hew Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Okay, so im at that stage where its safe to say somedays im over my ex and somedays i still love him with all my heart.. you know? like it seems like there is NO ONE that will give me that great excitment and happiness again. even though you no for a fact there will be someone else.. it just seems like meh.. no one appealing. Is it just me.. or is anyone else like almost afraid to move on. because you dont even want to imagine yourself with someone else. i just cant wake up without him being the first thing on my mind, and then lately there has been days where i dont think about him.. then i realize it and there we go again.. hes on my mind...... !!!! does anyone else feel this way??
asuman Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 It's natural to feel this way. But you know it's not true, as a matter of logic. There's someone out there who's better than your ex. You just have to find him, by putting yourself out there and taking chances.
wow123 Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 I feel the same way at this point. I'm going out having a good time but at the end of the day I think I wont find anyone better than her.
NopeNah Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 I'm around that phase, almost passed it, I beleive. Some days she's on my mind(mainly because of the random texts) and others not at all. I'm also passed the stage of thinking I won't find anyone better. Truth is, I'm fine by myself. I am now hanging out with a new group of friends, mostly female, and living again. Lifes to short to sit around thinking of "what if's".
jqb05443 Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 Its been 2.5 months since the break up. I still cry everyday but not as much as in the beginning. I still haven't gone out with anyone or dated anyone since the break up. I am just not ready. I feel like no one will ever compare to what we had (we were together for 3.5 years). After he broke up with me, I truly realized what a great guy he was. Ironic..I know. You would think I would hate him but instead its like I fell in love with him all over again. I know in time it will pass but it's so hard because I feel like the man I thought I was going to marry just walked out of my life. I am seeing him in 2 weeks. He agreed to go see a show with me and he said we can go to dinner after. I don't have my hopes up but I am going to see how things go then and how we leave off. I am hoping for the best
asuman Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 are you going through this asuman? I was going through it, but am through most of this stage now. I'm in my 30s and have had a few serious relationships. Enough to know that these thoughts of gloom and doom just don't bear out to be true.
gorgio Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 I have gone through this twice in my life and so I know these thoughts are irrational. The effect of the 'drug' is wearing off which is a good sign! Go out and start connecting with new people. Don't give up and do it even if you feel that you are not over him yet. Eventually you will run into someone that you can connect to and you will get that moment of clarity and realize that there are many great people out there
rounder08 Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 I'm going through the same thing as you hew. It's been 6 months since we broke up, but it only hit me about 4 months ago when I found out she was with someone else. I'm better in the sense that I am not down everyday, and most days I'm fine, but when I am at home alone, is when I really feel it and start missing her again. I also go through those same thoughts of no one out there being appealing and feeling at times that no one will ever fill your ex's shoes. You know in the back of your mind that there will be someone else in the future, but for some reason you don't FEEL that way. It's also hard to think of being with someone else, because right now everyone is a complete stranger. I have a tough time thinking of meeting someone because I am expecting to fall in love with them right away, and I know you cannot do that with someone I just met. My ex was not only the love of my life, she was also my best friend and I think as though it is going to be too difficult and impossible to have that relationship with someone else. But love is a powerful thing, and when it hits you, you won't even expect it. Did you ever predict before you and your ex met that you two would meet and fall in love? No. So it's going to happen again with someone else.
Author hew Posted July 6, 2009 Author Posted July 6, 2009 Thanks guys! but to rounder08 , yea i feel how you feel. thats the exact same as me ! he was my bestfreind too. ugh
t0ri Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 I feel the same way. I never really know how I'm going to feel when I wake up in the morning - good, ok, or depressed. It's been a cycle for me as well. I'll have a few good days, then a few bad ones. The bad days were beginning to come less frequently and further between, but the past 2 weeks have been really bad for me. It's been over 4 months since we originally broke up, but he came crawling back 3 weeks later and was seemingly genuine about wanting to "slowly reconcile." He dumped me for good a month after that, so it's really only been a little over 2 months that we've been broken up for good. And NC since then. I've been trying to get out and date, but it's still very weird. Sometimes dating has made me even more depressed because I have little hope that I'll find someone to truly interest me. I hope you all are right and I'll find that that is not true. This was my first breakup, and I'm almost 22, but I guess time will tell.
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