mortensorchid Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I am afraid of so many things it's not even funny. I fear getting back into the game, fearing I will meet nothing but losers and someone who will hurt me like they all have in the past. People tell me that I'm beautiful and they always ask me why I don't have a boyfriend. Well, honestly, no one's interested and I'm not interested in them. I take out my frustrations in partying, never ending social life, and solo adventures. And, unfortunately for me, I love someone. But I won't tell him. I'm not crazy. He's so good, so kind, and he's got that certain something about him, that little wicked gleam in his eyes that women cannot resist. He won't love me back, because he's a playboy but I love him anyway. I cry sometimes, thinking that I love him so much and he doesn't know it. Someone said he's a little dim about things like that, but I won't tell him. What good will that do? Risk rejection? Risk making a fool out of myself? I try to do things, I try to keep myself occupied, but he lingers in every thought. I hate myself.
lilly83 Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I know its hard and it may not seem like it now but you will get through this. It is something a lot of people go through in their life but everyone gets over it in one way or another. Have you had problems in the past that have made you feel like this? Do you know what makes you feel like this? Have you considered speaking to someone professional? I have been through this myself and I found that by talking to someone professional about my problems and having some single time really helped me get my confidence back. I just had fun with my friends, got some hobbies, kept my self busy and got help with my problems and then just out of no where, when I least expected it my confidence come back. Some times I still lack it and worry but that is only natural. A secret for you - Everyone is scared of rejection! The only way to deal with it is to get your self out there! I know it will seem hard but you can do it. The more you practice it the easier you become and also if you do not ask this guy then you will never know how he feels and you could miss out on the chance to have a fantastic time with him. Is he a friend? Do you have his contact details? If so just send him a nice but casual message. Ask how he is and if he has much planned for the week. If he says not a lot then take that as an opening to ask him if he would like to do something, go for a meal or a drink or catch a movie. That way it sounds casual but you are still going out on a date. Just what ever you do, do not confess how you really feel about him for a long time because you will scare him off. If he rejects you, dont take it personally as it is nothing against you, take it is a learning curve, be strong and think well its his loss and that you can do better! Shake it off and move on to the nxt person. Also the other thing is it sounds like you are trying hard to find a guy. Guys can pick up on this and it scares them off, makes them think that you are desperate. Stop trying so hard, have some fun with your friends, get some hobbies, keep your self busy and when the time is right and you least expect it someone will come along.
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