nsundram Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 I've been in love with this guy for 3 years. During those 3 years he was on and off with his girlfriend. In March he went to rehab and he kept calling me, he never really paid much attention to me until a few months ago. We saw each other a few times whilst he was in rehab, we got really close. We were kissing, hugging, calling each other as well. His ex was still on the scene but he had made it very clear that he no longer wanted to be with her. So in May this year, I met up with him, he told me he loved me and that he wanted to make me happy. He also told me that he didn't want his ex and that he only wanted me. I was over the moon!!! I'd waited 3 years to hear it. 2 weeks later he went back to his ex. (She doesn't know that he told me he loves me or that we had sex) I saw him after that and we both agreed that we couldn't keep it up anymore, I was so depressed and shattered and he wanted to get back with her. He told me that he had no feelings for me whatsoever! I was so hurt, I mean how can he tell me for months that he likes me and that I'm the best person in his life (I'm the only one of his friends who isn't a druggie!) and that I'm so loving, loyal and beautiful, and then says that he loves me after all this time then tells me that he has no feelings for me at all!. I am sooo heartbroken I honestly feel like dying. How could he do this to me? When I said goodbye to him all I could do was cry in his arms, and as I was walking off he said to me 'Nadia, you're a good girl', to which my reply was 'just not good enough for you eh?' I need help with this situation, my whole life feels like it's falling apart because of him. He has broken up with his ex 4 times out of 5, and one minute he loves her the next he doesn't. He is out of rehab and thinks that it's going to be different with her this time, like I haven't heard that before!. But this time is worse because he told me he loved me after all of this time, and then went back to her when he promised he wouldn't. I'm urging you all to help me get through this because I honestly feel like giving up. I did everything for that boy, I even came to see him quite a few times in rehab when he was going through a hard time. I've always been there for him and he admits it, so why did he go back to her? is it because she's 'comfy'? HELP!
gmogmo321 Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 I've been in love with this guy for 3 years. During those 3 years he was on and off with his girlfriend. In March he went to rehab and he kept calling me, he never really paid much attention to me until a few months ago. We saw each other a few times whilst he was in rehab, we got really close. We were kissing, hugging, calling each other as well. His ex was still on the scene but he had made it very clear that he no longer wanted to be with her. So in May this year, I met up with him, he told me he loved me and that he wanted to make me happy. He also told me that he didn't want his ex and that he only wanted me. I was over the moon!!! I'd waited 3 years to hear it. 2 weeks later he went back to his ex. (She doesn't know that he told me he loves me or that we had sex) I saw him after that and we both agreed that we couldn't keep it up anymore, I was so depressed and shattered and he wanted to get back with her. He told me that he had no feelings for me whatsoever! I was so hurt, I mean how can he tell me for months that he likes me and that I'm the best person in his life (I'm the only one of his friends who isn't a druggie!) and that I'm so loving, loyal and beautiful, and then says that he loves me after all this time then tells me that he has no feelings for me at all!. I am sooo heartbroken I honestly feel like dying. How could he do this to me? When I said goodbye to him all I could do was cry in his arms, and as I was walking off he said to me 'Nadia, you're a good girl', to which my reply was 'just not good enough for you eh?' I need help with this situation, my whole life feels like it's falling apart because of him. He has broken up with his ex 4 times out of 5, and one minute he loves her the next he doesn't. He is out of rehab and thinks that it's going to be different with her this time, like I haven't heard that before!. But this time is worse because he told me he loved me after all of this time, and then went back to her when he promised he wouldn't. I'm urging you all to help me get through this because I honestly feel like giving up. I did everything for that boy, I even came to see him quite a few times in rehab when he was going through a hard time. I've always been there for him and he admits it, so why did he go back to her? is it because she's 'comfy'? HELP! Technically, in a way, you're the 3rd wheel in this relationship triangle then? Were you trying to get with him while he was with his girlfriend?
Author nsundram Posted July 7, 2009 Author Posted July 7, 2009 yeah I guess so. I knew him briefly before he met her, but I didn't want to be with him then. But she doesn't know that he was seeing me. He never did anything with me when they got back together but he still saw me as friends and she never knew about that. She only found out that I was hanging around when she saw my name in the sign in book at the rehab.
gmogmo321 Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 In a sense, I hate to say this but you're a total bitch for trying to be a home wrecker in the first place. I'm caught in a middle of a situation similar where it's my girlfriend who wanted to fool around with this guy who already has girlfriend. I feel like my ex is a bitch for doing that, but who am I to call you a bitch though, I don't even have the guts to move forward... I can't even give you an advice.
Author nsundram Posted July 7, 2009 Author Posted July 7, 2009 ouch, that helps. I never tried to break them up. She didn't even know about me! I was there for him as a friend, I didn't want to be the reason for their 5 times breakup and I never was!
gmogmo321 Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 ouch, that helps. I never tried to break them up. She didn't even know about me! I was there for him as a friend, I didn't want to be the reason for their 5 times breakup and I never was! Do you really think that you weren't a cause? Though you might've not tried to break them up directly, but if you really look deep down, you opened your arms up to him when they weren't getting along.
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