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Since March I have been hanging out with this guy about once a week in the midst of other friends. Around that time I found out he liked me but did not do anything about it because i was with someone else. In June I broke up with my boyfriend and at that time we started seeing each other. (Knowing that we liked each other since March). We see each other once a week or so and we get along REALLY well and have good sex. He tells his friends that I am amazing and speaks very highly of me.

 

THe problem is;

A) I make all the plans

B) He is never affectionate with me

C) Is very distant with me in the morning after a night of hanging out (Besides one time)

D) Sometimes he is distant on the phone ( I do understand that men are like that and I am not a big phone person either)

E) Never compliments me.

 

He does make a point to call me here and there through out the week and he always does make time for me when I do bring up sending time with one another.

 

So, what does this all mean? Should I be the one to be affectionate first? Should I be concerned about any of these issues?

Some one help me please...should I just give up?

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If he's distant, chances are he's not as into you as you are him. Maybe he's not seeking a serious relationship. Maybe he's seeing other girls.

 

Why not just ask him where the two of you stand?

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I would be a little concerned about the situation because if he claims to like u as much as he does he's not making a big effort to show you and being distant is usually a bad sign but maybe he's just self concious, either way you need to bring up the issue to him and talk about it see whats going on in his head otherwise your just gonna keep guessing and wondering.

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Hard to say, frankly.

 

You say he's not affectionate. Do you mean in public, or in private, or both? Personally, I'm not a big fan of public displays of affection. Holding hands, sure, but beyond that, I think it's best behind closed doors.

 

And, like a lot of men, I'm not big on yakking on the phone. For me it's purely a utilitarian device to exchange information. Most of my phone calls last less than 3 minutes.

 

Peanut is right. Just bring it up, ask him directly and let the chips fall where they may.

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hey there,

He is not affectionate in public or behind closed doors. The phone thing I do understand and is not the main issue. Also we've only hung out about 4-5 times now...does this make any difference? Also, there is NO affection after sex either.

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No affection behind closed doors or after sex? Not good. Talk to him about the no affection thing. Forget the phone stuff even you said its not that important. Since you two are still very much in the beginning stages of things, it'd be good to nip this one in the bud before you end up in a serious relationship with someone who is not right for you.

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