amm Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 I met this group of guys when my friends and I were out the other night. We all sat and talked the rest of the night. One of them seemed interested in me, but nothing happened between any of us. The next day he texted me to see what my friends and I were doing. We met up with him and his friends again that night, but I quickly realized that I was not interested in this guy. I started talking to another one of the guys and we really hit it off. Now he and I want to date, but the first guy is mad. It's not like I dated the first guy or even kissed him, but I feel bad. Should I keep seeing his friend?
lucy9216 Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Yes, you should keep dating the guy you like. Nothing even happened with the other one and you just met them both, do what makes you happy. the other guy will move on there was nothing invested with the two of you anyway.
JohnnyBlaze Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Just to give you a little idea on where the guys in this scene are generally coming from (because, believe me; this sort of thing happens a LOT). You know how you always hear about guys talking about "The Code"? Well, The Code exists for just such occasions. The relevant part of The Code is as such:If Guy A spots a girl he likes and declares he's going to make a move, his friends must not interfere or attempt to "steal" her before he's had sufficient opportunity. He must make his move within a reasonable time frame or she becomes fair game again. Time frame is to be determined by the group. If the girl rejects Guy A, but Guy B also likes her and wishes to make a move after Guy A's rejection, it is considered polite to obtain an okay from Guy A first, to prevent any hard feelings or accusations of girl-theft. However, if a girl makes a move on any of the guys, then the guy that she targeted immediately has all of the rights he would have had he either been Guy A or Guy B with approval. In other words, when the girl calls it, all other bets are off and her targeted guy is clear to pursue. The point to this little story is this: you made the move and talked to the other guy. So, technically, the other guy is free to pursue things with you without any problems from the first guy. Basically, the first guy's just cranky because his friend is getting farther than he did. If the first guy keeps whining about it, his friends will just call him insulting names and tell him to grow up. So yes, definitely date the friend!! His other friends will take care of the first guy to keep him out of the way.
likeORIGAMI Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Yes. If you're into him, you should see him regardless of how the other guy feels. But if he's really good friends with the other guy, you know what they say, bros before hoes.
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