shotdowninthe212 Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 I had a real good relationship with a girl for a month. we knew each other for around a month before that and became good friends and partners. In the month that we were dating problems were arising at home and internally for her. She stated that in order for her to take care of her problems, she needs to break up with me in order for her to handle everything. She also said that i should have a girlfriend that has me as a first priority, and not one thats near the end of her list. I told her that i dont feel that way at all...but she thought i was. All of this has happened within a month, and recently, she stopped talking to me. When ever i try to communicate she tells me to stop sending her text messages , instant messages, because it makes things even worse. I told her shes changed, and she tells me she hasnt, that shes being nice and doesnt want me to push. Ive cried, even though it was a month relationship, because i saw this actually going somewhere, not like my other relationships. What do i do, how can i cope with this on my end without breaking down again in front of my friends, making my self look stupid.
asuman Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 I had a real good relationship with a girl for a month. we knew each other for around a month before that and became good friends and partners. In the month that we were dating problems were arising at home and internally for her. She stated that in order for her to take care of her problems, she needs to break up with me in order for her to handle everything. She also said that i should have a girlfriend that has me as a first priority, and not one thats near the end of her list. I told her that i dont feel that way at all...but she thought i was. All of this has happened within a month, and recently, she stopped talking to me. When ever i try to communicate she tells me to stop sending her text messages , instant messages, because it makes things even worse. I told her shes changed, and she tells me she hasnt, that shes being nice and doesnt want me to push. Ive cried, even though it was a month relationship, because i saw this actually going somewhere, not like my other relationships. What do i do, how can i cope with this on my end without breaking down again in front of my friends, making my self look stupid. I'm on this board because I dated a girl for 2 months before we ended things. So I understand how feelings can well up so quickly. But you need to let her go and leave her alone. She's specifically asked you to do so, which means you've already taken it too far. The advantage of dating someone for such a short time is that normally there has been no time for anything negative about each other to creep into your images of each other. That's certainly the case with my "ex". But when you harp on her and don't respect her wishes and her decision, you're lowering the value of those good times you had together. My ex suggested we remain friends. I told her maybe some day but not right now. We've had zero contact and I doubt I will talk to her or see her again until months and months into the future, after I'm sure that I'm over her.
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