eric82 Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 sedgwick, wasn't it you who was hung up on your first love for like a decade but when he finally got back in touch and stayed over at your place, he acted like an ass and his looks had drastically diminished since you last saw him so it finally hit you that you no longer felt in love with him? let that past experience be a certain reminder that moving on is inevitable.
tinke Posted July 10, 2009 Posted July 10, 2009 It is not that it sounds ridiculous to still be longing for him, it is that your words reflect pain, and that is what is so sad. Truthfully, only you can change this, I am sure you are aware of this. I believe most of us know what it is to be devastated, to continue missing someone. But, it seems at some point, the grieveing part has to step aside to make room for life, for the NOW. Otherwise, the past and the present will be lost. You will know when that time is, when you finally make that honest effort to stop! Not to be hardcore, but sometimes hearing the bare truth does help--he left you sedgwick. He left in a cowardly fashion, uncaring, and decided it was not worth the effort to even check on you. He wanted to be gone! Now, I'm sure this is senseless to you, most likely because you wouldn't have handled things this way, but, HE did. It was a cruel way to leave! Even when faced with the opportunity to talk with you, he did not, he did not want the choice of THE ALL OR NOTHING you had offered him. You had given him the choice, the offering of forgiveness and he still said NO! That is it! So, maybe this may help when you think of him, would you really take someone back who has hurt you so deeply? Try to think WHY are you still focused on all this? Honestly, would you take him back? After all this time without so much as a "how are you'? It seems he did not stay in contact because he does not want a relationship, nor any connection. You don't owe him time wasted "waiting for him". you only owe yourself.
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