bookit Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 Brief history, We dated for a year, broke up about 1 1/2 years ago, i moved country 1 year ago. So the ex broke up with me, she did it to teach me a lesson, backfired. She has always kept in contact with me, she initiates contact 95% of the time, every 4 or 5 weeks.. I moved country 1 year ago, we slept together the w/end before leaving. Now she was very attracted to me and belive she still is etc...we got on very well. So now im back in home country and home town where ex is, she has had 4 or 5 mini relationships in the last year, but now she is dating her best male friend (has known him for 6+ years) yet she is still keeping in contact with me. Asking when am i coming home next, if i have a girlfriend etc.. Now this male friend tried to break us up on numerous occasions. So yesterday we exchange some texts, i ask what she is at for the day, says she doesnt know and why do i ask, i say coz i havent seen her in a while and think we should meet up. She suggests meeting for coffee during the week. Her new fella seems to be the "safe option" always doing things for her, typical "nice guy" My mates all came to the same conclusion, i am her ideal BF, the one she got on with best and was most attracted to but i put my passions before her etc.. i left the country and have the potential to do it again if things dont go my way. 3 months after leaving the country (we has being broken up 9 months) she text me giving out because i left the country In all honesty i said to myself if i returned home and still had feelings for her then i would try and make a proper go of it if i got the chance. Finally my questions! She has a BF, why would she aggree to meet with me given that we still have sexual chemistry? plus her BF has made it clear that he does not like me. Whats the best method to enhance the attraction and get her thinking about getting back with me? I know enough not to bad mouth her new fella to her face even though he is a sneaky t*at...
nastyapple Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 It sounds to me like she is interested. She's made an effort to contact you, and if you've arranged to go for a coffee, the interest must still be there to some extent. She could just be using her boyfriend as a back up, in case things don't work out with you and she doesn't want to be alone. Then again, she could be messing with you. It's hard to say really, since I'm not in your shoes. Good luck with it, and don't seem too desperate.
Author bookit Posted July 6, 2009 Author Posted July 6, 2009 Im going into this with no care of the outcome, if she still wants me then great, if not then its not the end of the world. When i went home last christmas she was very eager to meet up, we kissed a few nights later and i asked to meet up with her a few nights later, she blew me off so i had a week left in the country and spent it with the mates and didnt contact her again, im not a needy insecure person and she knows this. The night i was leaving she text me saying she never heard from me so i must have been busy and she asked when id be home again.... her friend let it slip to me that she was still mad about me. The last thing i will do is seem desperate, gonna meet up and act like she is just another friend, make her laugh and ill end the meet up first. At least then if she contacts me after it ill know its game ball..
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