Tiar Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Hi there, i've come here hoping for a bit of honest advice and any opinions. Anyway, I'm a 20-year-old male. I'm reasonably attractive and of a good height; not too small and not too big. Recently, i've lost a lot of weight, which can only be a good thing regarding picking up girls for relationships and such. However, my body is ravished with pretty horrific looking stretch marks on my arms and inner thighs. These stretch marks have damaged my self-esteem quite significantly, to the point where I am unwilling to get sexual with any girls which are interested in me purely because I am scared as to what thier reaction might be. Now, I was wondering whether any girls here have boyfriends who have quite significant stretch marks on thier bodies, and whether this bothers them at all? Thanks.
Jilly Bean Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 A lot of weightlifters have stretch marks. Totally non-impactful, IMO. If it really bothers you, look into laser removal. I think that can help. But, they will fade over time. Most people have some type of stretch mark here and there. Congrats on losing the weight, btw.
Author Tiar Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 A lot of weightlifters have stretch marks. Totally non-impactful, IMO. If it really bothers you, look into laser removal. I think that can help. But, they will fade over time. Most people have some type of stretch mark here and there. Congrats on losing the weight, btw. I know the odd stretch mark here and there is perfectly acceptable and non-impactful, but the strecth marks on my inner thighs are horrendous. My crotch is literally stretch mark central. It really does bother me. I suppose I will eventually have to deal with them but i'm scared ****less as to what girls will say or think!
Bayern Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 It's not a big deal. Have confidence in your personality. Everyone has a physical defect. (my hands sweat like a faucet)
boogieboy Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Believe it or not, once girls get into you mentally, they can look past things like that. So if they dont say anything, YOU dont say anything. If you let it affect your confidence, they will see it, and you will make them lose their attraction to you. SO forget about the stretchmarks. No one cares. Matter of fact, if any girls DO ask you about the stretchmarks, you make up something funny. "Oh yeah, these happened from a rough sex trick I tried, next time I try that, Ill use a jigsaw like I was supposed to...." Just make up anything. They'll laugh, and BOOM...instant confidence.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Start a cocoa butter regimen fast. Get something like palmers or pure cocoa butter and moisturize your skin everyday. It will take time, but if you follow through this routine everyday, you will see significant improvement in the quality of your skin. Also try to up your intake of vitamins and natural oils. I would also recommend you start exfoliating your skin with a scrub in the shower to slough away the dead skin. It really helps. Stretch marks are unavoidable but you can prevent them before they form or improve their appearance after the onset of the scars. The only way to completely eradicate them is through laser surgery, but that's an expensive route to go down unless your insurance covers it. I would recommend what I mentioned above before you decide to undergo laser.
torranceshipman Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Ok she won't laugh at the rough sex joke line - you really would creep someone out with that!! Do you have the option of looking into surgery? It'd be a great idea to speak to your doc and see what your options are. Otherwise, I agree with the poster that said girls can look past physical stuff once they're mentally into you. This is really true.
Author Tiar Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 Thanks guys, your advice is appreciated. I'm going to take your advice and see a doctor. I think another thing i'm going to try and do to boost my confidence regarding the stretch marks is continue to work out and lose a little bit more weight. Perhaps becoming very fit and healthy will detract away from my imperfections!?
pandagirl Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Tiar, I understand being self-conscious about your stretch marks. As a teen, I got A LOT as a result of weight gain and growth spurts. We're talking dark purple and unsightly. But over time they faded and now are pretty much invisible. Yours will also fade with time. Be proud of your weight loss! Feel good about that! I really think a guy won't care. Feeling insecure will show through, and that will turn off a guy more than some superficial marks.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Thanks guys, your advice is appreciated. I'm going to take your advice and see a doctor. I think another thing i'm going to try and do to boost my confidence regarding the stretch marks is continue to work out and lose a little bit more weight. Perhaps becoming very fit and healthy will detract away from my imperfections!? I have to ask, do you have loose skin? Sometimes stretch marks are associated with loose skin. I would also like to add that our skin is a very elastic so the chances of stretch marks diminishing is very high. The thing you can do is if you feel like you have to lose weight, focus on losing a bit more body fat so your skin can pull itself together.
dreamergrl Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Tiar, I understand being self-conscious about your stretch marks. As a teen, I got A LOT as a result of weight gain and growth spurts. We're talking dark purple and unsightly. But over time they faded and now are pretty much invisible. Yours will also fade with time. Be proud of your weight loss! Feel good about that! I really think a guy won't care. Feeling insecure will show through, and that will turn off a guy more than some superficial marks. Pssttt... PG ... he is a guy I agree with Paper... there's a lot that you can try on your skin to lessen the appearance. I wouldn't be disgusted by something like that though. Everyone has something about their body they don't like. I'd take your stretch marks if you can find me bigger boobs :laugh:
Isolde Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Think of them as a reminder of how hard you worked to lose that weight. Trust me, from both the health and aesthetic standpoint, scars are way better than being overweight.
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