random5292 Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 so i met this girl about 2 years ago. i met my ex around 1 year ago. so we dated had a good time, then broke up. from what she told me, she was over me about 2 weeks after, but she really was not over me at all. about a month and a half after, i started really liking one of her best friends, and she really likes me back. the girl i like now is afraid of telling my ex, because she does not want to lose her. so we are stuck like practically being friends with benefits and we dont know if or when my ex will ever get over me, so we are stuck here. so i dont know what to do. i love this girl, but i dont want to split up any friendship because of me. ill hate myself forever for that. so please help me!
lizzy_09 Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 so i met this girl about 2 years ago. i met my ex around 1 year ago. How many days/months/years has passed when you broke off with your ex?
lilly83 Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 If this girl is a true friend and really cares about her friend then she would know that it is wrong to go out with you/be more than friends. It is never a wise move to go out with your friends ex as it makes things complicated and it is something that you do not do out of respect. I know it is hard but you need to move on from this girl and stop spending time with her as it is going to make things complicated and it will end up ruining a relationship. Yes you can still have some contact with this girl known and then and meet up occassionaly but do not do it until you are over her.
dreamergrl Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I'm confused... is the ex's friend the girl you met 2 years ago?
Author random5292 Posted July 8, 2009 Author Posted July 8, 2009 How many days/months/years has passed when you broke off with your ex? it has been a little over one month since we broke up.
Author random5292 Posted July 8, 2009 Author Posted July 8, 2009 I'm confused... is the ex's friend the girl you met 2 years ago? yes i met the ex's friend before i met the now ex
Els Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I think a more pertinent question would be where do you live? Is it in a culture where such things are accepted, or in a culture such as the US where it is not? What would you do if a friend of yours got together with your ex? Therein lies the answer.
evaG Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Don't see the friend for another two months. Explain that you want to give your ex two months to recover before you do anything that could harm either one of them. Even if your ex is over you, having a best friend date an ex is a huge betrayal that most girls will not tolerate. If the friend really likes you, she'll wait out of respect and the possibility that this could work out for everyone.
Stark Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Depends upon your history and how your ex feels about you. I know myself and know that, if any friend of mine even contemplates the idea of seeing a girl I was very serious with and had really strong feelings for would get a smack in the face from me. I don't mind friends seeing my exs so long as I didn't have strong feelings for them, even if I got over them there is always a small part thats always going to care about someone you were really into. I gather thats what most people will think too.
Author random5292 Posted July 9, 2009 Author Posted July 9, 2009 Don't see the friend for another two months. Explain that you want to give your ex two months to recover before you do anything that could harm either one of them. Even if your ex is over you, having a best friend date an ex is a huge betrayal that most girls will not tolerate. If the friend really likes you, she'll wait out of respect and the possibility that this could work out for everyone. ha actually i told her almost that exact thing last night. and so far, so good. i told her we can not do any relationship-y things at all. so im hoping, in a few months, everything will change for the better. thanks all you guys!
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