aloneanddepressed Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 (Sorry this is going to be VERY LONG..lol)Ok, so, I have been dating a guy for about 8 months. We have had our share of arguments, but we had one going on 2 weeks ago. I feel like i got too upset at him for something, but at same time he was being insensitive like he has been numerous times. I tried to work it out at his house, but he kept acting like he didn't want to deal with it. I ended up leaving his house upset.....although he actually didn't seem like he was that upset. I pretty much gave him the cold shoulder, but at the time I hadn't got any sleep and slept in another room and was so upset. I was more upset , because I wanted to work it out the night before and he kept saying" I have to go to sleep". It just made me even more upset. Anyways, like i said i left his house upset, and i tried to call him the next day which was Thursday around noon time. I called cell like 3 times and house once and got nothing. His voicemail doesn't work so couldn't leave a message. That night on AOL...i left an offline message saying " i guess you dont care about me, i tried to call you, and said hope you are ok". i dont remember saying anything out of line or indicating i was pissed off. ok so by midnight on thrusday, i still heard nothing, at this point I knew he must be ignoring me. I probably tried a few more times to call him until like the end of the week. I swear I saw him on AOL, and i asked "why are you ignoring me? "...and got nothing. Unfortunately I was so upset, I got mad and said "we are done then"..and i kept saying stuff. I know...not good, but that was an awful feeling that I was most likely being ignored. I think it was July 2nd, I left a message on facebook and not sure if he got it. I didn't yell at him or nothing, but explained how i felt and all. Its only July 6th so maybe he will contact me but I dont know. I realize he might need space, but also I think he is disrespecting me and its very immature and RUDE. I also realize he could be too scared to tell me he no longer wants to date me. Well the argument was over something ridiculous , and he said he wasn't even that mad the day i left, so how could he still be that mad. Its going on like 12 days now and not one word. why can't he say anything to me? we got in another fight like a month ago, and neither one of us spoke for a week, then he finally contacted me and said he loved me and all this mess. This time im shocked the he won't say anything to me. Is it over or what is going on? Im scared I said too much when I got upset....and maybe that is really why he hasn't said anything ,but still no excuse as to why he ignored my calls before. Also, he knows the reason Im mad he is because he is ignoring me...so why won't he say something. What is also so hard about sending someone a message online. It makes me sick to think he really doesn't care..i don't know what to do. I haven't said nothing for going on like 6 days or so now(well as far as calling or leaving instant messages online ) I did send a message on facebook on the 2nd, but not sure if he got it. It was nothing harsh though. So I'm wondering is it possible he will come around or what...
asuman Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 I really feel for you, because this is a terrible thing for him to put you through. If he's upset about something with someone he's been with for 8 months, he should pick up the phone and tell you. I consider his behavior instead to be a form of emotional abuse. So your first question to yourself should be: Do you want to remain in a relationship with a guy capable of inflicting emotional abuse on you? Consider this a warning sign. If he's doing this now, what will he do a year from now, 2 years from now, 10 years from now, whenever you get into a fight? Abandon you? Leave? Disappear? Do you want to live with that fear for the rest of your life?
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