butcher's hook Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I updated earlier today that he called and that he explained he had mistaken another one of my friends for me (result of the fact that friend and I do look alike and that her bikini did look black in the picture). I believe him. . Really? In your OP you said this: He needs a closer look at the girl in the black bikini, a friend of mine, blond and bodacious, who cannot be confused for me. So which is it does she look like you or have just decided to eat up his lame explanation?
Author rachel m Posted July 8, 2009 Author Posted July 8, 2009 Really? In your OP you said this: He needs a closer look at the girl in the black bikini, a friend of mine, blond and bodacious, who cannot be confused for me. So which is it does she look like you or have just decided to eat up his lame explanation? While I thought he was mistaking me for friend A, blond and bodacious, he mistook me for another friend, who has been sporting a dark blue bikini who does look like me. He thought her bikini was black. My friends and I have analyzed the pic and can see how he could have made the mistake.
Jersey Shortie Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 I read your whole thread, and still felt like you were upset over something very small. I hate having my words blown out of proportion, so I feel for your guy. In any case, it sounds like you've let him out of the doghouse. Good for both of you. You know, just because you don't agree with her feelings or opinion doesn't mean you have to resort to calling her "insecure'. It sometimes seems like thats something guys do. And the irnoy is that part of your response above is born out of your own insecurity.
kizik Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 You know, just because you don't agree with her feelings or opinion doesn't mean you have to resort to calling her "insecure'. It sometimes seems like thats something guys do. I said she seemed incredibly insecure. Look, if you are to get verrry upset about a guy going, "She's hot," then you don't understand guys. We're visual creatures and he was just expressing that. It wasn't particularly tactful, but maybe he felt comfortable enough around the OP to say that. You know, like she wouldn't jump down his throat. But now, since she has, he's backpedaling and pretending like he thought the girl in the photo was the OP (Rachel). Anyway, the OP says she's over it, so whatever. And the irnoy is that part of your response above is born out of your own insecurity. Are you trying to ascribe projection to me? Of course I have insecurities, but those aren't coming into play here. I'm giving you the male point of view, that his comment was totally innocuous and that it's time to say, "I forgive you, honey" and continue on with a happy relationship.
c-riouz Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 His comment was classless and I can't believe you bought his ridiculous excuse. He mistook someone for someone else....rrrrrright. He sounds like the guy who, when caught cheating, will say that he tripped and his penis got stuck accidentally in the naked chick's vagina.
Jersey Shortie Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 I said she seemed incredibly insecure. Look, if you are to get verrry upset about a guy going, "She's hot," then you don't understand guys. We're visual creatures and he was just expressing that. It wasn't particularly tactful, but maybe he felt comfortable enough around the OP to say that. You know, like she wouldn't jump down his throat. If you as a guy, can't understand why a woman would get up set about such a comment, then *you* don't understand women. Really so what if men are "visual", how is that a justification for crappy behavior? Own up to your own actions dude. Don't toss out the insecure card when your comments are just as much about your own personal insecurities.
Author rachel m Posted July 9, 2009 Author Posted July 9, 2009 To all the "smooth operator" naysayers, listen, I expected as much from what little I know of this place. Please realize your opinion is your own. You aren't in this relationship and you haven't seen the picture. I refuse to be bullied by your insinuations because, unlike what Kizik believes, I am not that insecure. Kizik, I believe there's a difference between saying "she's hot" and "I need a closer look at the girl in the black bikini". There's also a difference between saying it while two people are hanging out together and making the comment by email.
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