Brady_to_Moss Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Making eye contact and smiling at her. Ask her questions about herself and not really take about myself unless asked. Tease her about stupid/silly stuff. Give her a hard time but then smilie. Try to break the touch barrier once all of this has happened. Compliment her, saying she looks amazing today and what not. Are these good flirting techniques? Today i was at a car show, and i saw this cute girl a few times around the area and the last time i saw her i smiled at her to see what would happen...but she gave me a not so friendly look. I was kind of taken back by this. Maybe she was having a bad day or something. This is only like the second time i have done this to a girl in public and have not gotten good results. Do girls like to be smilied at by random guys? Do they get creeped out? I was seeing if she would smile back but nope
IcemanJB Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Well first off, don't rely only on "techniques". I will say if she looks at you and you have a weird, stalkerish, creepy smile she won't like it. Second, it's ONE GIRL. Maybe she was in a bad mood. Who knows. If you smile and say hi while passing someone, I'm sure 90% of the time they'll return the favor. As a rule of thumb, I just 'go with the flow', given the situation. If you go around applying the same "techniques" verbatim in vastly different scenarios, it will be very hit or miss (but mostly miss). Really, all you should be worried about is building up your confidence (which means talking to lots and lots of people), and learning how to make people laugh. True confidence will shine through any technique, and it just feels so much more genuine. Also, things like eye contact and smile seem to develope naturally from having confidence.
colosseum Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Making eye contact and smiling at her. Ask her questions about herself and not really take about myself unless asked. Tease her about stupid/silly stuff. Give her a hard time but then smilie. Try to break the touch barrier once all of this has happened. Compliment her, saying she looks amazing today and what not. I'd say these are good techniques, but... Well first off, don't rely only on "techniques". I will say if she looks at you and you have a weird, stalkerish, creepy smile she won't like it. Second, it's ONE GIRL. Maybe she was in a bad mood. Who knows. If you smile and say hi while passing someone, I'm sure 90% of the time they'll return the favor. As a rule of thumb, I just 'go with the flow', given the situation. If you go around applying the same "techniques" verbatim in vastly different scenarios, it will be very hit or miss (but mostly miss). Really, all you should be worried about is building up your confidence (which means talking to lots and lots of people), and learning how to make people laugh. True confidence will shine through any technique, and it just feels so much more genuine. Also, things like eye contact and smile seem to develope naturally from having confidence. ...like Iceman says, if you think too much about "technique" you're not being yourself. You can take advantage of them to build your confidence, but beyond that it becomes bland, superficial, and I suspect ultimately ineffective. And seriously, you're basing your success rate on 2 instances?! 2?!?! Come back to us after you've done at least a hundred. (I'm not encouraging becoming labeled as a creeper/stalker, but just practicing public approaches).
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 I'd say these are good techniques, but... ...like Iceman says, if you think too much about "technique" you're not being yourself. QUOTE] See for me, if i am myself, i will NEVER flirt unless i push myself and think of what i should do next all the time. The only times i do flirt, is when i go over in my head what i need to do even though it might not come through natural.
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