NopeNah Posted July 12, 2009 Posted July 12, 2009 wow well mine just messaged me and goes i'm sad that you can't just be friends with me. obviously i care about you and everything, but i personally can't do any more relationship stuff until i figure out what i need to do with myself... on my own. so if i go home and the bunny is home i guess ill return her after i get her fixed, i dont want to loose her but i cant just be her friend? should i just show her how great of a person i am by hanging out with her and maybe she'll change her mind No you shouldn't hang out with her. How can she decides what she truly wants with you there. Give her the space to make her mind up on what she wants. It could be you. But, the way you handle yourself throughout this time will have a big impact on her decision. Tell her to keep the bunny as it was a gift. Then let her be, accept the fact that this is over, start to heal yourself. If she does come back you'll be in a better mindset to handle it. If she doesn't you're on your way with your new life.
Author thebigrabbit14 Posted July 13, 2009 Author Posted July 13, 2009 i got a bunch of messages saying please be carefull dont hurt yourself and asking if im okay and crap like that im not responding let her come to me im done with all the bull****
boogieboy Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 i got a bunch of messages saying please be carefull dont hurt yourself and asking if im okay and crap like that im not responding let her come to me im done with all the bull**** Good boy! dont let her treat you like a doormat. She wants you around to ease her guilt, it does NOT in any way make you look like a great guy, it makes you look weak and desperate. Keep ignoring her texts.
Island Girl Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 i got a bunch of messages saying please be carefull dont hurt yourself and asking if im okay and crap like that im not responding let her come to me im done with all the bull**** Sorry but if she is leaving you messages like that she must have the impression that you are weak and mentally unstable. How did she get that idea? -- I am glad to see the "done with the bull****" attitude. This post leads me to believe you lost yourself in the relationship and became kind of a doormat for her. Everything for her always. Everything about keeping her happy and her needs satisfied. Hopefully you have learned from this that a healthy relationship is not like this.
Author thebigrabbit14 Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 anyways i havent made contact but yesterday she messaged me on facebook saying we should stop talking to each other though we had great times and that shes scared of me and it hurts for her to not miss me??? anyway i went to the post office today to get an application and i noticed her sitting across the st reading a book i parked my call answered a phone call and did not look across the street at all. got my passport application and went back to the car and drove off with dave mathews blaring, out of the corner of my eye i could see her looking at me. anyway im pissed about this whole situation yesterday i told her to grow up after she messaged me and then asked when did i ever threaten her or raise a hand? and it was never and she never responded which i told her when she grows up she can talk to me again. anyways tonight i got hit by a drunk driver on my motorcycle i made sure no one that i know found out, but i believe one of my best friends that i told him to come pick me up and take me home messaged her to tell her that i got hit by a drunk driver. now what do i do if she texts me or calls me in the morning?
Island Girl Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 I am sorry you were in an accident. I do hope you are alright -- and that you got checked out at the hospital. Some injuries don't show up right away - especially head injuries. If you haven't been to the hospital then please go ASAP. If she hears about it and messages you do not respond. This is just one of many life events that are going to happen and since she broke up with you, she is no longer privy to any info. NC. That means you don't contact her and if she contacts you - you do not respond. You don't answer phone calls, texts, e-mails, etc. No Contact. **** Please go to the hospital if you haven't already done so.
Author thebigrabbit14 Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 yea i had a concussion last month when i locked up the rear in the rain and slammed into a car, i got checked out and they said i was fine. its hard to not talk to her. it sucks as from what i can see she's having a blast with all he friends i did remove her from my facebook today just cause i got pissed off that she made the bull**** excuse of being scared. i treated her with so much respect even when i got mad with her i never raised my voice. i see people on the straight that get a tiny bit mad and they look like there ready to hit there gf's
Author thebigrabbit14 Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 well i just took a look on twitter and she has this for a update 30 minutes ago i don't know what to believe anymore. not normally this emo, but just kinda want to disappear. right. now.
Island Girl Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 Yes it was a bull**** excuse. You don't need someone who doesn't talk straight and makes crap up right?? Just try to focus on yourself as much as you can. Go to the gym. Get out with friends. Try not to get into your head so much about all this. Now that you are NC it will finally begin to get better. You will have good days. Days you feel so great it is unbelievable. And there will be bad days - so expect them and realize it is just part of the process of getting over it. The bad days get fewer and farther between until you don't have any anymore. ...As long as you remain NC. If you have any contact at all it takes you all the way back to square one. So don't do that to yourself.
