adamt Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I've always been someone who needs atleast 7 hours sleep. At the moment i'm going to sleep about 12:30 and waking up most mornings at about 5:30am. I've been going to the gym to help make me more tired and take my mind off things but i just don't seem to be getting tired during the day because of less sleep. I wake up early and my brain seems to be ticking over straight away. When in midweek i wake up early but not depressed just have the feeling of frustration wishing it could all be sorted out and get back to normal. Although I realise we are unlikely to get back together. Weekend mornings i feel a bit more down as we would be with each other at weekends and now the mornings will drag. Sometimes it feels like groundhog day that i keep waking up this early during the week. I'm contemplating going to the local pool at 6:30am when i wake up early on a work day. i am sure the light summer mornings are contributing too but i've never had problems with sleeping. Does anyone else have a similar problems?
NopeNah Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Yes. Been that way since the breakup. I do get better sleep on most weekends, thanks to my "bad habits". During the week, sometimes I wake up every hour on the hour. It's crazy and very frustrating. Luckily it doesn't affect my work and I don't feel tired throughout the day. I've been dealing with 4-5hrs a night for the past 3+ months or so. Kinda nice having the extra time to work on some things that were put on hold when I was with her.
stablesong Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I found that I lost all my sleep, appetite, interest, etc. whilst I was still with her and I could feel the relationship disintegrating, desperately trying to save it. Ever since I found out the truth, we broke it off and instigated no contact, my sleep's been okay. I guess it was the worry that messed me up. Now things are set in stone, it's easier to deal with. Do you have any closure/unfinished or unanswered questions?
Author adamt Posted July 8, 2009 Author Posted July 8, 2009 I think i have closure as i'm not particularly wanting to speak to her. Although during the shock of the break up in the first 2 weeks my head was all over the place. Now i can think clearer and if there comes a time when we do talk i know what to say about the relationship and where it may have gone wrong. her not contacting me tells me she has moved on. She is head strong and once she decides on something she sticks to it. On the plus side, just weighed myself and i have lost about 7lbs in about 4 weeks from going to the gym and eating healthy. I've had to buy myself new jeans. Managed to get the same pair and gone from a 36 waist(was stuck between 34/36) to a 32 waist. makes me feel good. i can tell i have lost fat in my upper body.
asuman Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I've always been someone who needs atleast 7 hours sleep. At the moment i'm going to sleep about 12:30 and waking up most mornings at about 5:30am. I've been going to the gym to help make me more tired and take my mind off things but i just don't seem to be getting tired during the day because of less sleep. I wake up early and my brain seems to be ticking over straight away. When in midweek i wake up early but not depressed just have the feeling of frustration wishing it could all be sorted out and get back to normal. Although I realise we are unlikely to get back together. Weekend mornings i feel a bit more down as we would be with each other at weekends and now the mornings will drag. Sometimes it feels like groundhog day that i keep waking up this early during the week. I'm contemplating going to the local pool at 6:30am when i wake up early on a work day. i am sure the light summer mornings are contributing too but i've never had problems with sleeping. Does anyone else have a similar problems? Yes. I slept like crap during the worst of my anxiety in my situation. I simply took advantage of it by going for morning runs, which I never used to do. I'm in the best physical shape I've been in for years thanks to this whole situation.
Author adamt Posted July 8, 2009 Author Posted July 8, 2009 Yes. I slept like crap during the worst of my anxiety in my situation. I simply took advantage of it by going for morning runs, which I never used to do. I'm in the best physical shape I've been in for years thanks to this whole situation. i think i will start going for an early morning swim if it carries on like this. the gym is only 5 minutes walk away.
asuman Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 i think i will start going for an early morning swim if it carries on like this. the gym is only 5 minutes walk away. May as well pull something positive out of the negative you're going through!
