brock9911 Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 i went a whole week without contact after a whole mess of a confrontation with my ex. the whole 4th of july weekend was a blast. lots of partying and lots of explosives. now that all that is said and done with im left feeling pretty lonely and empty. today is my bday and i get another call from my ex saying happy birthday. she than goes on to say she hopes i have a very special bday and someone special to spend it with. now am i supposed to take that as a stab or an insult. whats the point of calling and saying that. is she trying to make me feel more down and lonely and rub it in my face. she insists on calling from time to time thinking that we're ok and everything is going to go back to the way things were.... i honestly have no clue what the hell i want anymore, but its deffinitly not what im feeling right now
sedgwick Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Why would you answer her calls in the first place? Sounds like talking to her only hurts you. You definitely need to block that number!
Author brock9911 Posted July 7, 2009 Author Posted July 7, 2009 I didnt answer, she left me a voicemail. i guess im hesitant to block her # cuz its the last link to us. i should and i know its for the best, im just stubborn
bella16 Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Happy Birthday!!! I have already posted to your situation in your other thread, and I will tell you this... she is trying to make you feel guilty that you are not spending your bday with her. Please just ignore it all and keep moving and enjoy YOUR day! She was the one who hurt you and did wrong. Now she is trying to use your bday as an excuse to contact you AGAIN... and use it as a tactic to get you to respond to her. Have a wonderful Birthday and forget about those who've hurt you ever in your life! You can do so much better!
Author brock9911 Posted July 7, 2009 Author Posted July 7, 2009 y thank you. yeah i know its just that once you start feeling better about things, than shes gotta contact me and make me feel like crap again. stupid mind games never end
Road To Joy Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 once you start feeling better about things, than shes gotta contact me and make me feel like crap again. stupid mind games never end This is exactly what my ex did. I hated it. It only made me feel worst. I blocked every connection I had to her (VERY hard, but like everything else, it gets easier), I even asked her friends and family not to speak to me for at least a year. I told them it was nothing personal, I just needed to get over her. I'm hoping by then I'll be done with everything, and she'll just be a sweet memory. But if that's not the case, I'll simply give myself more time. What's the rush? I suggest you to do the same. By the way, I see we're both Cancers! Happy birthday. Is your ex by any chance a Gemini? 'Cause if so, then we know what the problem was here, lol. **No offense to any Geminis here on LS.
Author brock9911 Posted July 8, 2009 Author Posted July 8, 2009 HAHA nah shes actually a leo. if there was a sign for psycho than that would be her though
Road To Joy Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 if there was a sign for psycho than that would be her though We should make one up for them!
broken_promises Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 First, my ex is a Gemini and is, indeed, one of the most frustrating mixed message givers in the WORLD. So, yeah... Geminis suck. (I'm a Scorpio, though... and we are pretty much the psychos of the Zodiac.) Brock - the same thing happened to me. I found NC to be really easy/liberating at first and had so much fun with a bunch of parties, outings, getting my new apartment set up with friends, etc. And then once that was over, I got smacked with a whole bunch of lonely. And so then I started obsessing, replied to my ex's one email, and then started looking at his crush's Facebook page, blah blah blah. I completely know what you mean and it puts you in the vulnerable place where anything the ex does/says holds even more power. I really hate how fleeting the success of NC can be with one contact from the ex. And yes, I also understand about breaking the last tie with someone. For me, it is always deleting them from my email/phone that is the hardest. Keep posting to get through the loneliness. Sorry we are all having to go through this.
Road To Joy Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 First, my ex is a Gemini and is, indeed, one of the most frustrating mixed message givers in the WORLD. So, yeah... Geminis suck. (I'm a Scorpio, though... and we are pretty much the psychos of the Zodiac.) They really are mixed message givers. The thing about Geminis is that they get bored of people easily, though. And they're not the most sympathetic people in the world. On top of that, they tend to be two-faced. Too bad I wasn't into Zodiac signs when I first met her Oh and Scorpios aren't bad. In fact, we're both water signs which means we can relate (we're both said to be sensitive and jealous ). Though my ex cheated on me with a Scorpio so I feel a teeny bit of resentment towards them. I know I shouldn't (it wasn't his fault anyways), and it's nothing personal. It'll go away with time... at least I hope. Lol... I sound like a freak!
