Author yonex Posted July 13, 2009 Author Posted July 13, 2009 I know it will be difficult to accept this but it will not make moving on any easier. You think it will but I can tell you it won't. Lots of people go down this road. And they all claim whatever it is will make it easier. But it never does. The only thing that does make it easier is acceptance that it is over and any amount of time spent thinking about her or anything related to her is a waste of time and a barrier to moving on with your life. You have said if you contact her, she'll be upset. There is the chance that even if you do call she will not answer. And if she does answer, and you get the chance to ask, that you will not get an answer to your question. You are not guaranteed of getting a straight answer no matter what. The cards are stacked against you. You must start thinking about what is truly best for you. And that has nothing to do with this question OR the answer. What is best for you is to let go of the whole thing and move on. Yea i know its best for me to move on. But for the past 6 months one day hasn't past since I thought about her... I know this is kind of defeating the purpose but would it be ok to send her a birthday card on her birthday in a few months?
Bejita463 Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Yea i know its best for me to move on. But for the past 6 months one day hasn't past since I thought about her... I understand, but grasping at straws to find a way to prolong it is not helping. I know you don't want to do so, but it will pass if you work towards moving on. I know this is kind of defeating the purpose but would it be ok to send her a birthday card on her birthday in a few months?While you seem to believe I am unsympathetic due to my blunt approach to offering you my opinion, that is untrue. Keeping that in mind, at this point it would be a greater kindness to leave this girl alone. She's not going to want a reminder of you on her birthday. If this changes, there is nothing stopping her from letting you know.
Author yonex Posted July 13, 2009 Author Posted July 13, 2009 If this changes, there is nothing stopping her from letting you know. Who wants to bet money shell contact me?
Island Girl Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 Yea i know its best for me to move on. But for the past 6 months one day hasn't past since I thought about her... That is because you haven't even begun to let it go yet. Hence the fixation on the book being delivered or not. I know this is kind of defeating the purpose but would it be ok to send her a birthday card on her birthday in a few months? No. You do not send a birthday card. From now on she does not exist in your life and occasions in hers are none of your business. Seriously. You know this. Now you are just messing with me.
Author yonex Posted July 13, 2009 Author Posted July 13, 2009 That is because you haven't even begun to let it go yet. Hence the fixation on the book being delivered or not. No. You do not send a birthday card. From now on she does not exist in your life and occasions in hers are none of your business. Seriously. You know this. Now you are just messing with me. Haha well I was actually thinking about it but yea it is pretty whacked! As you can see my mind is a bit warped because of this mess... For starters I deleted her off myspace so I stop lurking her profile..that really didn't help much. I wish it was as easy as you say just clear her from my mind...its so sick that every day at least one thing in my life reminds of her. Should I burn the things she touched from my vacation like a empty cig pack and a few other things?
evaG Posted July 13, 2009 Posted July 13, 2009 You sound obsessed. If a guy drove 3 hours to deliver a book for me instead of letting me know casually over email that he sent it via UPS, I'd freak out majorly.
Island Girl Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Should I burn the things she touched from my vacation like a empty cig pack and a few other things? I am so happy for you at taking some steps to finally move forward instead of being stuck. As far as the empty cig pack -- it's garbage so throw it away. Do the things that make sense. Throw away garbage and evaluate what you'd still like to keep because you'd use it.
Author yonex Posted July 14, 2009 Author Posted July 14, 2009 I am so happy for you at taking some steps to finally move forward instead of being stuck. As far as the empty cig pack -- it's garbage so throw it away. Do the things that make sense. Throw away garbage and evaluate what you'd still like to keep because you'd use it. At least I have great memories that will scar me for years to come since I'll never EVER see her again... Eva....I think she did freak out, because I could not help myself. Maybe I need to go see a doctor.
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