b3nx Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 So I will keep this short I am a nice guy who does a lot to show my gf how much I care, she says that I am the best thing tha has happened to her but I feel like I am whipped sometimes, she will write in messages hope your not missing me too much, and I will be like of course I am missing you baby and she wrote oh that's alright then, I feel by her writing that, that I am whipped by her and I don't want to be I wantcto be a manly figure, but I also have a soft side, should I try and change or go with the flow? I have just been taken for granted in the past by being too nice and I don't want someone to walk all over me.. She is not that kind of girl but so I dunno.. What you think I should do?
whichwayisup Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 You need to even up the balance. When it shifts one way too much, usually it goes to the other persons head abit and they get an ego trip out of it. Not in a malcious way, but in a self serving/selfish way. Next time she says something like that, say back, "How can I miss you when we see eachother daily?" Or "You don't give me a chance to miss you because we talk everyday." Or something like that. Another way of dealing with this is, don't answer her text right away.. Once in a while make other plans with friends, don't make her your only focus in your life. You can still be a nice guy and say no, stand up for yourself without being rude, or a jerk. Balance is the key..
boogieboy Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 You can show her that she wont walk all over you by being a lil cocky. Next time she says ssomething like "hope your not missing me too much" you say "well its obvious you miss me!"
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