lovestruck818 Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Wow, takes a lot of courage to admit your a gold digger! no i'm not a golddigger and for the record i make more money than he does...it's not about the money, it's about ahving one's life together...having a stable job where they work regularly, not when "they feel like it."
lovestruck818 Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 I wouldn't call that a generation at all. Different decades, yes. But certainly not different generations, as a generation implies the length of time between the birth of a parent and the birth of its offpsring. Although, if you are talking about cats and kittens, then yes, you have a generation. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Generations_(book) i think i got the years mixed up...1981 is in a different generation than 1982 you don't have to believe me, but the proof is in the pudding
chocolate_nap Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 I was going to ask people how they knew the female was younger and the male was older. Anyone find it interesting that we assume? I mean it's gotta be younger female/older male, right? Because the other way around is just gross. /sarcasm
Touche Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Generations_(book) i think i got the years mixed up...1981 is in a different generation than 1982 you don't have to believe me, but the proof is in the pudding Huh? This made zero sense. Oh and the link was no good either.
Jersey Shortie Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 My mom married someone 16 years older then her. It was great when they were younger. But now my mom has so much she still wants to do that my father doesn't. She always tells me not to date men older then me. I always tell her "but you did". To which she says "exactly, I am the voice of experience". Don't get me wrong, she loves my dad but the reality is that age gaps do infact matter. otherwise, we wouldn't discuss it so much.
burning 4 revenge Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I would absolutely love to date a woman 29 years younger. But marriage ... probably not. So you would like to date a woman whose at the age you were when Ronald Reagan was running for President and The Clash were headlining stadiums....
angie2443 Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I was going to ask people how they knew the female was younger and the male was older. Anyone find it interesting that we assume? I mean it's gotta be younger female/older male, right? Because the other way around is just gross. /sarcasm It's gross either way, but you can't say that to an older man. It might hurt his ego.
Citizen Erased Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 So you would like to date a woman whose at the age you were when Ronald Reagan was running for President and The Clash were headlining stadiums.... Who? 29 years is far too much. Half of that is almost too much.
KismetGirl Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 yes but I want to date someone who isn't in limbo with their life...has his own secure finances and a sure & stable job. With all due respect, Im 27 and 99% of my friends are quite stable in their jobs, many make 6 figure salaries, and even if they aren't rich they are definitely stable and have normal jobs. Many are starting to get married, buy houses, and one of them is having his first kid this year. And FYI, plenty of 43 year olds don't have their s**t together. It has nothing to do with age. And Im sure when he was 26 he was just getting his life on track also. Your guy wasn't dropped out of the womb as a successful 43 year old, he had to get to that level, right? I'd rather have someone my own age so we could build our life together, rather than someone who is nearly the same age as my parents and will be too old to run after our grandchildren together, and frankly, will likely be dead before I have grandchildren. If your main concern is someone who has lots of money, you might as well go marry some 70 year old millionaire. At least he'll be dead sooner and you can just get the money when he's dead. Age does not equate with responsibility or maturity. That is inherent in a person individually. My friends, most of whome are between the ages of 24-35, are all well on their way to being established. Of the couple that aren't yet established financially, it's cause they went to grad school and recently finished, but are well on their way to a good life. And anyway, you should want to be able to rely on yourself shoudlnt you? Personally, I want my equal. Not a sugar daddy. Maybe it grosses me out because my father is only 48 so the thought of a boyfriend in his age range is weird to me. Be with someone because they make you happy. If you don't know any mature, intelligent, successful 27 year olds then you need to span out and make new friends. A relationship should not be based purely on how good a job someone has.
KismetGirl Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 PS- I have a friend who is only 26 years old, and his father is 79. His mother is only 56. Im sure when she was 30 and he was in his 50's it was still doable, but now that he's damn near 80, he's quite ill and his mother spends all her time taking care of him. He'll be dead soon, and she'll be past her prime. She can look for someone new, but its' not really the same now is it. And to be honest, I think its sad that my friend won't have a dad past his 20's. I mean, anyone can go at any time, but even if he was the healthiest man in the world, my friend's dad will never live long enough to see any of his grandchildren. And that's just dissapointing.
MistyK Posted July 16, 2009 Posted July 16, 2009 Thoughts? And know this; we've been together over 4 years. My sister and her H are 28 years apart. They met when she was 17, she is 34 now, and they have 2 kids under age 7. Now that he is in his 60's, the age gap is much more of an issue. She's in her sexual prime, and he...well.....not so much. The fact that he is otherwise wildly immature I think helped them initially, but as she gets older, having a perrennial 17 year old in a 60 year old's body is increasingly annoying. People always comment about what a nice grandfather he is - because they don't realize he's the children's father. My last boyfriend was 16 years my senior and he felt people looked at us funny, but it was never an issue for us. We blew apart for completely unrelated reasons. I am not quite sure what the cutoff point is for relationships like this to work, but there definitely is one.
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