skreen23 Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 Theres not a hope in hell of finding a reconciliation story here. My theory at the moment is the only chance of that is completely letting go of your ex. The fact we're on here at all proves that at some level we haven't. I know loads of recon stories, close friends, aquaintances, parents, sister, next-door married couple. I remember my last break 3 yrs ago, i posted on a few websites looking for advice. When i got her back do you think i posted, no siree bob.
girl68 Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 You would think that after 0 responses in the first thread regarding this, it would be obvious that no, we (on LS) don't go back to ex's why? Because it's over... and there's always a good, legitimate reason to stay far, far away.
Author gypsi Posted July 6, 2009 Author Posted July 6, 2009 i have been on LS for 3 months and since then i havent heard of a SINGLE member getting back 2gether with an ex!! Its depressing...looks like second chances are like winning the lotto. 1
Adunaphel Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 I think getting back with exes is relatively common. Fixing relationship issues after the reconciliation is much rarer, though. So in most cases the couple will split again later, doubling the drama, as what caused the first breakup is still there, either unadressed or not resolved, more often magnified. 1
skreen23 Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 I don't entirely agree, i reckon it takes time, months, to get back with your ex. But it does depend on compatibility, etc. I know at the mo i'm still healing, my head is in a bad place. I drift between hating, resenting and loving her all the time. Reconcilliation does exist but i reckon a lot of the heads on here are still bitter over the splits. One ex. my sister and her boyfriend split for a while, they got back together and are getting married in august. So there.
Cattery Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 Success story in progress! LDR for 1 year, he moved to my city and we were together for 1 year, I found out about one-time sex with his ex and broke up with him, he moved away again. He gave me my space but made it clear that he wanted to be with only me. 8 months NC (my doing). A couple visits and trips (we met up in Vegas, he came to visit my family and I, etc.) November 2007 we decided on a full-on reunion and he moved back to my state one year ago. We have been living together since April of this year. We're still working on what caused the breakup in the first place, but the new relationship is like night and day. We're both very focused on the healing. We still have a lot to work on, but we're both completely committed to the work. We both never thought we'd be together again, so it's an amazing rediscovery of one another. It took a lot of time apart and perspective!
jqb05443 Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 I am still hoping for a reconciliation. We are going to dinner and show next week. But in response to your thread.. A friend of my ex was engaged to a girl, she left him and a few months later they got back together and are now married. Another friend of my ex, they were together for awhile, broke up to see and now they are married with a child. A coworker of mine, broke up with her bf at the time for about 4 months. They got back together and are now married. So it can happen. I am sure there are other stories out there
Author gypsi Posted July 6, 2009 Author Posted July 6, 2009 congratz cattery refrehsing to hear a success story for a change . I dont know why but to me it feels the longer you are apart from your ex the further they will drift away from you or even meet someone knew i have been broken up for 4 months and NC for 1 month...its all in vain.
bella16 Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Well we weren't broken up for a long time at all. He broke up with me 3 weeks ago and I was literally a wreck! The first 2 days I did all the wrong things... pleaded to him, called him, texted him, and poured my heart out and he did not want to hear it. We broke up over something small. Neither one of hurt eachother, he just thought I was unhappy in the relationship and wanted to be fair to me and end it. I said some things prior to the breakup to make him think all of this, but my emotions got the best of me and I cried to him, saying things like he doesn't care bout me and all. I was in the process of quitting smoking at this time, for myself and for him because he really wants me to stop. After all the begging and chasing, I gave up and let it go... I started going out having a great time on the weekends with friends. Kickboxing really helped get my mind off of things, and work of course. I found myself getting over it a little. I stopped contacting him. Then, last weekend he called me in the middle of the night one night and I did not answer. He texted me everyday lastweek...little things like "what are you doing", "Nice song on your page", "I miss you", "Thinking about you", etc... I love him so much...I just KNOW with this one, I knew when we first met and dated a while, and would do anything to work it out bc it was over something that was able to be fixed. All of these messages he was sending me, I knew he wanted to see me. So thursday night I went over to his place and stayed the night with him. It was like I was at ease again, my heart felt whole again just being with him that night. We woke up friday and we spent the whole day together. We got ready and ran errands all day together, had lunch, he finally met my bestfriend and her baby. I was so happy again. I miss that feeling. I told him this is how it should and could be all the time and he felt the same way. I had already made plans to go down the shore for the 4th of July with friends, so we did our own thing on saturday. We have been back to normal again since we spent the day together and I could not be happier. The thing I found funny was the second I started getting over things, he started contacting me. I'm so happy he did. We both know that we need eachother. The break-up was scary for me, but such an eye-opener. I need to be less negative about things. My boyfriend is different then some, he is almost 30, and I am 23...he is a father and is very mature and has a great head on his shoulders. He has had a bad past, but never looks back at it...always looks forward and stays positive about every little thing in life... this is a big reason as to why I fell in love with him within 2 months of being with him. When I begged him, he never would completely ignore me or shut me out... he would always text me back and want answers to his questions and he would allow me to explain myself. I think when people shut you out, they are being selfish. Sorry I'm on a rant... but I consider my story a success story. He came back to me after I was literally a mess and really thought it was over. It can happen. Keep positive about things!
D-Lish Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 I came to LS a few years ago wanting to discover the secret of getting back with my ex. It never happened. I've never gotten back with an ex. I've had brief moments and booty calls, but nothing has felt the same after the break up. Amongst my family and friends, I have known people to get back together. They either dated briefly, broke up and got back together within a couple months.... or dated when young, went out dated and married other people- then found their way back later in life.
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