luv_rocks Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Hi all, I'm in my early 20's and have a new boyfriend in his mid 20's. We are having great sex, really enjoy it. He went away on a business trip just yesterday for about 2 weeks or so on. Two days before he left he asked me if I was going to wait for him. I'm not sure if he meant:not having sex with anyone or not breaking up with him. I asked him why he asked me that question and he said something like he believes 2 weeks is a long time. Thanks.
TaraMaiden Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Can you go two weeks without having sex/seeing someone else? if you can, it's problem solved - isn't it? Maybe he thinks he's the one who can't stay faithful so he's just checking.....
Author luv_rocks Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 Can you go two weeks without having sex/seeing someone else? Is this something you are asking me or you believe this what he meant? The think is this: I am separated, my ex-husband still has stuff in my apartment. Sometimes he stays in my apartment over night, but we sleep in separated bad and don't have sex. We actually stopped having sex more than a year ago. However I told this guy, but I think he believes that I still sleep with my ex. My bf told me that he's not having sex with anybody else and I don't really see how his question would imply him thinking about having sex. Another thing i have to mention is that the day he asked me the question he sent me a text message telling me that we should meet soon after he comes back from his trip. Also we chatted about other things related to our next meeting. If he believes I can't wait , then why he would make plans/talk about our next meeting?
TaraMaiden Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Is this something you are asking me or you believe this what he meant? Both. The think is this: I am separated, my ex-husband still has stuff in my apartment. Sometimes he stays in my apartment over night, but we sleep in separated bad and don't have sex. We actually stopped having sex more than a year ago. However I told this guy, but I think he believes that I still sleep with my ex. Ah, now we're getting somewhere. My bf told me that he's not having sex with anybody else and I don't really see how his question would imply him thinking about having sex. It's not 'about him', it's 'about you'. Another thing i have to mention is that the day he asked me the question he sent me a text message telling me that we should meet soon after he comes back from his trip. Also we chatted about other things related to our next meeting. If he believes I can't wait , then why he would make plans/talk about our next meeting? He's jealous, insecure, but he wants to meet up with you because it would cement that you're still together, maybe?
Author luv_rocks Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 I forgot to mention something else. I can't edit my first post. Actually he asked me two questions: one was if i was going to wait for him.later in the discussion he asked me if i was sure I can wait for me. Then when I asked him why he believes I don't want to wait he said that thing about 2 weeks being long time. We live far away from each other and only met every 2 week or ever 3 so far. So why would he believe that 2 weeks is long now?
Author luv_rocks Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 Tara thanks. So you think that he believe that I'm still having sex with my ex? I told him about 3 times that first I was using any pills because I didn't have any reason (this was before I slept with him).Than later he asked when I slept with ex last time and I told him that was long time ago. The 3rd time he asked me something about not using pills again and how my ex and I doing it so I don't get pregnant. I thought he was a bit jealous. He asked me one time if I was sleping with someone else the whole week before we met. I said no and he emphisized on the question asking me again if I was sure.
LoveLace Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 I'm guessing he just meant that you won't get involved with anyone else between now and his return.....apparently 2 weeks is enough time for that to happen, in his mind. But that's just a guess. If your still not clear on it but you want to know, you'll need to ask him again, what was the point of that question.
Author luv_rocks Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 I'm guessing he just meant that you won't get involved with anyone else between now and his return.....apparently 2 weeks is enough time for that to happen, in his mind. But that's just a guess. If your still not clear on it but you want to know, you'll need to ask him again, what was the point of that question. I asked him and he said he worries because 2 weeks is long time, but actually were due to meet the week he left , this because we mostly meet every 2 weeks. So now it's going to be an extra 2 weeks. But at the same time he didn't say that I have to wait 4 weeks, just 2. So he's concerned about the next 2 weeks, not the whole time.Then I asked him what about if I wouldn't wait? He said he hopes I would. Now it's too late for another question. As I said before, we only meet every 2 weeks or more, so to ask me now if I can wait 2 weeks doesn't make any sense to me.
LoveLace Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 Well I'm confused, anyone else? hehe Doesn't sound like anything to worry about then. Long as you tell him yes you will wait for him, that's apparently all he wants to hear and there's probably no need to wonder about it anymore.
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