piper28 Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Hi all, im new member here.. greetings.. I just want to tell you about my story and share it with you, hope using this forum can uplift my feeling. I met this girl 2 years ago, and after the 1st year we start getting closer, she willing to travel with me and she said she love me, but she dont want to commit yet.. Come to last april, she got angry with me, and at the time she is angry she met another man, and start commit with this man.. gosh.. im the one who fighting for 2 years, and she accept this man only counting by days. i found it out, and instead im the one who is angry, she is the one that furious with me..... im speechless, she said if not because of me, this problem would not happened. The she come to her senses, she want to start all over again with me.. i asked her.. how about that guy.. she said.. leave it to me.. at first i have tried to ignore that guys, my girl friend ask me to trust her on this. We planned a getting back travel to china, and we pledge all the problem will be solved during that time. come to the time of travel, i askde her about the guy, and her reply was only "ahh.. just let it .. let the guy bored by himself" i was shocked.. she seem dont want to solve the problem. the my friend told me the facebook status of that guy that always putting the my girl friend name. "Going out with my luv" "enjoying time together with my luv" though i stay calmed, i asked her though.. and accept the answer. but last friday after we are back from our vacation together.. a frine of my girl friend posted a note on that guy wall "Hii.. your lovely hunny is backk" damn.. my emotion are running high.. and i asked her.. she very angry with me, she say, why you messing around with my privacy.. i said to her.. privacy ? are you with me or with him.. Now she said to me, Please leave me alone, i wand a time for my self, not with you or that guy, i need to be alone right now" im shocked.. and feel played.. oh yes.. 1st day on our holiday, when preparing travel bags, i know that this guy sent 2 sms to her.. but i dare not to asked, coz i dont want to rui n the holiday... seem what she want, she want to be with me, but she want the problem that happend with that guy settle by itself. she dont want to be the one who break the relation ship.. becoz she feel guilty with that guy. But.. how about my feeling.. i have try to accept teh condition and relax.. Now she said, that "yes i want to get back together, but seem you are getting worst, its make me afraid" yes my mistake checking out on that guy facebook, but am i wrong ? i still love her, i realize my mistakes, and hope she does too... all i want is just be with her and marry her.. i told her.. if you settle the problem with that guy.. i would comfort you too.. Now i feel mixed, confuse, disappointed. seem all my effort is nothing in her eyes, the trips, what he have during the trips.
boogieboy Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Leave that girl. She only got back with you because it didnt work out with the other guy. She is still seeing him, and she doesnt want to break it off. That is not good. You did nothing wrong besides stay with her.
lucy9216 Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 I have to completely agree with Boogieboy on this. You need to move on, sounds like she is not completely as into you as you are with her. I know it is hard to hear this I recently got my heart broken as well and it was very difficult to accept but you have too. You will find someone that is really into you and you will be so happy that you did not hold onto this one when you find that perfect girl for you. Reminds of this song that says "Sometimes I thank god for unanswered prayers" you will someday know what that means.
TaraMaiden Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 She is turning all her anger on you and making you feel as if her actions are YOUR fault. They re not! What she is doing, is not your fault!! She is what is known as a flaky cheater. She is not worth your time or effort, because she is playing you. Thell her the other guy is welcome to her, and that you feel sorry for him, because what she is doing to you, she will end up doing to him. she is a spiteful cheater with no sense of responsibility at all.
Author piper28 Posted July 7, 2009 Author Posted July 7, 2009 Today is the 5th day she put silence. She start putting YM statuses, like feel empty, eveything will be a beauty in time, I just need 2 be alone right now. Should I start conversation with her ?
lucy9216 Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 NO!!! do not start a conversation with her!!! she will continue to play you and you will continue to hurt over her as long as you allow her to do so. The best thing is to accept that she will not be with you as you want her to be, the sooner you accept this the sooner you will be okay and that much closer to finding that girl that is right for you. You continueing with her in this way will only leave you hurting for longer than you need to be.
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