dpeterson Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 So i am 23 my gf is 20. She is very mature for her age, which is fantastic! But we been together now 2 months and i find that she likes her own space a lot more now than before. Dont get me wrong she is always asking me when i will see her next after we spend a day together.. but little things like we rarely message or call. I am trying to keep my distance also because i have stuff to do but also i dont wanna be smothering. I constantly think about her and i guess we are just getting comfortable now, like we both on the same page, we know we like each other so there is no need to go to certain lengths anymore. But i also want to keep some control of this relationship so that is why i am backing off and will let her message me first before i message her. I guess i just hate it because we had such a good relationship before telling each other how much we cared and everything, now she just seems so busy and independent?
SoulSearch_CO Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 I thought you said you guys were both 22. Anyway - looks like it's time to find some hobbies. Keep yourself busy, but not completely unavailable. You both fell in love with who the other person was coming INTO the relationship - don't lose that...it can really hurt the relationship. It makes it all that much more exciting when you two get back together and can share stories about what you did in your time apart.
Bayern Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 Well I know with friends in real life, the more I know them or better friends I am with them the less contact I have with them via internet and the more personal contact I have. Perhaps she has reached a stage where she is so comfortable with you, she prefers personal contact than chatting online. Just a possible theory. Another is that she is still very interested in you, but the luster has gone. That's kind of a negative way of looking at it. Don't get me wrong marriages last a very long time and are very healthy, but this "luster" does leave eventually. I would also suggest finding something you enjoy doing. Hell, perhaps this is a god-send. I know plenty of friends who want more space from their girlfriends. Good luck.
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