BellaBee Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I posted awhile ago about this guy i went out with only twice, he ended it, and I could not get him out of my head. Well, I'm back 3 months after he ended it and I still can not get this man out of my head no matter what I do. I have not seen or spoken to him in 3 months. I am a normal, healthy, person...what is wrong with me? Why can't I get him out of my head when I barely knew him? What do i do?
aloneanddepressed Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 well, i think its more like you tend to always want something way more when you can't have it.
mortensorchid Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I've been there. You're depressed because you can't think about anything else. The only cure is to get busy doing other things. Not necessarily having to do with dating others, but find other things to do with your time. Who knows? Maybe you'll discover you're a great painter or a wonderful athlete or have a cause that you never knew you were passionate about. You never know. You can only try, try again until you get things right in life.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 What have you been doing this past 3 months? I'm pretty sure you've been going about your daily routines, and only occasionally thinking about the guy? You can only have severe depression if you can't function properly pining over this guy. But you're still able to go out, be yourself, work, and/ or socialize, then the only thing you really need to completely get over the guy is date someone else to replace him. Maybe the thought of him renders you unable to seek out other relationships because you feel that he's the only one you want to date. Unless you can change your mindset to say " I can do better" you will never move on from him. It's normal to think about past dates that don't work out, but it's also very easy to get over them if you are positive about yourself and about accepting rejection at face value. Most people handle it by having been rejected several times, and they become stronger and cry less over heartbreaks. The important is to work on yourself. If you can change your mindset to seek out positivity from the things around you as opposed to " I can't stop thinking about him", " why did he disappear", etc, then you can truly move on to someone better and to accepting that you are a good catch.
lilly83 Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 This is something everyone has to go through and it is a part of growing up and learning in your life. There is only one thing you can do to get over him and that is get your self back out there. Get back on the market and date over guys. There will be someone else, someone who is better for you. It may not seem like it but you will. You just need to get it in to your head that he was not meant to be and that is why you are not together. Go out with your friends, have fun, get some hobbies, keep your self busy and when the time is right and you least expect it someone else will come along and sweep you off your feet. Dating is about having fun, new experiences and learning so get out there and have some fun girl.
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