heatherb16 Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 It's been 4 days NC with my ex. I've typed up something that I was going to send him through myspace, but I don't know if I should or not. It is basically to explain that I'm sorry for not always being there and for taking him for granted. I feel like I should send this now and not later, because if I send it later, when we are trying to build a friendship than it will bring up emotions that shouldn't be brought up. What do you think? I'm becoming challenged, and I don't like it.
hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 r u trying to get back together if so send it if not then dont really i say dont either way i mean what is the pt of NC when u trying to make contact???
boogieboy Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 If you broke up with him, you cant be friends with him when emotions can be brought up. The only thing you should be contacting him with is "i want to try again". Thats all he would want to hear from you. Otherwise leave him alone. if he broke up with you, theres nothing you can say to convince him of anything. You have to keep NC and assume he wont contact you. Maybe he will, but NC isnt to get back with him, its to heal yourself. Either way, dont contact him.
Author heatherb16 Posted July 7, 2009 Author Posted July 7, 2009 I broke NC. I sent the message. After sending it to one of my best friends, she helped me out with it a little, and sent it back to me. She told me that I should send it. I'm hoping I wont regret this, even though I did break NC. Sometimes I feel like I need to put myself out there, even if I think it may end up worse. I guess nothing worse can happen now, though.
Exit Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 I've written to my ex plenty of times. It's the one form of communication that currently remains open between us. I personally don't see anything wrong with it as long as it's not begging, pleading, or harassing. It allows them the most freedom, rather than calling them or texting them, they can check their email/messages at their leisure and decide if they even want to read it or not. NC should be used for moving on when you want to move on. If you have things you need to say, then say it. I don't think you'll regret sending it as long as it's nothing too crazy. Every time I write to my ex I feel a huge weight lifted off my chest because it helps me to say things to her. I'd probably be in a corner crying if I had been doing NC this whole time.
Thomas X Forever Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Every time I write to my ex I feel a huge weight lifted off my chest because it helps me to say things to her. I'd probably be in a corner crying if I had been doing NC this whole time. Whether you like it or not, ultimately you will be 100% NC. So you are just delaying the inevitable, by doing what you're doing. You're alleviating a lot of pressure by doing what you're doing, and it's stopping you from healing totally. So one day when you are full NC, you will have to face what you have been relieved of now. Be ready. It's gonna hit you hard.
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