LittleJ Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Thoughts? And know this; we've been together over 4 years.
asireen Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Thoughts? And know this; we've been together over 4 years. Great! Hope it goes on for 40, and more.
Lucky_One Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Honestly? He's 61 and you're 32. If you are happy with him, then keep on in the relationship. Statistically, he will be dead in about 13 years, and you will only be 45 - plenty of time to find a new love and a new fulfilling relationship. Good luck!
Lishy Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Honestly? He's 61 and you're 32. If you are happy with him, then keep on in the relationship. Statistically, he will be dead in about 13 years, and you will only be 45 - plenty of time to find a new love and a new fulfilling relationship. Good luck! that is funny! Why did you make this thread?????????? I cant see what the point was?
Jersey Shortie Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Honestly? He's 61 and you're 32. If you are happy with him, then keep on in the relationship. Statistically, he will be dead in about 13 years, and you will only be 45 - plenty of time to find a new love and a new fulfilling relationship. Good luck! And perhaps leave her a nice little income.
Vet Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Thoughts? And know this; we've been together over 4 years. Speaking generally, I can never really see such a generational gap working out in the long run. Too many differences. If it works for you though....
Lucky_One Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 And perhaps leave her a nice little income. Definitely a consideration! Although, most men of that age group have children, and typically the kids get a big chunk of the estate.
lovestruck818 Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I'm 27 and thinking about getting into a relationship w/ a man who is 43. I like it b/c he has the job stability and financial security that I have and want...and can't seem to find in the guys my age. I am very worried about what my friends and family will think. OP, what was it like for you when you first told people about it?
Lyssa Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I like it b/c he has the job stability and financial security that I have and want... Don't you have your own?
lovestruck818 Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Don't you have your own? yes but I want to date someone who isn't in limbo with their life...has his own secure finances and a sure & stable job.
Touche Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 What kind of thoughts are you looking for? I was married to a man 19 years my senior. I'd never do that again. I love that my H is only 7 years older. But good luck to ya!
GorillaTheater Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I must admit that I'm having nearly equal trouble picturing myself with an 18-year-old girl and a 76-year-old woman. I said "nearly".
Touche Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I must admit that I'm having nearly equal trouble picturing myself with an 18-year-old girl and a 76-year-old woman. I said "nearly". ahaha, GT. You and I are the same age and I can't see it either way.
Lucky_One Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Well, the OP isn't a good one to ask about the financial stability thing. Well, maybe she is. She owns nothing and has nothing, and her BF has been paying for a "very nice lifestyle" for her while she is in school. That seems to be the biggest thing holding her there.
lovestruck818 Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Well, the OP isn't a good one to ask about the financial stability thing. Well, maybe she is. She owns nothing and has nothing, and her BF has been paying for a "very nice lifestyle" for her while she is in school. That seems to be the biggest thing holding her there. I have a home that i own, a very good and stable job, i know what I want out of life...I'm 27. I meet a lot of guys in their late 20's and 30's who are unsure about things in their lives, go from job to job, rent apartment after apartment, are unsure if they want a relationship, play games etc. etc. I would think and hope that by 40 that is all out of a man's system. I think a 15 year old age gap would be weird though.
2sure Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 A 15 year age gap seems fairly common and reasonable. You are at least the same general generation. But a 29 year gap is another thing altogether. At the very least , its just something that appears tacky and insincere to everyone. But if you dont mind appearing that way...good for you and go for it.
2sure Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 LittleJ. Having read your other posts, its very clear to me and probably to you... that you are trying to talk yourself into something or trying to talk him into something. And thats fine. My concern is that you are in the unfortunate but temporary position of being financially dependent on him. Because this is temporary (you are in grad school)...Well. Dont make permanent decisions based on temporary circumstances. Know what I mean?
asireen Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 I would absolutely love to date a woman 29 years younger. But marriage ... probably not.
lovestruck818 Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 A 15 year age gap seems fairly common and reasonable. You are at least the same general generation. But a 29 year gap is another thing altogether. At the very least , its just something that appears tacky and insincere to everyone. But if you dont mind appearing that way...good for you and go for it. ya know, it's funny...b/c 1980 & 1979 are technically in a different generation...lol.
Lucky_One Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 ya know, it's funny...b/c 1980 & 1979 are technically in a different generation...lol. I wouldn't call that a generation at all. Different decades, yes. But certainly not different generations, as a generation implies the length of time between the birth of a parent and the birth of its offpsring. Although, if you are talking about cats and kittens, then yes, you have a generation.
LostLamb Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 I don't think I would find a man 29 years older than me attractive but if you are happy ,why are you asking strangers what they think? I guess you or your partner are unhappy with parts of your relationship.
Toodamnpragmatic Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 The OP doesn't want to hear answers from people who say it is wrong as is everyone who posts here with troubles and then "let it slip" there is a huge age difference. I won't repeat the obvious issues, the societal issues, family, friends, bedroom, financial, control..... There are plenty of people who are okay with the age difference, and many of us old "men" who daydream every once in a while about a carefree "20 something"...... Then we snap out of it. Only one's who can get away with it are the ultra-rich and hollywood celebrities (Michael Douglas/Catherine Zeta-Jones, Warren Beatty/Annette Benning)....
Heroic Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 I'm 27 and thinking about getting into a relationship w/ a man who is 43. I like it b/c he has the job stability and financial security that I have and want...and can't seem to find in the guys my age. I am very worried about what my friends and family will think. OP, what was it like for you when you first told people about it? Wow, takes a lot of courage to admit your a gold digger!
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