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Again I ask.... What is normal when it comes to amount of sex....

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Toodamnpragmatic Established Member

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Absent the feeling from BOTH partners that once a month was appropriate frequency, I think that in all cases it signifies a bigger problem. If the two people involved can't come to a consensus on something as important and vital as sex, then there's something else missing - communication, consideration, regard, respect, etc.

 

What I don't believe is the posters that say "We never/hardly ever have sex, but other than that our relationship is perfect". Doesn't add up...

 

Mr. Lucky

 

 

I take it there is good reason your moniker is "Mr. Lucky".....:rolleyes: Many, myself included will tell you they have good relationships, but nowhere near enough sex.....

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No amount of sex is average. When two people are happy with the amount they have, then this is enough.

 

Personally, (yes, I am saying this), two to three times a week would be too much for me. For my wife a couple of times a month is plenty...and yes that is what we have :( . I think if we had it once a week, I would be happy.

 

We have a family and children. I think this makes a difference in the amount of sex. With our schedules and the children in the house, we could never fit two or three times a week. In fact, once a week would be hard.

 

Thaddeus, based on your statistics, I just discovered that I am Japanese. :laugh:

 

LOL...I AM Japanese.....what's wrong with "once in a while"?:confused:

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I take it there is good reason your moniker is "Mr. Lucky".....:rolleyes: Many, myself included will tell you they have good relationships, but nowhere near enough sex.....

As others have said "nowhere near enough sex" means different things to different people. I was specifically adressing the example where, despite one partner's expressed interest, sex occurs only once a month or so. If both partners are healthy and able but one will only be intimate 10-12 times a year, then that partner is angry at something and sex is the arena in which that anger is being expressed...

 

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LOL...I AM Japanese.....what's wrong with "once in a while"?:confused:

 

My point is that I think the times we have sex in a year is about 37...as is "normal" for the Japanese. :D

 

I will have to denounce my American citizenship. :laugh:

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My point is that I think the times we have sex in a year is about 37...as is "normal" for the Japanese. :D

 

I will have to denounce my American citizenship. :laugh:

 

 

That's Once a week if period week is off limits..... With Japanese we are talking strictly within marriage, unfortuantely a lot goes on outside of marriage too. Let me think about that.... Any other ethnic groups to consider???? ;)

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My point is that I think the times we have sex in a year is about 37...as is "normal" for the Japanese. :D

 

I will have to denounce my American citizenship. :laugh:

 

LOL..I know what you meant...I thought it was funny :D!

 

Given the disconnect between your sex life and your ethnic background..I say you need counseling! :laugh:

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OP, there is no such thing as "normal". There are too many variables in life to make that type of statement. We usually have some form of "intimacy", 3-12 times a week. See the range here? If I'm out of town, If it's period week, if she has some event to plan for, you see, too many variables. The best time to have sex is when you can. BTW, I have slept with Japanese women and the same rules apply as with other groups. To say that Japanese women are somehow more moral, is racist.

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OP, there is no such thing as "normal". There are too many variables in life to make that type of statement. We usually have some form of "intimacy", 3-12 times a week. See the range here? If I'm out of town, If it's period week, if she has some event to plan for, you see, too many variables. The best time to have sex is when you can. BTW, I have slept with Japanese women and the same rules apply as with other groups. To say that Japanese women are somehow more moral, is racist.

 

 

More applause from me.....:) Even at 3 I'd say you are well above average.... and 12!!!! A different scale completely.;) Actually I don't think Japanese women are more moral. It is the husband who probably is less moral (more mistresses, work, culture.....).

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To say that Japanese women are somehow more moral, is racist.

 

Did someone say this here? :confused:

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Our sex life has gone from once every other month to almost every day with multiples on the weekend.

 

 

What are your expectations from your sexual encounters? Does your wife think she has to be sultry and steamy every time? Kinky? Fun? Intimate? Romantic?

 

There are all different kinds of moods that can be associated with sex, if you associate more moods you have a better chance of having sex.

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I think 2-3x/week is perfectly normal....but if your wife doesn't want to, it doesn't matter what "normal" is. Sometimes sex is like working out or going to church. You may not always be excited about doing it in the beginning, but afterwards you're always glad you did. :)

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