pocoyo Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this. I am just looking to get some perspective on my issue at the moment. I don't have any female friends so can't really talk to anyone to get advice or opinions. Basically, the issue is, I have small boobs and quite often find that when my boyfriend watches porn, he searches for women with huge boobs. He likes the look of big fake boobs. This does upset me, simply because I have small boobs. I know he loves me and I have no issues with porn at all...I probably watch it more than him. Lol. There is a bit of a twist to this though. I have a bit of a thing for big boobs too. They really turn me on and I also often watch porn which involve women with massive boobs. I find it really horny. When I am in horny mode, all I want to do is go to a strip club with my boyfriend and watch big breasted women. However, the jealousy then comes into it. I just wondered if anyone else has ever encountered anything like this before? I'm not sure if this is too sexual for this forum? Any feedback would be great and might put some perspective on an issue that swims around in my head far too much that it becomes unhealthy! :s Thanks. Pocoyo.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this. I am just looking to get some perspective on my issue at the moment. I don't have any female friends so can't really talk to anyone to get advice or opinions. Basically, the issue is, I have small boobs and quite often find that when my boyfriend watches porn, he searches for women with huge boobs. He likes the look of big fake boobs. This does upset me, simply because I have small boobs. I know he loves me and I have no issues with porn at all...I probably watch it more than him. Lol. There is a bit of a twist to this though. I have a bit of a thing for big boobs too. They really turn me on and I also often watch porn which involve women with massive boobs. I find it really horny. When I am in horny mode, all I want to do is go to a strip club with my boyfriend and watch big breasted women. However, the jealousy then comes into it. I just wondered if anyone else has ever encountered anything like this before? I'm not sure if this is too sexual for this forum? Any feedback would be great and might put some perspective on an issue that swims around in my head far too much that it becomes unhealthy! :s Thanks. Pocoyo. Hey!!! You are not 'getting it' ... and your concern is so sweet and so sincere, too. In much the same way that another post (about strip clubs) and those responding to it chose only to look at the surface of the situation, you are doing the same thing! What if, INSTEAD OF "big boobs" being the (gravitational) center of the universe and everyone under the sun being drawn to them, your b/f's interest, and your interest as well in porn with big boobs, is explained more accurately by considering the CONTRASTS involved. Meaning: Nothing makes a short brunette more appealing than when she is standing near three tall blondes. Nothing makes full hips more enticing than when they are featured among a number of skinny little butts. Nothing makes green eyes more attractive than when they're positioned against a backdrop of brown-eyed people. It is sooooooooooo okay that you too are drawn to looking at porn featuring women with large breasts, and I'm sure that while a number of your friends are right nearby, you still don't have any direct means by which to acquaint yourself with large breasts other than through porn. I imagine the contrasts to be fascinating to someone who knows her way around feminine attire, but does not know the effects of bra straps digging into her skin, or back pain as the result of heavy breasts, etc. I would go so far as to suggest that the way a woman dresses her neckline is a greater variable relating to how much attention her body gets than is the mere size of her breasts. The women who decide (on their own, too often) that men either "want to see her breasts too much" or "don't likely want to see her breasts at all" are generally the ones whose attire encourages everyone to try to forget that she is a woman in the first place. I think you both should continue to indulge yourselves in your large-breasted porn and pay no mind whatsoever to it stamping you yourself as inadequate in any way. You're NOT inadequate, but it would help if there were more boldness and self-confidence in your words, and that you let whatever is in your bra be random and nothing beyond. Women simply cannot have large, overwhelming breasts and compact, incredibly perky ones at the same time. Just be the ONE person you were always designed to be, confidently, please!
FunStud Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 I understand why you would be concerned. Not trying to be rude, but you're probably a better person because you don't have the "boob power" of some of these girls. Your boyfriend should consider himself lucky to have someone down to earth that isn't out there flinging her boobs around to get free drinks and a big slut. I try not to watch porn, as I'm getting older. I turns me off when I get with a girl and I've seen so many boobs it's not impressive. Maybe talk to him and say, he'd probably appreciate it more if he was not wacking it all the time. Also, with the right body, I totally dig smaller boobs.
Jersey Shortie Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 Women simply cannot have large, overwhelming breasts and compact, incredibly perky ones at the same time. Just be the ONE person you were always designed to be, confidently, please! Yeah OP. Please be super confident and sexual and keep watching those large breasted women. But remember, your boyfriend/husband/SO is always going to want whatever you aren't. Because it's OKAY that he isn't confident and needs numerous visual stimulations to feel more like a man and more turned on. But yes, please remember to be confident and give him bjs whenever he wants! Good. Lord. Your boyfriend should consider himself lucky to have someone down to earth that isn't out there flinging her boobs around to get free drinks and a big slut. He should consider himself lucky. But no offense. So many men have said the same exact thing all over these forums but somehow, despite how lucky men seem to tell each other and themselves they are for having a "down-to-earth" girlfriend, it dosen't seem to stop these same men from having their own indulgences in lookign and oggling the very women you are degradingly calling names. Sick of coming to these forums and hearing the boys here call women "sluts" just because they don't like the behavior but will happily indulge in watching or encouraging the behavior. Please save your women-hating name calling.
Els Posted July 7, 2009 Posted July 7, 2009 JS, I think you missed the part where she said she watches them because watching women with big boobs turns HER on too. Pocoyo, I'm exactly the same! I'm small and Asian... and watching those big breasts jiggle around in porn really does it for me, for some reason. Nothing wrong with it, really. I think a more important question would be, how does your bf treat you with regards to sex and your body, what does he say about it? Does he compare you to the women in porn? Or does he run his hands over your breasts and tell you how beautiful and perky and firm they are?
Jersey Shortie Posted July 8, 2009 Posted July 8, 2009 I didn't miss that point at all. My response remains the same because I am aware of the fact that she is always turned on by big breasts.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Pocoyo, I'm exactly the same! I'm small and Asian... and watching those big breasts jiggle around in porn really does it for me, for some reason. Nothing wrong with it, really. Into my mind right now pops the image of an extremely attractive woman of middle eastern descent whom I know. I have often recognized out loud that she is made to seem far, far more attractive for living in a large U.S. city (among mostly white Americans) than she would probably seem if living in the middle east. It's the contrasts, ladies, and not directly what you love to think you see and then believe!
Jersey Shortie Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Basically, whatever you are not is what he wants.
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