miserable and like life will never be as good again. However, you say you been split up for 3 days and when I was split up for three days, I didnt have any positive feelings at all, but then I was dumped and you were the dumper, so maybe that explaines the difference?
jqb05443 Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 was in 3.5 year relationship. he broke up with me 3 months ago next week. i still have crazy emotions everyday. still have my moments when i cry everyday. didn't go to work today because i am very hurt. today is actually the first time that i haven't gone to work because of the way I felt. i havent seen him in over a month. i asked him to go to a show with me next (i asked him 3 weeks ago) saturday and he agreed to go with me. since break up we never had that time where i gave him space to miss me. this is the longest we have gone without seeing eachother. he swore to me when we broke up that there wasnt anyone else and I do believe him. But today I am home and upset because I was in the airport yesterday and my flight home kept getting delayed. i was traveling alone and i was bored and had alot of time on my hands to think so i decided to send him a text message, followed by 2 others a couple of hours apart and i never heard from him. that hurt me so much. im sitting here crying and my heart aches sooo bad. i can't believe he would be so mean to me like that. a part of me wants to uninvite him next weekend but at the same time i feel like i have to see him one more time. i am fighting myself from sending him a nasty text message for the way he made me feel yesterday but i don't want to ruin my last chance of seeing him next weekend.
Thomas X Forever Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Such drastic mood swings sounds like Bipolar 1 or 2. Well, that would be the case if this is how you ALWAYS were. Considering you just went through a break up, I'd say it's probably normal. Although, you're going to be going through a lot more painful days, than euphoric days soon. You haven't felt the realization yet.
Olylama Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Mate, I think it is normal to go up and down. I look forward to the time I will be over it and enjoy the opportunity and excitement of meeting someone else. But hey the low points can be pretty devo. i think the break in routine is saddening. But change is the spice of life even if it feels like chilli powder in the eyes.
hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 thomas not everything can be analyzed psycho. emotions are emotions dude u probly one of those dudes that always over analyze things...me being a science major myself i tend to do the same thing but i am understanding love is love and u gotta roll with it
Thomas X Forever Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Actually everything CAN be analyzed psychologically, because all that we are stems and branches FROM psychology. Without psychology, we have no brain. Without a brain, we are dead. Psychology is the root of all interaction, emotion, viewpoints, feelings, opinions, just EVERYTHING of ALL THAT IS LIVING. You CAN'T avoid it, you CAN'T bypass it. Life = psychology. I picked it for a reason. Thanks though. I don't over analyze anything, but I analyze everything within reason.
Road To Joy Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 you're going to be going through a lot more painful days, than euphoric days soon. You haven't felt the realization yet. I'm going to have to agree with this. At first, I was mostly perfectly fine. Then it gets to a point where everything sort of caves in, once you realize what really is gone. It's a long, long journey. And though I haven't gone through it all, I can tell you it has some pretty pleasant surprises at times.
fani Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 My ex is bipolar....this is NOT bipolar. I think this is heart ache...he dumped her. But there are stil feelings for her. So he is flitting between missing her so badly, and feeling great. Everyone goes through this in the break up. i think the extent of feeling "great" depends if you are the dumper or the dumpee
Exit Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 It's completely normal. I had an gf in high school where whenever we broke up I got that euphoric feeling, I'd drive home from her house with my stereo turned up loud and a huge smile on my face. It was probably a pretty big sign that splitting up was the right thing to do, but we ended up reconciling a couple times, oops. Now with my current ex my mood swings all day long. Sometimes I still want her back, other times I recognize all the signs that we don't belong together and I feel fine.
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