hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 okay most know my story but my ex and I have been broken up for a month now and i know she is seeing someone else(****in? i dont know wouldnt put it passed her) but anyway there are a few things i know she wants and i really want to give it to her but i know that it wont mean anything outside of a nice gesture. it wont help my chances of getting her back she is not into the gift-giving thing for connection purposes. I was thinkn i should just drop her an email wishing her a happy bday cuz hell i dont know if she wouldnt go out with someone else or not. I am definitely not tryin to take her out. I am wavering in my decision b/c truthfully i want her back sooo bad and i want to shower her with gifts and things but no more mr nice guy for me. what should i do....her bday is july 22 by the way so it is creeping near.
Hannah86 Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 A two sentence email will do. Do not send gifts. Do not send flowers. Remember also that she will probably get about 50 emails from her friends and family (also wall posts), so although she will definitely see your email, she might be too busy to answer. I broke up with my ex about a month and a half ago and he sent me an email and I didn't answer it. I will address it the next time I run into him but for now, I am not ready to talk to respond back.
wontgohomewou Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 If she broke up with you and got with another guy then I really don't think she deserves a 'happy bday' wish from you. She should be dead to you for now. Talk to her when you can spend a day with her without wanting her back. Even a small gesture like this can make her believe you still want her.
t0ri Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Not saying a word will speak much greater volumes for you than wishing her a Happy Birthday. She'll probably be expecting to hear from you that day, and you're still being Mr Nice Guy by wanting to say something. I agree with the above poster, she doesn't deserve to hear a "Happy Birthday" from you, after dumping you and then quickly getting involved with someone else. My ex's birthday just passed and I said absolutely nothing because he does not deserve the satisfaction of knowing I even remembered his birthday, let alone thought about him and wished him well. Screw his birthday. Maybe I'm just bitter
Beeotch Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 okay most know my story but my ex and I have been broken up for a month now and i know she is seeing someone else(****in? i dont know wouldnt put it passed her) but anyway there are a few things i know she wants and i really want to give it to her but i know that it wont mean anything outside of a nice gesture. it wont help my chances of getting her back she is not into the gift-giving thing for connection purposes. I was thinkn i should just drop her an email wishing her a happy bday cuz hell i dont know if she wouldnt go out with someone else or not. I am definitely not tryin to take her out. I am wavering in my decision b/c truthfully i want her back sooo bad and i want to shower her with gifts and things but no more mr nice guy for me. what should i do....her bday is july 22 by the way so it is creeping near. Do nothing...at most send a SIMPLE ecard and keep it moving. She is seeing someone else...let HIM shower her with gifts. You already know and admit that it would just be a nice gesture and you KNOW and admit that showering her with gifts won't do anything...so just follow what you know and don't. My ex and I broke up about 2 months before his birthday and then I was still trying hard to be friends...all I did was send him a text and an ecard. That was it!I would have felt like a fool to give him what he reallly wanted (although I thought about it...but now am more than glad I did not do it!)
Author hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 yeah imma shoot an email das it around like 1130pm just so she might not know i contacted her but she might i just feel like the other dude gonna be with her so why do i need to shower her wit all that ....get shyt from him!!!!!!!!!!!!
JohnnyBlaze Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 No, don't send a late night email. That just gives the impression that you're sitting home alone, late at night, thinking about her. Do you really want to be thought of as that guy? My recommendation would be to send nothing. No card, no email, no call, nothing. Just let July 22 be what it was before she came on the scene: another ordinary day. She probably won't respond if you do send her anything, and if she does, it'll be so civil that you'll be able to feel the frost through her email. That won't make either of you feel any better. In my never-so-humble opinion, just let the day go by.
Beeotch Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 yeah imma shoot an email das it around like 1130pm just so she might not know i contacted her but she might i just feel like the other dude gonna be with her so why do i need to shower her wit all that ....get shyt from him!!!!!!!!!!!! Ummm why would u do that? Lol Send her an email so she might not know you contacted her *confused face* Why not just not send it at all?
asuman Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Don't send it. Maintain your dignity. She chose another man over you. As long as she lives with that foolish mistake, let her live the consequences of not having your affection in her life. Nothing in life is free... except your affection? BS. No card. No email. No text. Nada.
Author hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted July 6, 2009 Author Posted July 6, 2009 i guess i was trying to be nice but yall right she expecting me to contact her *** dat well imma try not too but imma be stronger she doesnt deserve me attention....sungod
complication Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 Don't send it. Maintain your dignity. She chose another man over you. As long as she lives with that foolish mistake, let her live the consequences of not having your affection in her life. Nothing in life is free... except your affection? BS. No card. No email. No text. Nada. DOT. Stick to this.
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