Author thebigrabbit14 Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 she has shown up before even after we broke up to check on me after she found out what had hapened last time what about if i wake up and shes in my room?
Island Girl Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 she has shown up before even after we broke up to check on me after she found out what had hapened last time what about if i wake up and shes in my room? How would she get in your house??
Author thebigrabbit14 Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 im only 19 i live at home my mom loves the girl even though i told my mom i never want to speak to her again my mom told me im crazy so if im sleeping im pretty sure she'll let her in no doubt
Island Girl Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 im only 19 i live at home my mom loves the girl even though i told my mom i never want to speak to her again my mom told me im crazy so if im sleeping im pretty sure she'll let her in no doubt Put a lock on your door And tell your mom that she has accused you of "scaring her" as if you'd be violent in any way. Tell her that you'd appreciate it if she'd respect your wishes of who you want to see and not ---- and that you are making the decision that she doesn't just get to come in and surprise you because you would be very very unhappy if you see her in the house. Remind her how she would feel if she broke up with someone and when they showed up you just let them in to go into her room or whatever.
Author thebigrabbit14 Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 yea well time to go to sleep im exhausted and in pain i havent gotten any msgs from her or anything might be a good sign but just shows how she doesnt care
Author thebigrabbit14 Posted July 15, 2009 Author Posted July 15, 2009 i was getting a private number on my work phone, which is common because a lot of ppl that call to buy cars always block there number. so the sales rep doesnt call back annoying the crap out of them anyway. it was her i didnt say anythign she was just crying telling me ppl at 3am called her saying it was her fault that i go out at night and i never used to do this. then she kept telling me to go back to the hospital and hung up and that this is killing her. oo and she kept scremaing while crying for me to go to the hospital then hung up. the thing is i never got a word in so its still no contact? i know her pretty well which means today she will be home all day crying and sleeping. well she dumped me so she can deal with it but anyway im not going to text or call her or anything but i feel like i should do something for her?
New_life Posted July 15, 2009 Posted July 15, 2009 man, I went through all of this with my first ex.. She was more in love of me and I didnt take her back as she lied badly, she went crazy started telling me she wanted everything she gave me.. I refused, as I didnt want to cause a scene in my house, and thought she would just let it slide. So in my experience I can tell you I had my doubts about taking her back, and after that she pushed me worse away. I now understand why she did that, out of anger and just having an excuse for me to take her back. Look man, I hope your fine from the accident. I think everything right now you feel is crazy, I would write a heartfelt email saying goodbye and that your fine, and now moving on. I know its hard, but she will see you mature, and things willl end nicely or make her regret it in a while. Give her that space, try not thinking about her, I know its hard.. But every day that you dont talk to her it gets better.
Author thebigrabbit14 Posted July 16, 2009 Author Posted July 16, 2009 well i put an end to this today, i called her at 2 and then she shut her phone off didnt pick up even though where not friends on fb i messaged her a couple long messages. saying how i was sorry for guilting and blackmailing her and acting inmature and going to the extreme and all such things like that. i was really worried because when she gets that stressed out something bad happens. well she cut bangs last month but i mean i dont want to kill herself. she was depressed 2 years ago and then had thoughs of killing herself so her parents put her on meds and well i got her blossom the bunny to cheer her up which did and she came back. well she replied 2 hours later which i deleted the message and now i cant remeber all i remeber is please give me some space and ill unblock you eventually. i dont remeber what she said in the begining but i told her life is short and we shouldnt act like this and that we should start over forget about what has happened the past month and a half and the way i acted and how i could have handled the situation better. told her not worry about me cause im fine and that she shouldnt stress over me. then i sent her a photo of jack the rabbit which after everytime we would do it he would hop on the bed and walk all over her and sniff her and lay on her and she adores him. i wrote in the pix msg he is also sorry for walking all over you when you had no clothes on and scratching you and later on i send another pix msg with the 2 girls and the stuffed monkey she gave me with the a we love you thing. something to make her awww. and like an idiot i texted her recently to resend the msgs to my email, she knows i have a concussion and that my memory has been shot since i fell last month too. im not going to contact her anymore but i have a feeling that in the end things will work out you know what also sucks is i hate waiting thats why i messed it up in the beging when we broke up and she said just give me 2 weeks the finals to do what i have to do i mean how the hell could i do that? i apologized in the msg i just hope she contacts me soon even though im still moving on with my life just in case
Author thebigrabbit14 Posted July 17, 2009 Author Posted July 17, 2009 i suck i cant even do the nc i was doing it all day then i started to text her and try to call her at night, then i just threw my phone and went out and skated up and down the beach now i left my personal cell phone in the car and its off. im gonna turn it on in the morning and when i feel out of control or sad ill just turn it off or toss it in the back. i know she said she wants space and stuff i suck at not harassing ppl i was never like this i mean i feel like a major stalker and freak
edward-e Posted July 17, 2009 Posted July 17, 2009 it sucks to say but u gotta get over it. NO woman is worth you giving up ur dignity. if she really loved you she would never want you to give up being yourself. if you think you look like a stalker...imagine how she feels...i know it hurts to think about but you guys just arent gunna get back together if its been 2 months and her attitude hasnt changed. ur a young guy tho. i mean youre 19 she wont be the last person youll ever date. just move on. it sounds like you both have to grow up before u can really give all your love to one person. let her grow up and u do the same. in time ull feel better. sometimes life splits your paths in the desert so that u can meet again in the meadows.
