moo Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 I want a man who is kind, sincere, gentle, loving, caring, and sensitive. I want a man who will be considerate, honest, and will respect me. I want a man who understands that I was not put here on this earth to satisfy his physical needs...that I am a person first, then a woman, then a partner. I want a man that will spend time with me and make me a priority in his life. I want a man that will make me laugh and will not be selfish when we are intimate. I want a man who will hold me afterwards, not get up and just leave or just roll over and go to sleep. I want a man who is willing to put effort into a relationship and will do things to make me feel special...it doesn't have to be anything big. In order for me to have this, I can NOT go back to my ex. I must keep doing the NC thing...it's going on two straight weeks and counting. Hurray for me!
fani Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 I want a man who can make me laugh, who understands that I am intelligent but I don't always finish a thought before saying it. I want a man who can get on well with my friends, who will make them proud of me for finding him, who can make them say "I LOVE HIM" before me and him have said it. I want a man who can deal with my strops, who gets that they are nothing to do with him, and all I need to get out of them is a big hug. I want a man who realises that I am insecure, but hould not use them just to ****ing make himself laugh. I want a man who can make me feel safe, and yet adventurous at the same time. I want a man who will treat me right! Who won't take me for granted. I want a man who will bother to call me and make an effort to treat me. I want a man who is essentially the opposite of my ex...and yet I still want him back!
LisaUk Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 I want a man who is kind, sincere, gentle, loving, caring, and sensitive. I want a man who will be considerate, honest, and will respect me. I want a man who understands that I was not put here on this earth to satisfy his physical needs...that I am a person first, then a woman, then a partner. I want a man that will spend time with me and make me a priority in his life. I want a man that will make me laugh and will not be selfish when we are intimate. I want a man who will hold me afterwards, not get up and just leave or just roll over and go to sleep. I want a man who is willing to put effort into a relationship and will do things to make me feel special...it doesn't have to be anything big. In order for me to have this, I can NOT go back to my ex. I must keep doing the NC thing...it's going on two straight weeks and counting. Hurray for me! Don't we all hunny! Seriously though, if it helps to keep reminding yourself of that, then that's what you need to do.
kizik Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 I'm like the guy you want. There are lots of us out there. But you may miss us, because we're not your ideal physical type. If you broaden your type, you'll find that guy.
fani Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Physically...I want a man who makes me feel safe, thats all!
Exit Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 This can be a helpful exercise. I've been realizing all the ways my ex doesn't fit my ideal picture, and it has lessened the pain greatly. I want a girl who will communicate with me and tell me what she wants. My ex never told me what was bothering her, she just sat back and watched me fail until she decided to break up with me. No relationship will last without communication. If my ex makes some changes, I might try again with her. But otherwise I'm about ready to accept that there must be someone better for me. It's helpful to realize these things. It's not so painful to wonder if your ex is dating someone else when you realize you don't want them anyway. Let someone else deal with their BS.
Author moo Posted July 8, 2009 Author Posted July 8, 2009 I have the ability to see someone's heart and become attracted to them if I was not before, if they had good qualities on the inside.
Author moo Posted July 8, 2009 Author Posted July 8, 2009 my ex is a terrible person and not what I want, but I still can't let go.
Woggle Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 And when you have this man you will get bored and fall out of love.
aloneanddepressed Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I want a man who is kind, sincere, gentle, loving, caring, and sensitive. I want a man who will be considerate, honest, and will respect me. I want a man who understands that I was not put here on this earth to satisfy his physical needs...that I am a person first, then a woman, then a partner. I want a man that will spend time with me and make me a priority in his life. I want a man that will make me laugh and will not be selfish when we are intimate. I want a man who will hold me afterwards, not get up and just leave or just roll over and go to sleep. I want a man who is willing to put effort into a relationship and will do things to make me feel special...it doesn't have to be anything big. In order for me to have this, I can NOT go back to my ex. I must keep doing the NC thing...it's going on two straight weeks and counting. Hurray for me! wow..i just realized my BF was very few of those at this point. i dont even think he was ever honest about everything either:( well, i wish i could find someone with all those qualities as well...does that sort of man even exist LOL
jcs8528 Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 There really are a lot of us out there, really there are.
Cora Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I want a man who is kind, sincere, gentle, loving, caring, and sensitive. I want a man who will be considerate, honest, and will respect me. I want a man who understands that I was not put here on this earth to satisfy his physical needs...that I am a person first, then a woman, then a partner. I want a man that will spend time with me and make me a priority in his life. I want a man that will make me laugh and will not be selfish when we are intimate. I want a man who will hold me afterwards, not get up and just leave or just roll over and go to sleep. I want a man who is willing to put effort into a relationship and will do things to make me feel special...it doesn't have to be anything big. In order for me to have this, I can NOT go back to my ex. I must keep doing the NC thing...it's going on two straight weeks and counting. Hurray for me! I wish I could find a guy like that as well. Every day it just seems more and more impossible. Those kinds of guys just don't seem interested in me. Maybe it's something about me that just turns them off....I'm not sure. I seem to attract the complete opposite every time. Well, if I can't have that then I'd just rather be single because having the opposite in my life like my ex was just emotionally draining. I give up looking for him. If it's meant to be then that right guy will find me someday...sigh.
Lyssa Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 And when you have this man you will get bored and fall out of love. I have to disagree. My late mother got the man she wanted - if she didn't pass away, they would still be together. Never have I heard her uttered the word "bored" with my father. They were very happy. I have several friends that met the type of men described above and their Rs/marriage are still going on strong.
Woggle Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I have to disagree. My late mother got the man she wanted - if she didn't pass away, they would still be together. Never have I heard her uttered the word "bored" with my father. They were very happy. I have several friends that met the type of men described above and their Rs/marriage are still going on strong. That was your mother but women today are a whole different story.
Lyssa Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 That was your mother but women today are a whole different story. Again, I disagree. Maybe the women you come across are like that but I know a lot of us are the type that would not stray if we found a good man.
Taramere Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I want a man who is kind, sincere, gentle, loving, caring, and sensitive.... Come now, Moo. Everyone knows that what modern women want is......this.
Trialbyfire Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 Come now, Moo. Everyone knows that what modern women want is......this.Holy Bejeebus! Who wouldn't want an effeminate pickup artist who looks like he belongs in a three ring circus! Moo, after your detailed description of your ex in the other thread, which I must say, I openly admired your grasp of the English language, plse, plse, do maintain NC!
Author moo Posted July 8, 2009 Author Posted July 8, 2009 a nice man doesn't have to mean a boring man. I'm sure there are many interesting men out there who are nice. If a man is nice and kind, yet sexy in his own way, and steamy....you could travel together, do role play during intimate times....lots of things. A healthy relationship doesn't have to be boring.
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