NopeNah Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Not that there's anything at all wrong with that, AT ALL! I wish you all the fastest recovery's possible, I really do. With that said....What's some positive things you've changed about yourself during this time? Weightloss/complete change of apearance,attitude towards friends/family/strangers,ect.. What have you done during this rough time to make yourself a better person? Not for your EX to want you back or to win them back...but, for YOURSELF! The only person that really matters! Lovers come and go..you are who you are no matter who you're with! I myself have opened up to people in a way I never thought I would..even on here. Made tons of new friends male and female...mostly female. Dropped about 30lbs and have muscles I can see in the first time of my life. "Six pack's" starting to show. Back to doing my passion for work..moneys not completley there but, I do alright. Started writing music(always a passion of mine). And spending some great time with my family. Whom I've ignored for the better part of 15 years. So.. What are you using this time for? I hope it's for YOURSELF! I know I waisted a good two months pining over my ex and that was a big mistake! So Do not do that please...they're not worth it.
brock9911 Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 well i have a bad habit of spending money...and thats what iv done haha. iv gotten tattoos, gone out to bars and parties meeting new people. spending more time at the gym and playing handball and hockey. keeping my mind free and letting the stress out. deffinitly spending more time with the family and surrounding myself with friends. i also dont seem to be as aggressive or angry as i was with my ex. well thats my story so far. its a start, but the break up is still relatively new to me
sedgwick Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 I've managed to write my book. Would it have gone way faster if I'd had his love and support, and not spent so much time lying in bed crying over him? Absolutely, I think it would have taken about half the time. But the day he dumped me I told my agent I didn't want to go through with the publishing contract because I was too devastated, and it wasn't music so what did it matter (he dumped me for not being a musician), and she told me it was too late, the contract was signed, I had to do it. So I ran off alone to Mexico for two months and wrote in a hammock on the beach. I was proud of myself that I found it in me to not only write it but to travel alone to do so. I've also started work on a film, and I've begun performing solo as a bellydancer fairly often. I organized a pretty awesome bellydance benefit to raise funds for the film, and people still tell me it was one of the best evenings of dance they'd ever seen. I was quite honored that so many fantastic dancers wanted to perform! I started doing work study at a yoga school where I'd wanted to go for a long time, but I was too intimidated by all the beautiful people there. Because I write for a living and work from home, I've really stayed in my apartment a lot these past two years -- have felt like I don't have much right to go out since I don't play music, and am too afraid of running into him or someone who knows him -- so starting the work study was a really big deal. It meant I had to make a commitment to leaving the house once a week, and the first time I did it my heart pounded the entire time I was there. But it's been nine months now and it's gotten easier. I've done a fair bit of eating disorders activism too. It bums me out that he hasn't been able to see that, because he was really attracted to the fact that an ex of his was a big activist, but c'est la vie. My biggest dream for the future would be to go out and hear music again. I used to go to shows all the time; that's how I met him. But since he dumped me, I haven't gone to a single one, which means it's been two years now since I've heard any live music other than that to which I dance. I'm considering taking music lessons just so I can feel like I have a right to go out and be around musicians again. I really miss it a lot! deffinitly "Definitely" contains the word "finite." Forgive me, I'm a writer, I have these compulsions.
redy2 Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 i got a gym memebership started working out. and got a new nicer aparment. mainly just been focusing on myself and making me happy for once
Road To Joy Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Well... I've been spending a lot more time with my family, which I love doing. I've been very, very active I love to run! I used to delay this all the time, due to time I had to WASTE (that's right, waste, not spend) on my ex. I've been learning Latin. I've been meditating (helps a lot). I've been going out more. Haven't made any new friends... yet. I'm saving that for the fall, when school starts. But spending time with my best friend and her family has been amazing. Also water parks, restaurants, etc. Just going out in general, yknow? On Saturday I'm going to an Aerosmith concert with my family, woot! Hard tickets to find And later on this month I'm taking a road trip to see my favorite artist live. In August, a childhood friend is coming to visit. I haven't seen him in years! It doesn't take a lot to satisfy me. This fall, I'll have more (and new) classes. That will do me good, I love learning. And all the negative energy my ex brought into my life for a long time is now gone, so I'll be able to do my best in school and that makes me excited . That will also open doors for new friendships and maybe a relationship . I'm excited for the future, and for now I'm pretty happy with my life.
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