brokenglass Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 I suffered through it for 7 months. I kept trying to convince myself I could deal with it. I could deal with seeing the lewd comments left by other dirtbags and losers on her Facebook. I could deal with her constantly updating her status with something that would make me react. I was above that, I was a better person than that. Well I finally had enough today. A few months back, during lunch with our son, she informed me she was taking a trip to Europe to spend a week with a man she had met over her video game console online. He had actually sent her money for her own console shortly after her and I split up. To make a long story short, she decided against it because of how dumb an idea it was. What she didn't know that I had noticed was that she had added to her #1 spot another man on MySpace I hadn't seen before. I soon found out, he's another one of her online console friends. A few days later, she explains shes not going to Europe, shes going to another state in the country "see a friend of ours." I just looked away and laughed about it, knowing she was deliberately lying to my face/hiding information (I realize its none of my business, but anyone that knows our situation, she pulled this with yet ANOTHER person she met on a video game console while we were together. She was going to "move to Florida to find herself" when in reality it was to screw this loser she had met playing video games). Well she got back from her little trip over the weekend. I was hoping she'd be nice enough to hide any photos she'd upload from me, considering we agreed to be friends and not throw anything in eachothers faces. But no, instead I sign into my Facebook today and am greeted with some intimate pictures of her and this disgusting *****head she was screwing while on vacation. I can't deal with it anymore. I just can't. I guess I'm weak. I guess I can't handle it and perhaps I'm not over her. Maybe I am less of a "man" for not being able to handle it, or maybe there's something wrong with me. Either way, her and I are hardly "friends" and I cannot handle it anymore. I am trying SO hard to let go and get over her. Someone please tell me that I'm not weak, that I'm strong for doing this. I feel as if I have failed.
brock9911 Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 no your deff. not weak. shes stringing you along cuz she knows its eating away at you. maybe you can be friends in the far future, but for now you need to ignore her so you can find yourself. let her live a life hooking up with random video game losers and than when she looks in the mirror im sure she wont feel so good about herself. you know you did your best and it wasnt enough so its time for you to move on and heal your own way. if deleting her out of your life helps you, than thats the strongest thing you could have done. and you feel the way you do cuz you still feel for her. seeing those pictures will only eat you away, thats y its best to just not even see them. good luck
adamt Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Well done on removing the ex. every dumpee should do it until they are over them. i did it last week and it has made a difference
NopeNah Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Glad that you finally removed her. It took me 7 years to be "friends" with my ex-wife. In those 7 years she's been married twice and now has a new baby with her current husband. We by no means have casual chats on the phone,hangout or anything like that. But, we are now on speaking terms atleast. I have zero feelings for her anymore, beyond her being the mother of our daughter of course. Once your at that point it doesn't matter what they do in their personal lives. Just stay strong for your son and be a possitive role model. They(kids) are like sponges and will form their own opinions about each parent.
Road To Joy Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 she was taking a trip to Europe to spend a week with a man she had met over her video game console online. Lmao! How pathetic! You should be proud of yourself for not being with her anymore. This woman needs some growing up to do. It's good had enough. Since you have a kid, you'll have to keep in contact, I know that. But try to minimize contact as much as possible. You don't need to hang out, do you? No phone calls, no social networking sites, nothing. You tried, you were mature, and you are the bigger one in this situation. Now take the big step to finally move on and let go. We're all proud of you.
dxb Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Finally had enough - deleted her off my social networks Somebody get this man a whiskey and a medal, because he's done the most important thing you can ever do when it comes to getting over someone. Instead of moping in pain, he's done something positive and started the next chapter. brokenglass, you've done the exact right thing. If you keep an ex on your social networks, you're just allowing yourself peeks into their life and you'll definitely see things you won't want to. Essentially, if they're still on your facebook, you're breaking NC. To get through this kind of thing you need to be a rock and you need to take charge. The best thing you can do is block and delete your ex off your network. Then block and delete the mutual friends you have that are more the ex's friends - that way, they can't report to the ex on what you're doing. Then contact all your friends who were your friends first and ask them to do the same - this way you can message them and your ex won't be able to see anything. Then delete every single photo you have in your albums that are of her or the both of you, and then go through all the photos of you together posted by other people and detag yourself. And then congratulations - you've fully cut the ex out of your life. And if they're out of your life, they can't hurt you any more than they already have.
seibert253 Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 As far as you're concerned, she fell off the face of the earth.
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