collegekid491 Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 Gonna sum this up as fast as I can We have been dating 6 months, we havn't gone all the way. She is a virgin so I have been reluctant to push because I understand that its something a girl has to be comfortable with (she's in uni, so she has obviously saved it for a reason). I bring it up sometimes and she didn't shy away but wanted us to do other things (like go to the beach or go skinny dipping) because the whole... exposing her whole body to me scares her. Now all of a sudden she became distant and doesn't call me when she says she will, so obviously I confront her on it to which she makes up a few excuses. I kept at it a bit because I knew she was hiding, and it comes out that she is pissed I wasn't more persistent prior...? I'm confused, like as much as I take it as the green light, I'm concerned she may snap back with a 'you pushed me into it' after. What do you think? Part of me is thinking these games are just down right childish and I should dump her ass, at the same time though its the first time in 6 months I've seen this side of her. Could it also be possible she feels pressured by her friends? Trying to gain some perspective and direction
mammax3 Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 I'm sorry, a little more clarification: She wants you to be a little more persistent in pushing her for sex? If I've understood that correctly, she may be asking for more assurances that you find her sexy enough (if she's reluctant to show you her body, she may be pushing you away before you can say you don't like her body). Maybe. Ideally, if two people are having sex, they would be open enough to discuss their emotions surrounding it - especially if it's her first time. Communication will be very important.
colosseum Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 I kept at it a bit because I knew she was hiding, and it comes out that she is pissed I wasn't more persistent prior...? I'm confused, like as much as I take it as the green light, I'm concerned she may snap back with a 'you pushed me into it' after. What do you think? LOL yeah, she is pissed that you didn't rape her. WHAT!?! Please, from what I can tell, there is no way you could have known to be pushy about that unless you were a serial rapist stealing virginity of young women. You should be concerned that she would accuse you of rape. Maybe you guys just didn't communicate, but if she wanted it she should have been clear. That, or she had a bad day/week and is just being pissy. No man, from what I can tell you did nothing wrong. Maybe just lack of communication. Expletives in the following, but a short clip to which you may be able to relate. It's worth it:
kassy Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 I think she is probably feeling you might not find her too attractive since you were so patient (it's just her nerves nothing to be too worried about IMHO). She probably is ready to sleep with you but doesn't want to have to initiate it. I suggest you set up a super romatic night - candle lit dinner etc and just get her in the mood and go for it. She is going to be really nervous, but just make her feel like the sexiest woman on earth and she'll be so happy.
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