mendsley Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 A am feeling a little down, the fourth used to be a very exciting time. The ex wife and our kids would go to her families house and have a really fun time, very memorable. This was the first time without her in 10 years and it sucked. I hate when holidays come up cause you sit back and remember the times you used to have. I know it will suck for the next couple of days and then pass but, I really hate the emotions I have to deal with meanwhile It really makes me wonder though how I loved someone sooo much and the other person just moved on so easy and is enjoying life while I stand there trying to recover. I just needed to get that off my chest, we have been seperated for about 11 months...when will I move on
Lyssa Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Mendsley, this must be a tough time for you. Holidays are the most hardest to get through after a separation/divorce/break up esp for the ones that have in a LTR. 10 years together was a long time, Mendsley - I reckon it will take more than a year to really get over it. Keep in mind that you will get over her and move on. Just give yourself time to grieve the loss of a marriage.
now_what Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 Hi Mendsley, Sorry to here you were feeling bad around the 4th holiday, I can commiserate. Last year my ex and I were not getting along very well, but went to our local fairgrounds to see the fireworks and had a good time together. I felt like that could be a new beginning - and it was - just for him though, from what he has told me he began seeing someone else in July (maybe he seemed happy because he was thinking about her). Anyhow he left in September and has just created a new life for himself, has even remarried already. You just wonder, how can you just walk away from someone after a long time (30 years for me) and not give it another thought? I don't know how people can be so selfish - like their actions do not affect anyone else. I'm just beginning to feel like moving on - I've been feeling a little depressed lately, but have been trying to pull myself up and go on with my life. If you think about it, there is no point feeling bad and not seeing what the rest of your life holds for you because another person has changed the game plan. They certainly aren't losing any sleep over it. Good luck and take care.
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