Mr. Noname Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Ok, the time I'm typing this I'm f***ing frustrated, I am feeling so angry and I want to destroy everything around me. I don't understand, over a few days my ex gf dumped me 2 months ago. Why does it feel like I didn't made progress? I went out to dinner tonight with my family, maybe that's why I'm frustrated, my ex gf who I love so much wasn't there. It's over and she is living her life without me, I think she is dating other guys now and what do I have? An F***ed up feeling, nothing more nothing less. I envy my best friend who is very happy with his girlfriend and is having a great vacation with her at the time. My ex gf dumped me because she didn't see any future with me, she would not be happy for the rest of her life. She dumped me because she is young and want to enjoy life more and wants to see if the grass is greener on the other side. My god I feel so sad, I miss her so bad, I feel agression, anxiety... how can this be, it's 2 months ago! Is this normal or am I a f***cked up wacko? I need love, I miss it, I'm scared that nobody will love me like she did! Scared that I will never meet somebody, scared for the fact I maybe run into her, scared I will hear in a couple of days/weeks/months that she is dating other guys or is having a relationship. Man I can't stand myself, just why, why do I feel like this at this moment?!
LisaUk Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Hi, yes it's normal, I'm 4 months in, it's normal. You had strong feelings for her and you can't just turn that off. Take comfort in the fact that you are capable of loving someone this way and you deserve someone to love you the same way back, not someone who thinks the grass is greener. I am told by those who have been here before us that this will get easier with time. My friend thought she would never get over her 7 year relationship, now she's married witha beautiful daughter, and she said to me when my ex (of 18 years) left, I now thank my ex for leaving, now I have my husband I know what true love is. It's hard to see, it's hard for me to see, but I am assured we will with time.
Road To Joy Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Ok, the time I'm typing this I'm f***ing frustrated, I am feeling so angry and I want to destroy everything around me. I don't understand, over a few days my ex gf dumped me 2 months ago. Why does it feel like I didn't made progress? I went out to dinner tonight with my family, maybe that's why I'm frustrated, my ex gf who I love so much wasn't there. It's over and she is living her life without me, I think she is dating other guys now and what do I have? An F***ed up feeling, nothing more nothing less. I envy my best friend who is very happy with his girlfriend and is having a great vacation with her at the time. My ex gf dumped me because she didn't see any future with me, she would not be happy for the rest of her life. She dumped me because she is young and want to enjoy life more and wants to see if the grass is greener on the other side. My god I feel so sad, I miss her so bad, I feel agression, anxiety... how can this be, it's 2 months ago! Is this normal or am I a f***cked up wacko? I need love, I miss it, I'm scared that nobody will love me like she did! Scared that I will never meet somebody, scared for the fact I maybe run into her, scared I will hear in a couple of days/weeks/months that she is dating other guys or is having a relationship. Man I can't stand myself, just why, why do I feel like this at this moment?! I have gone through EVERYTHING you mentioned. And the reasons she broke up with you are in a way, the same reasons my girlfriend no longer wanted to be with me (I did the break up only because she was too coward to do it). It is completely normal to feel this way and ready for the cliche? It'll ease up with time. The best thing you can do is go out and get a hobby. Sometimes I hate going out, and I feel sad even if I do, and the one thing I want to do is go home. Then I go home, and the next day the anxiety subsides and I feel good that I went out. All this cliche advice people give you is actually exactly what you should do. I know it sounds vague, "Go out and get a hobby," but it's really as simple as it sounds. The thing is, while going through this, we don't want a little sentence for advice. We want a long, detailed how-to guide on how to get through this. It gives us a sense of security. But really, all you need is right here on LS But if you want that 'plus', go read books on heartbreaks. There's plenty out there. They describe the recovery process, and advice on what you should do, etc etc. Basically everything you read on here except in book-form. Good luck, and remember you're not alone.
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