dpeterson Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 So me and my gf have only been together 2 months but we are really open. At the moment i have been laid off work for a while and i had an fund where i had my savings. All my bills were paid with this money for a few months. My money is getting low and we have a mates b;day in the city in a few weeks. I said i will not be able to stay in the hotel cause i wont have enough money to stretch me over till my new job starts. She insisted that she would pay, i said i felt uncomfortable and i would think about it. I spoke to my parents who said they are willing to help. I feel like a bit of a loser telling my gf. The only reason i told her was because she was the one organising this hotel so she had to be told. I feel embarassed and ashamed, but arnt these things that you talk about with somone you share your time with? I wanted to keep it a secret because i want to be a MAN and want to fund myself. I regret telling her, i feel like a baby, she said she was proud that i have handled myself so well over the last couple of months.. arhh i am so confused We are both 22
carhill Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 No worries. Be honest and work it out for yourself. You're not married. Even being married, if I couldn't afford to go, I wouldn't go or I'd make alternative arrangements; I would not look to my wife for such arrangements. Mortgage payment help, sure This is not a roof over our heads, right? Shyte happens in life. It's OK to share that with your GF and thank her for her generosity as you graciously decline it.
Citizen Erased Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 It was the right thing, to tell her. You did good.
SoulSearch_CO Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 Life will be full of bumps and bruises. Any woman that would think poorly of you for being honest isn't relationship-worthy. I'd say the true test of a relationship is the rough times - to see how it is weathered. She sounds very supportive. Rather than beating yourself up for being in a bad position, pat yourself on the back for having found such a great, understanding woman. IMO, with the economy being what it is, as long as you are making strides to FIX your current situation, I don't think it reflects poorly on you at all. Don't be so hard on yourself.
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