bluewolf17 Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 So I have been going between NC and LC since our split in February. I really thought things were turning around. He calls me, texts me. He invited me over to watch a movie last Thursday. Then we went and had drinks, then hung out till 4am. Not one since our split has he put a move on me. Bad sign, right? So if anyone knows me, 4th of July is my fav day of the year. I throw big parties, with bigger fireworks, BBQ's, invite lots of people over. Last night we had about 70 people over. It was amazing. Of course I invited my ex, because I love him, and I want him in my life. He said he would come and make a appearence...he lives around the street. So of course he never shows. I get sadder and sadder. I am lighting off my fireworks and just SO Sad. Half expecting him to pull up at any moment, but he never did. I got a text from him around midnight saying "hey sorry I didn't make it, how did it go?" I ignored it. Today I blocked his number from my phone and my email. I blocked him on Facebook. It might seem like a small thing to get so mad over last night, but it's really not. This has been going on for 6 months. I love him, I want another try. He wants to "wait and see" and he gets to make all the moves. I just feel so strung along. I can't beleive it's amost been 6 months know. And I think he is just more over me than before. He knew how much last night meant to me. When we first dated, he lived in a college town 3 hours away from me. He didn't have a job then, so he would pawn his cds or books to buy a train ticket, just to come up to see me for the day. Now I can't even get him to come to a party around the corner. This is a huge sign. So I am going complete NC. I tried, I gave it my best, and he just keeps proving to me that I will only be disapointed in him. He will never give me want a I want. Goodbye LC, hello NC. Don't get strung along ladies, it sucks.
2sunny Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 good for you! he has shown you by his actions that he obviously has an option that he considers above you. the fact that he text at midnight means he spent the evening with his first option and wanted to bait you later in the evening.
asuman Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 When we first dated, he lived in a college town 3 hours away from me. He didn't have a job then, so he would pawn his cds or books to buy a train ticket, just to come up to see me for the day. Now I can't even get him to come to a party around the corner. This is a huge sign. Not just a huge sign. This says it all. A guy friend of mine told me about how his current girlfriend arrived in town from a late flight from New York (we're on the west coast), dealt with a crisis involving her seriously ill father, and still somehow made it out to see him for a date they had planned that very evening. When someone's into you, they find a way to make it work no matter what. If they're not going to make that effort for you, why do you want to lower your standards to be with someone so apathetic toward you?
Author bluewolf17 Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 Yup, you guys are right. It took me so long to see, I just didn't want to. He gave me little pieces. I just don't understand why he couldn't just let me go. It's so unfair. Whenever I went NC before, he would get in touch with me, on the pretense of getting this stupid canoe I bought him for Christmas. Of course he never got it. I know he just used it as a excuse to contact me. Today I posted it on Craigslist and sold it for $750 bucks. I am sure he will be contacting me soon about it, once he realizes I am not talking to him anymore. I won't ever tell him I sold it, because I don't plan on ever talking to him again. But when he comes to pick it up at my parents house (I told him just to go get it when he wanted it) and he sees its not there, I am sure he will get my HUGE SIGN. Plus, that $750 helps pay for my vacation to Europe next month. At least he gave me one good thing.
Road To Joy Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Don't get strung along ladies, it sucks. Believe me, it happens to us guys, too. Manipulative, spoiled, Gemini (no offense to anyone), selfish, indecisive, b*tch ex-girlfriend strung me along, too. That was over a month ago, though. And I'm better now. 1
rounder08 Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Believe me, it happens to us guys, too. Manipulative, spoiled, Gemini (no offense to anyone), selfish, indecisive, b*tch ex-girlfriend strung me along, too. That was over a month ago, though. And I'm better now. Yeah, what is it about Gemini's? My ex did the same by stringing me along too.
jqb05443 Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 Hey Blue I am so sorry to hear that. I have been following your story since I felt like we were in the same situation and it seemed like things were really going in the right direction for you. I was really rooting (not sure if I spelled that right) for you. I know it must have hurt you for him not to have come to your party. And you are right..it shows alot. I am meeting my ex in 2 weeks for dinner and a show (I did the inviting to show and he suggested dinner after). I am not expecting much but I will see how things go that day. Its been a month since we have seen eachother. Sorry didn't mean to go off track. Are you going to keep his number blocked? Are you totally done with him?
Author bluewolf17 Posted July 6, 2009 Author Posted July 6, 2009 Thanks for the kind words everyone. Yes I am totally done. The only thing that would bring me back is if he showed up at my doorstep with roses and a long explanation. And of course he wanted to get back together for real. And even that would be followed by me being very hesitant with him. Don't let my situation guide your decision, jqb05443. All I can say is you will know when it has been to much for you. (if you get there). Sometimes you just have to walk away. I tried. I really did. Maybe he will see that down the road. For now, I am picking up. I will never cry on the 4th of July again.
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