Cowboy2theCore Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 First of all I hope the one I am talking about doesn't read this. If so just be open minded. lol... well around a month ago i gave this woman my number on myspace after writing back and forth for about two weeks I believe. Well she text me. We text back and forth for about a month. I believe we probally talked maybe 10 times during that month. We never talked on the phone. Well I wanted to meet her. So I asked her if she wanted to go out to see a movie. She agreeded. Well the day before the movie I called her because I wanted to hear her voice to make sure she was at least a woman. Well she was and she asked if the movie was still a go and I said yeah. She was like cool it's a date. I was like ok it's a date. She told me she can't wait to see me and I told her like wise. Well the next day we decided on a time and meet at the movie theater. She was very pretty and had a nice smile on her face. Well I paid for the movie and we went in. At first I was a little nervous, but got over that quickly. She kept on playing with her hair when I talked to her and during the movie she kept on moving her hands together. I believe by her body movement she was nervous. I could not tell if she wanted to hold hands or not. I didn't feel it would be right because it was the first time we ever meet. Well after the movie we walked out together and walked to her truck. We talked for about 2 minutes and she had to go. She said she had a great time and would like for me and her to go out for dinner sometime. We hugged each other and she was on her way. Well also earlier that day I got a new phone and decided to text her my new number after she left. I told her that was my new number and i hope she drives safe and I had a fun time and cant wait to see her again. She didn't reply back that night. I texted her in the morning and told her that i texted her from my new phone and don't know if she got that number or not. My old phone doesn't shut off till 2 weeks later. She text me from my new number and told me she got it. She is out of town this weekend at a beach. I text her the night after our movie and told her goodnight and sweet dreams. she said thanks. well i texted her the next morning and told her good morning. I didn't hear anything from her. well today she text me and told me happy 4th of july. i text her and told her thanks and for her to have a happy 4th too. 30 mins later I texted her just to ask her how her trip was. she has not replied back. I have some questions. Am I texting to much? Am I talking to her to much? Am I going to scare her away? Do you think she likes me? (just by her body language) Should I call more than text? I just feel that when you text you don't get out much info about someone, so I would rather call. If I was to call then how long should i talk to her for. Normally, I always scare women away. I think I talk to them to much and it might make them feel that I am too clingy. I just don't want to scare anyone away. I know that after I am with that person things are better towards me knowing how much I should talk to them. These are just questions that I have running through my mind. I hate having problems with women. I need to just have the attitude that I don't care really. I might talk to her every once in a while but not think that maybe we could hook up. Please can anyone give me some advice??? The more advice I can get the better. Thanks in advance.
dreamergrl Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 Holy texting batman. Calm down and chill! Just set plans for another date and leave it at that.
mammax3 Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 I agree. Waaaay too much texting for only having had one date. Ease up a bit cowboy.
lucy9216 Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Yes, too much texting. You are seeming a little desperate to this girl and you two only had one date, after the first date it may be a little normal to either call or text the other person to let them know you got home safe but that is it! wait about 2 or 3 days to even contact her after that. You may not mean to but you are comming off as very clingy and that is a huge turn off.
Cora Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Well, I can be pretty clingy myself and I'm always wishing guys would text me more than they do.....however, what you are doing is a bit excessive. To be honest, I wouldn't even text her once a day until you get to know her more and have been on more dates etc.. Once plans have been arranged for the next date don't text her anymore. You should only contact her if you have to cancel and that should really be done by calling.
DMadd Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 Yes agreed.. just try to control your eagerness and just set plans with the next texting..
bac Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 it depends on her personal preferences. you should find the way to get that information from her.
lora22 Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 If she's not texting you back, you're texting too much. I would refrain from ever texting "goodnight" and "good morning" messages to someone you're dating/not your SO. Also, instead of texting her "Happy 4th" and then a little later "How's your trip" you should text "Happy 4th, how's your trip?" - see what I'm getting at? That is way less clingy than what you did. Sending the two texts a half hr apart makes it seem like you're desperately seeking her attention - she didn't text you back after the first one, so you texted her a direct question trying to prompt her to talk to you. Calling is always better than texting if you just wanna chat. I would keep all phone calls under 15 minutes at this point, and it would be best to just call her to set up another date and leave it at that, as dreamergirl said.
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