Giha Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 They really are mixed message givers. The thing about Geminis is that they get bored of people easily, though. And they're not the most sympathetic people in the world. On top of that, they tend to be two-faced. Too bad I wasn't into Zodiac signs when I first met her Oh and Scorpios aren't bad. In fact, we're both water signs which means we can relate (we're both said to be sensitive and jealous ). Though my ex cheated on me with a Scorpio so I feel a teeny bit of resentment towards them. I know I shouldn't (it wasn't his fault anyways), and it's nothing personal. It'll go away with time... at least I hope. Lol... I sound like a freak! haha, i had no idea people take it so seriously, its kinda interesting I never paid attention to those details. I'm a Pisces, and my ex is a Scorpio Was that a good combination (zodiac-wise, I mean ) And what's the description for Pisces? is it any good? lol
Road To Joy Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 haha, i had no idea people take it so seriously, its kinda interesting I never paid attention to those details. I'm a Pisces, and my ex is a Scorpio Was that a good combination (zodiac-wise, I mean ) And what's the description for Pisces? is it any good? lol From what I've read people are compatible with their own element. Scorpio and Pisces are both water signs, so yes they're compatible. Pisces are said to be sensitive and 'in their own world'. So they get hurt when reality bites them in the ass. They're kinda all dreamy and lovey dovey, yknow? Haha. Water signs are the 'sensitive' ones. But from personal experience (ones I've met), they're (Scorpios) kind of... not what people say they are. Or at least they don't appear to be at first. They're hard to read and their jealousy and possessive-ways kinda overpowers the more passionate, and sensitive side. I don't know They confuse me.
BCCA Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 You know why she said that crap about having someone to spend your b-day with? Because it wasnt going to be her, and if you said you did find some hot lady to hang out with, she would have felt a LOT less guilty. Its all about guilt dumps and self-denial. Not only should you not answer her calls, but I would think about deleting her voicemails without listening to them if theyre bothering you. She just doesnt want to admit that youre not going to be her friend since she dumped you, so shes just gonna keep trying this 'we're friends' bit until she can get over her guilt. Happy belated birthday!
Author brock9911 Posted July 8, 2009 Author Posted July 8, 2009 true and thank you. i guess not deleting her voicemails is still my way of holding on even though i should have let go a long time ago. so whats the report on a cancer. iv never been into zodiac signs but i might as well find out while the conversation is on that path
Giha Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 From what I've read people are compatible with their own element. Scorpio and Pisces are both water signs, so yes they're compatible. Pisces are said to be sensitive and 'in their own world'. So they get hurt when reality bites them in the ass. They're kinda all dreamy and lovey dovey, yknow? Haha. Water signs are the 'sensitive' ones. But from personal experience (ones I've met), they're (Scorpios) kind of... not what people say they are. Or at least they don't appear to be at first. They're hard to read and their jealousy and possessive-ways kinda overpowers the more passionate, and sensitive side. I don't know They confuse me. Haha, the thing about Pisces is quite true, although I would not describe myself as "lovey dovey", hehe
Road To Joy Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 whats the report on a cancer. We're considered the most sensitive of the Zodiac. Our bigger, more 'important' aspirations revolve around love. Some of us tend to hide our sensitivity, though. We're loving, sweet, passionate, etc etc. But on the other hand we're overemotional, jealous, and we can be moody. Basically all the pros and cons of being sensitive, lol. I would not describe myself as "lovey dovey", hehe Why not?! It's not something to be ashamed of, if that's what you mean.
Ariadne Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 goes on to say she hopes i have a very special bday and someone special to spend it with...is she trying to make me feel more down and lonely and rub it in my face. That's what they always say to be "nice" believe it or not. Hope you find someone else you can give yourself to.. (because I could care less if you do). Just check it out to stupidity people say. Happy Birthday!!!