Author adamt Posted July 8, 2009 Author Posted July 8, 2009 One of my mates went through a break up 12 months ago. it was very messy. luckily mine wasnt. He hit the pool every morning for a few months and lost about 24lbs. doesnt look the same person. i remember me and the ex talking to him about it all..funny how its now my turn. such is life
Giha Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I've been there. When she first broke up with me, it took me about 2 hours just to fall asleep, and when I did fall asleep, it was for poor 4 hours tops. Waking up was just as bad, I felt so empty and my heart just bumped straight away. Now I sleep better, although I still feel bad when I wake up. I guess that's progress, too. Also, after the breakup I lost my appetite COMPLETELY. On the first day alone I didn't eat for about 35 hours (seriously), and after a small meal I didn't eat for about the same time again. Eventualy I forced myself to eat better, but I still have no appetite what-so-ever (at least I long like 10kg over a month, huh?). I also lost interest at many things including my hobbies. I didn't touch my guitar for about a week and a half, when I usually play 1~2 hours a day. So the point of all this is that it is only temporary, its a common phase. I'm very happy to see that you have been keeping yourself busy, though. It's the best thing to do at times like these. Best of luck, stay strong.
Taucher Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Oh yes. When she first left, I too did not really eat anything apart from toast for about 4 days. Also, I kept waking up every hour and then waking up at, like, 5AM. Now, nearly two months in, my appetite has returned to normal. My sleeping, however, is still not great (although not as bad as it was). I just cannot get to sleep at night. I usually fall asleep at about 2 -3 AM. I then wake up at about 5 and go to sleep until my alarm at 8. I am living on about 5 hours sleep at night (more at weekends). Also, I have started doing lots of things to excess. I ride my bike every day, go swimming most days and I am smoking (gave up 2 years ago) and drinking too much. However, I am also eating really really healthily. Basically. I have gone a little bit mental. But I am just going with it.
redmelon Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Trying to function on such little sleep can adversely effect many things, especially your mental state. I can't express enough how important it is to get a good night's sleep consistently. Have you considered trying a natural sleep aid (valerian root) or melatonin, or perhaps going to a doctor and getting a prescription sleep aid? I think trying one of these things may help you get back to a normal sleep pattern. That alone will make a huge difference for you, I bet. Good luck.
Soul Bear Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 I went out for an Indian and 4 pints lastnight and I slept like a baby for the first time in ages. Remedy?!
asuman Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 I went out for an Indian and 4 pints lastnight and I slept like a baby for the first time in ages. Remedy?! What was her name? (The Indian)
Author adamt Posted July 9, 2009 Author Posted July 9, 2009 I'm going out with friends on saturday for a big drink and a curry. Hopefully i will sleep well too.
evaG Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 Don't worry!!! I'm going through the same thing too. Usually I have the hardest time dragging myself out of bed, and now I wake up at around 5:00am. I can't offer any advice, but we'll get through this together.
D-Lish Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 Sleep is pretty important! Anxiety can really mess up your sleeping patterns- your body and mind are in a heightened state of stress. I've had anxiety my whole life- sleeping has always been an issue for me. I toss and turn, wake up every couple of hours... I'm lucky if I het 3.5 hours solid sleep a night. I resorted to taking prescribed sleeping meds. Now I am able to get up to 6 hours.
Giha Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 Sleep is pretty important! Anxiety can really mess up your sleeping patterns- your body and mind are in a heightened state of stress. I've had anxiety my whole life- sleeping has always been an issue for me. I toss and turn, wake up every couple of hours... I'm lucky if I het 3.5 hours solid sleep a night. I resorted to taking prescribed sleeping meds. Now I am able to get up to 6 hours. I hear ya I've had anxieties all my life. It got in my way too many times, also with my sleep. It's a pain in the ass.
citizen67 Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 after my breakup I would wake up super early and not be able to go back to sleep. It's a sign of depression. It was awful b/c I was used to getting a full 8 hours at least every night, and I found myself depressed and exhausted. These are my suggestions: 1- Don't resist - When you wake up, get up and go do something physically demanding. For me it was running. Phenomenal way to start the day, helps with the depression, and damn my legs look fine! 2- Clear your mind - meditate by focusing solely on your breath. This will calm you and you may go back to sleep. 3-Distract yourself- Keep a novel by your bed and when you wake up, just read for a while. This may put you back to sleep
joseffrost Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 I know exactly what you're going through. I've always been an early riser (in fact, that really annoyed the ex...) but after the breakup I literally didn't get more than 2 hours a night for a week, and now a month later I am still waking up around 4:30am every day. Regrettably I resorted to drinking vast amounts of red wine at night to make me tired, but that only made me more likely to start checking facebook or reach for my phone. I had the same appetite issues too - I guess when the heart is broken, the food can't push past it into the stomach. Just remember (and I'm telling MYSELF this as much as I'm telling you) that it will get better in time.
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