Cosmo Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 The girl i'm chasing wrote to another guy on myspace something like this "i hope i'll see you again soon..., why don't you pass by my town?... lots of hugs." I think he's from her hometown as she's studying in another city. The guy is good looking but looks much older(+-8 years) then her. Can that be considered as flirting ? I want your input on this. She never used that kind of words with me, she's more shy around me, she smiles and looks with sweet eyes at me but never says sweet words like she did with the other guy... I feel she tests me to see if i care (ex: "i'm gonna go to japan to my family and maybe never come back" then holds eye contact with me like she's looking for my reaction...). A few weeks ago I was happy to see her again, i asked for her number and was excited to call her but now i feel disappointed, like i'm Mr. number 2. I wasn't supposed to see that message but saw it this morning.... i was so pissed that i deleted her number from my phone...
dreamergrl Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 I'm assuming you two aren't exclusive or anything. She's free to flirt and mingle with other guys. If you don't like it, move on to someone who is only into dating one man at a time.
Author Cosmo Posted July 6, 2009 Author Posted July 6, 2009 yes i think i'm more that kind of guy. but why would she flirt with 2 guys at the same time ?? isn't that in some way immoral ? or is it simply because she doesn't care about my feelings ? what's funny is i can also play that game and make her jealous but that's not the way i want to start a relationship with her.
Surfer Dude Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 The girl i'm chasing wrote to another guy on myspace something like this "i hope i'll see you again soon..., why don't you pass by my town?... lots of hugs." She wants him to screw her. I think he's from her hometown as she's studying in another city. The guy is good looking but looks much older(+-8 years) then her. Can that be considered as flirting ? I want your input on this. Who cares? Mind only interactions that happen between you and this girl, forget others. I feel she tests me to see if i care (ex: "i'm gonna go to japan to my family and maybe never come back" then holds eye contact with me like she's looking for my reaction...). Translation: "I want to see what kind of reaction I can elicit from you and to see whether you're a man enough to take it" J-chick: I'm gonna go to Japan blah blah... You: Really? You should take me along. I hear there are a lot of sexy girls in Tokyo, can you tell me if I'm right? A few weeks ago I was happy to see her again, i asked for her number and was excited to call her but now i feel disappointed, like i'm Mr. number 2.Forget phone calls, forget myspace and various crap scenarios going on in your head. Set up a meeting with this girl, seduce her, escalate your relationship and seal the deal. Forget all other guys out there, they have nothing to do with you and her. I wasn't supposed to see that message but saw it this morning.... i was so pissed that i deleted her number from my phone...Stupid. Chicks like flirting and getting attention. And there's nothing wrong with that. Now that you don't have her number, you can't meet her and lay her. Tough luck, but you brought it upon yourself.
EddieN Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 Like you said, you like to stick to one girl at a time and don't really like to play the game. Totally understandable, but this girl sounds like she's the opposite and likes to be flirty with a number of guys at a time. Also understandable. You guys probably wouldn't work out together anyway, unless one of you changed what you wanted. Just learn to not give a **** about the other guys she might be into. If you want her, show her who you are and pursue her. If she gives another guy more attention and ultimately picks him, then so what. It doesn't make you any less of a man...just find another girl to go after.
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