CD111 Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 My exboyfriend broke up with me about a month and a half ago. Since then he has continued to call, text and message me online. Initially, I was willing to be friends within him after we have had some time apart; however, he has continually tried to contact me. I have been direct and told him that I do not want to get back together with him, I don't want to go out to dinner with him and that I want him to just leave me alone. Then he stops calling for a few days and it all starts again. I have had a few conversations with him since then and he always ends up crying. He calls me in the middle of the night. Really this is borderline stalker material. I ignore and my phone is blown up with numerous messages and texts. I have been trying to figure out how to block him on my phone. I have deleted him of my facebook profile. Maybe I just need one of my friends to pretend they are my new boyfriend and tell him off.
TaraMaiden Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 You need to first of all read Caliguy's hints on No Contact. Then you need to take drastic measures, even going so far as changing your home 'phone and mobile numbers. Then, you need to get a letter from a solicitor/Lawyer telling him that unless he ceases contact forthwith as requested, you will have no choice but to slap a restraining order on him. That it's really something you're reluctant to do, but you will do it. Then really - never speak to him again. Don't give him the time of day, not even for a moment. Don't give him your attention. Never respond, never reply not ever, not even out of politeness. Cut him off completely, and make like he really does not exist. Sorry if you've mentioned this elsewhere -why did he break up with you? He seems a bit 'screwed up', if he's the one who broke it off, and now he's doing this.... creepy.... Shame. Take care.
ratingsguy Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 You don't have to change your phone number. Most carriers will block a telephone number for you at no charge. Call and ask. I had a situation (possibly still have) where this woman I spent some time with wouldn't leave me alone, even after I told her I didn't want to pursue a relationship with her. Luckily no phone calls, but the texts and e-mails wouldn't stop... even despite ignoring her. Verizon Wireless for instance will block numbers from calling and texting, however, the block only lasts for three months. But you can call back and have them reinstitute the block, again at no cost. In fact when I explained to the lady at Verizon what was happening, she said to me, "Yeah, I hear a lot of stories like that!"
Author CD111 Posted July 4, 2009 Author Posted July 4, 2009 He broke up with me because he said we were not heading in the same direction in life. I want to start a family eventually and he doesn't. Also he thinks that he will never be able to give me the life I deserve and he will never be able to accomplish what I have accomplished. Apparently, for this guy having my life together was disconcerning. Just an hour ago he actually called on the land line. I hardly use it, but I answered. I again made it clear that I did not want to have anything to do with him, not to contact me again and that I am going to date other people. This time he got mad and called me a stupid b*tch at the end. I am through communicating with him. All I can do is hope he mellows out.
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