Giha Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 We're considered the most sensitive of the Zodiac. Our bigger, more 'important' aspirations revolve around love. Some of us tend to hide our sensitivity, though. We're loving, sweet, passionate, etc etc. But on the other hand we're overemotional, jealous, and we can be moody. Basically all the pros and cons of being sensitive, lol. Why not?! It's not something to be ashamed of, if that's what you mean. idk, it just sound a bit like one of them sticky-boyfriends. Maybe I just got the wrong idea about this "lovey dovey" thing
Author brock9911 Posted July 9, 2009 Author Posted July 9, 2009 yeah. now im getting text messages telling me the gift she got me for my bday, and how she didnt want to cancel our hotel cuz her hopes were high that we would be together. please get over your self. any who, i guess that describes me. i can deff be the jealous type, and i know for a fact im very sensitive, but tjose zodiac signs are so vague cuz that can describe anyone. other wise, thank you everyone for the support, it sux tto need it, but its nice to have it.
Road To Joy Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 idk, it just sound a bit like one of them sticky-boyfriends. Maybe I just got the wrong idea about this "lovey dovey" thing Lovey dovey = loving. Aha. Come on, it's not that bad! yeah. now im getting text messages telling me the gift she got me for my bday, and how she didnt want to cancel our hotel cuz her hopes were high that we would be together. please get over your self. any who, i guess that describes me. i can deff be the jealous type, and i know for a fact im very sensitive, but tjose zodiac signs are so vague cuz that can describe anyone. other wise, thank you everyone for the support, it sux tto need it, but its nice to have it. Damn. There's a lot going on with her. You haven't spoken to her, right? I would suggest telling your friends to stop telling you about her. And block any other connections to her (phone numbers, emails, IM, social networking sites, etc). You keep getting information on her and her life, and that can't be doing you any good. She's already on your mind enough due to the whole recovery process, and having a constant reminder can't be helping. I know, I know, you're stubborn. I'm a tough cookie myself, but enough is enough. For you, I mean. Your emotions must be all over the place. Stop giving her the power to use you as a tug-a-war game. The sooner you initiate the final steps, the sooner you'll move on, and the sooner all this will be left behind in the past for you to look back on and laugh.
broken_promises Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 Yes, the Pisces-Scorpio descriptions given are very good and quite accurate. And YES to the two-faced, bored of people Gemini description!!! With Cancer, I always say there are good Cancers and bad Cancers. Good ones are the sensitive healers who are generally grounded caretakers. The bad ones are take-take-take and like to stop their feet when they don't get their way and are obsessed with money and not feeling taken advantage of. I've actually never dated a Cancer, but I have lots of friends and former employers who represent the two versions above. As for astrology, here is how I look at it... even if it isn't real, it lets me be less judgmental because when someone isn't acting like me or how I want them to, I can chalk it up to their sign because they can't change when they were born!
Author brock9911 Posted July 9, 2009 Author Posted July 9, 2009 i havent talked to her at all. shes called me and texted me a few times over the past few weeks but i refuse to answer. actually i fail, i did text her once cuz she texted me a single text that said "lake wallumpaupack" i never heard of it so i said what the f*#k is that. and thats all iv said. with the whole zodiac thing, i know i can twist any sign into making it about me. see, im stubborn, and very emotional. my anger can get the best of me, yet i can be the best friend. i work insane hours cuz im obsessed with making a lot of money, but im a fool who would lend that money to a friend in a heart beat (iv gotten burned for that a few times, i never learn). im also ver sarcastic, and a bit of a clown and i like to have fun. but when im upset or angry, i need my time or space because ill say stupid $h!t. im also extremely competetive with sports and games. i know for a fact by that i can be thrown into about 5 or 6 signs, im a born again, haha. 6 times.
Giha Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 i havent talked to her at all. shes called me and texted me a few times over the past few weeks but i refuse to answer. actually i fail, i did text her once cuz she texted me a single text that said "lake wallumpaupack" i never heard of it so i said what the f*#k is that. and thats all iv said. Good for you, man! keep NC as much as possible. Road To Joy - Then I guess I got the wrong idea. I am a loving person, when I'm a relationship I give everything I can. or at least try
musica87 Posted July 9, 2009 Posted July 9, 2009 delete her number, her messages (text or voice) and ignore her calls! this might just be her way of still keeping tabs on you, which is cruel, since she doesnt want to be with you. some people are just selfish a**holes. you'll never move on with her still lurking in the background.
Author brock9911 Posted July 9, 2009 Author Posted July 9, 2009 true, i dont know why i torture myself. i guess i hope some kind of miracle will happen and everything will be back to normal.......but we all know no miracle will stop the fact that she cheated so FML.
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