EmptyPromises Posted July 18, 2009 Posted July 18, 2009 islandgirl -- i love all your posts! im readinig all them and applying them to my situation. you are awesome at this stuff! you should write a book or something haha
Author thebigrabbit14 Posted July 18, 2009 Author Posted July 18, 2009 yea the dignity thing is serious i was never like this i think im just too scared to really loose her i know i pushed her away but i got this in an instand message on aim saying ill talk to you when im ready and then she blocked me again so idk im living my life going about my work day playing hockey everyday with the kids trying to go out and meeting new ppl but at the end when its about 10 o clock i feel out of control and need to talk to her and when i send one text it becomes like 20 cause she doesnt respond, im getting a bit scared of myself i started to do walking even though I HATE WALKING OR RUNNING just to keep myself occupied at night and im up behind a computer all night anyway when do you guys think she will contact me? this is just for fun even though i made this breakup so horrible from a 2 week space thing for finals has turned into a blackmailing guilt hating stalker relationship. she knows im impatient and its impossible for me to stop contacting her but ive turned off my personal phone and will only turn it on once in the morning and then off. so im thinking a couple days a few friends are saying a week and some say shes going to punish me for guilting her and stressing her out and make it 2 weeks? im seriously not waiting 2 weeks im living my life and hoping to meet somebody just to get my mind off her but if she does contact me and want to get together and get back to me im really going to have to contemplate i dont want her doing this again or using me in any way
Author thebigrabbit14 Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 its uh been a while she changed her number i got tied up with some band stuff etc i dont even bother anymore i had a couple dates that where meh you know busy with work and the other day well i emailed her to tell her if she wanted her clothes back she said i could toss them so i asked her the bunnys where doing and well i figured u know i wouldnt get an email back ever since all she did was ignore me and i got this today I feel bad about what's happened, but what you were doing to me was unacceptable and I couldn't have it. Honestly. But I haven't forgotten the good times, I get sad when I think about them. But clearly, I've been trying to move on, and I'm sure you're doing the same. Probably won't e-mail you or talk to you again for a little while. Happy early birthday in advanced, i'm going to be away when it happens. Blossom is good. Leo bites everything, as per usual. They're both fat, obviously. Don't reply to this. If you do, you're probably not going to get a response, and if you start non-stop harassing me again, then things won't be so great. sorry. and I know you were that "blehhh" screenname. i don't know how you knew about the accident, but I'm good. Bye. Jenn
Author thebigrabbit14 Posted July 20, 2010 Author Posted July 20, 2010 So anyways. I havent stopped back on this forum because after my last reply well we had no more contact. She blocked me etc. Anyways last month i got unblocked on fb. Didnt really care. Last week she tried to add me so i accepted. I mean i still think of her a lot. Even though ive been with a crap load of other girls. I still dont care for anyone else really. Anyways shes in a relationship obviously. I send her a hello message on saturday. She replied etc convo gets stalle it ends. She hides that she is in a relationship after that. I talk to her today on fb chat. She was all asking questions etc. Saying how she liked my short hair the best, things never change and other blah blah then she had to go. Anyways she put back her relationship status on facebook after that. I do still have feelings for her but idk what her intentions are? I cant be friends with someone i have strong feelings for. Why would she add me and want to talk to me?
jond77 Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Living together for 2.5 years car payments, her part of rent/bills on ocasion,ect... Oh yea.. I was a dumbass! I know that feeling....
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