FabulousLadee Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 Okay so my guy just went back home today after a fabulous weekend..met my family and friends..it went very well... BUT I have one thing that is just pondering me. It's a little embarrassing to talk about but I know that I can confide in this forum..anonymously. As far as our intimacy is concerned, it was good but very "wam-bam thank you maam"...if you know what I mean. The whole weekend there was no real "love" making...it was no bodily kissing, caressing...nothing like that. Leading up to this weekend, he talked about all these things that he was going to do to me and none of it played out but just the very basic..no fourplay or anything..just straight to it. I don't know how to feel about that. We hadn't seen each other in TWO months and he did more the FIRST meeting than he did this time. It's just weird to me..very weird. I don't know if the excitement was too much for him and he just wanted to get it done or what. I am going to ask him about it but I just want to know if anyone else has experienced this or how should I feel about this?! And I would love to get a guy's perspective on this too.
Island Girl Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 Did you do it every chance you got and it was like this every time -- or was it just once...? I have experienced this - but it is generally as you suggest -- that he got himself so worked up with all of the suggestions (his own!) and thinking about what he is going to do that he was over excited and all of those well thought out moves kind of went by the wayside. There is always kissing but not a whole lot of extensive foreplay in those situations. The harnessed passion kind of takes over. Did you initiate any 'foreplay' on him? Nibbling ears, kissing his chest, fellatio, etc.?
Author FabulousLadee Posted July 6, 2009 Author Posted July 6, 2009 Yeah..I initiated a lot. We really honestly only were intimate 3 times out of the whole weekend...everytime was that way. For some reason, he talked about how he was trying to hold back because he didn't want me to think that it was just sexual or that that was all that it was about. It was his first time in "my world" so maybe he might have been so into just wanting to get to know who I was on a different level than wanting to have hot passionate mind-blowing sex this time. I'm not sure. The sex was still mind-blowing but very simple...if you know what I mean. I don't know. I'm not going to sit here and lie and say that it doesn't raise an eyebrow because it does for me. I'm puzzled. Could he be doing all that with someone else at law school? Could his mind be with me but his heart somewhere else? I had that weird feeling all weekend and I still do.
Island Girl Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 If he talked about how he was trying to hold back - then I'd believe him. HE didn't want to show up and then every time he has you alone you have continuous sex because that'd cause you to think that is all he's really in it for and he just spent time with your friends and family because he was obligated. Be honest now Fabulous - you WOULD think that in retrospect. HE already had a taste of that remember...? He wanted to show you he was all about spending time with you. And he DID do that didn't he? Don't go jumping to conclusions. Just relax. I am so glad the meet ups with your friends and fam went so well. Did they just love him??!!
Author FabulousLadee Posted July 6, 2009 Author Posted July 6, 2009 Yeah..Islandgirl...they loved him. I think he probably got the best response out of my family than all of my previous boyfriends. It went well..I just hope he feels the same way.
northstar1 Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 Okay so my guy just went back home today after a fabulous weekend..met my family and friends..it went very well... BUT I have one thing that is just pondering me. It's a little embarrassing to talk about but I know that I can confide in this forum..anonymously. As far as our intimacy is concerned, it was good but very "wam-bam thank you maam"...if you know what I mean. The whole weekend there was no real "love" making...it was no bodily kissing, caressing...nothing like that. Leading up to this weekend, he talked about all these things that he was going to do to me and none of it played out but just the very basic..no fourplay or anything..just straight to it. I don't know how to feel about that. We hadn't seen each other in TWO months and he did more the FIRST meeting than he did this time. It's just weird to me..very weird. I don't know if the excitement was too much for him and he just wanted to get it done or what. I am going to ask him about it but I just want to know if anyone else has experienced this or how should I feel about this?! And I would love to get a guy's perspective on this too. I wouldn't read too much into it yet. wait and see how the next visit goes. Everyone is different. Me? If I hadn't seen my girlfriend in weeks/months, I'd be wanting to spend a lot of time in bed - but not everyone is the same. I'd just see how it goes next time, don't sweat this one too much.
Rollercoasterr Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 I'd give him a break for this visit. He was probably just really nervous and worked up over the whole deal. Maybe next time will be back to normal and you can just laugh at yourself for even raising an eyebrow. Honestly, Mathew and I spend every second we can in bed. And it's amazing. The chemistry between us is just....wow. And he'll be here for a wholleeee monthhhhh in August. I'm sure this is nothing, sweetie. I don't think he'd have anyone on the side. You're an amazing girl, and he'd be an idiot if he didn't realize this. He's probably just worked himself up too much. Or maybe he was afraid that after all that talk he gave you, that he might just not be able to hold up to his end of the bargain. That'd be pretty embarrassing!
Author FabulousLadee Posted July 6, 2009 Author Posted July 6, 2009 Thanks guys!! Yeah Im actually chatting with him now. And he said that he was just VERY excited...VERY. He apologized too. I told him he didn't have to apologize...lol...it's okay. IslandGirl, Northstar, and Rollercoasterr..thank you. I'm at ease now...lol I wasn't worried about it too much but it was just weird to me. I know you are sitting on pins and needles Rollercoasterr!!! I already can't wait to see my baby again. We'll probably do late August/early September.
kittie s. Posted July 19, 2009 Posted July 19, 2009 Hey! I know this is an old post, but this kind of thing happened during my b/f&my last visit! I felt the same way you did..haha. We talked about all of these things we wanted to do..then not much of it happened! I think sometimes the build-up can be overwhelming, if that makes any sense. I'm glad you aren't worried about it anymore...I don't think it's a big deal.
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