Is it unreasonable to ask a friend to defreidn my ex on Facebook?

[tcd09]

My ex and I split at beginning of April - she ended it - and now she has a new boyfriend.

 

She has started to post on my friends facebook page (she never really did before) and I am finding it a real struggle seeing her picture and posts on my friends page - I am on it regularly for laughs.

 

I am trying to forget my ex and have asked my mate to remove her but he won't. He is being a dick. Should I therefore remove him?

 

It really p*sses me of that my ex is doing this as she KNOWS I access his page and can see what she is saying. She has met my mate only twice!

 

Views please?

[Peanut9330]

Since your hurt and it bothers you to see your ex on your friends facebook page for the time being you should just remove him since he refuses to remover her. Why waste energy and time on something like that if your friend cared about your feelings he would remove her since he wont you need to remove him so you can move on and stop thinking about her otherwise its just gonna keep eating away at you. Once you feel better about everything you can add your friend again.

[girl68]

No, I think you're being the dick by asking him. You are not one to control who a friend can or can not talk to. You're not practicing the NC that would allow you to really "forget" her. If YOU can't handle it YOU shouldn't be on his page.

[tcd09]

Sorry girl68. No contact should be a mutual strategy.

[girl68]

Not really, she don't care if you read- she's healed!

 

And don't you often read about my ex is STILL contacting me! threads? Becasue I do therefore it should be safe to conclude that NO, NC is far from being "mutual".

[clv0116]

Views please?

 

What a nice way to let her know you still want to kiss her *ss. Get over it, man up.

[Thornton]

Just block your ex. Then when you look at your friend's page, you won't see her posts. It's none of your business who your friend is friends with, and it's not your place to tell him to remove your ex. You're assuming she's posting on purpose because she knows you'll see it, but you're reading waay to much into this - don't flatter yourself because she probably doesn't care if you read it or not, she dumped you and she couldn't care less what you do or don't read. Just block her and move on.

[BUENG1]

My ex and I split at beginning of April - she ended it - and now she has a new boyfriend.

 

She has started to post on my friends facebook page (she never really did before) and I am finding it a real struggle seeing her picture and posts on my friends page - I am on it regularly for laughs.

 

I am trying to forget my ex and have asked my mate to remove her but he won't. He is being a dick. Should I therefore remove him?

 

It really p*sses me of that my ex is doing this as she KNOWS I access his page and can see what she is saying. She has met my mate only twice!

 

Views please?

 

Just remove your friend as well. It just facebook. Who cares

[lora22]

Based on reading the other two threads you posted about this, and having already commented on one of them - you already know what a bunch of people think about your friend/fb/your ex.

 

You've already confronted your friend about this.

 

The poster in the other thread, and the one here who suggested you just block your ex offered the best solution, IMO, and I'm surprised that you hadn't already done this.

 

The way I see it, your best bet is to block your ex if it really bugs you, or else man up and ignore her posts.

 

If you want to end a friendship over this, then go ahead and block your "friend."

[tcd09]

Everyone is right. I am reading into this way too much. I've got no right to tell my mate to remove her. I've just been finding it tough the last few weeks. I do need to 'man up' as one poster said. Lol. I get better as the days go by so i really shouldn't care what my ex says. Stuff it!

[NotNow]

To be honest, based on how you described your relationship with with your friend, and his complete lack of a relationship with your ex, I don't think it was unreasonable for you to ask him to defriend her.

 

However, since he said no, and he gave you a reason for refusing your request, I can understand being annoyed about that, but it's unreasonable for you, IMO, to cause even more drama by unfriending or blocking your friend.

 

I'm glad you're starting to get over this though

[PinkKittyKat]

Everyone is right. I am reading into this way too much. I've got no right to tell my mate to remove her. I've just been finding it tough the last few weeks. I do need to 'man up' as one poster said. Lol. I get better as the days go by so i really shouldn't care what my ex says. Stuff it!

Yeah, I agree. Good on you!

 

But if it makes it easier, maybe temporarily "Hide" the updates, just until it gets okay for you. No need to block/defriend, although blocking the ex may be a cool idea. I've done the "Hide" thing when certain friends are being especially aggravating, but I wouldn't ever block them. It makes for a nice cooling off period.

[Scorpio13c]

Everyone is right. I am reading into this way too much. I've got no right to tell my mate to remove her. I've just been finding it tough the last few weeks. I do need to 'man up' as one poster said. Lol. I get better as the days go by so i really shouldn't care what my ex says. Stuff it!

 

I don't even think you should have had to ask your friend to remove her, a real friend would have at the least talked to you first about it.

I'd remove him.

[RA1]

Your ex may well be posting to let you know how well she's doing without you, in other words to hurt you.

 

He is your friend not hers (he's only met her twice), so I think he was disloyal to you in not removing her from his friends list (just my personal opinion).

 

I would be inclined to block them both but as a minimum to take whatever steps are necessary on Facebook so that you don't see those pictures and notes.