yankees13 Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Let me give you a little info about our relationship, we have been together about 6 months and there has been a few arguments over petty stuff in the past, but nothing major. He has been married and has two kids with his ex wife. Well everything seemed to be going ok til yesterday. We had plans to get together on the 4th of July and I texted him around dinner and got worried, because the day was almost over and I didn't hear from him. I didn't get a response so then I texted something mean like " thanks for standing me up" A few minutes later he responds and says " I need to talk to you". Well we all know that never means anything good, so I told him no I don't want to hear it, I have a feeling and I can't add to the stress in my life right now. ( I am going through some really tough times with my job and this really is the worst timing possible) He wanted to visit me face to face, but honestly I didn't want to see him so I told him to call me. He then told me he wanted to raise his kids and he was in tears, because this hurt him equally. He said he is getting back with his ex wife for the kids. From what I know their relationship was horrible so I'm not sure why he would do that? He told me I would never understand because I don't have any children. This is something I really can't fight though, but I am having a horrible time dealing. HORRIBLE. I am already depressed because of my job and now this. I have never dated anyone with kids so I really can't relate. Can someone please give me advice??? I love him very much and he loves me, so he says. What a horrible time to get dumped :-(
hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 it is hard when u have kids i have a lil gurl and i wanted to work it out with her mom but in the end we just dont click. he will soon realize that and maybe he will come back to u but dont take him back immediately be strong. i know it hurts but u dont understand cuz u dont have kids. As men we want to have a familial structured home. the home environment and itz stablility means a lot when raising kids and it can be tough. just hang in there it will be okay.
asuman Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 I'm really sorry to hear this. At least he was honest and direct with you, rather than letting you drag on for months more unwittingly. You would not want to find out about this the hard way, as many people on this forum do. It hurts, but you are now liberated to live the rest of your life. You would not want to be fooled into wasting more time on a situation that was not going to last, right?
boogieboy Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 I'm really sorry to hear this. At least he was honest and direct with you, rather than letting you drag on for months more unwittingly. You would not want to find out about this the hard way, as many people on this forum do. It hurts, but you are now liberated to live the rest of your life. You would not want to be fooled into wasting more time on a situation that was not going to last, right? Yeah alot of people lie to their SO's with a breakup, so I think he did you a great favor. Not only that but seriously, this will put a bad taste in your mouth for guys with kids from a previous marriage, and I think its a good thing. You probably want your own kids, and now you will concentrate on guys who have no kids. In another few months, when you get over this guy, you'll see alot clearer that youre better off without him.
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