wontgohomewou Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 Well folks, it's been 7ish months since I was dumped. I asked her to stay, but she wouldn't listen. She left before I had the chance to say she was my everything. Some things were said, others were broken, but now it's far too late she's gone away. Every morning I wake up thinking about her. It's been almost a month with this whole NC thing, and it's starting to drive ME crazy. I've been having dreams about her everyday this past week and it's getting to the point where I cry myself awake. I've just had a recent phase where I'm missing the hell out of her. I don't understand why this is happening. It's like I'm a girl on her period, I'm getting emotional. Trust me when I say that I probably don't spend more than 15 minutes alone during the day. Anyone with NC experience go through what I am? Just for headers, she is my first love. I also do not plan on ever getting back with her if she decides to come back. We weren't that compatible so there is really no use. GAH! I just want to get over this girl. I was doing SOO well with this NC thing until 3 days ago. Advice please!!!!! (I have absolutely no intentions on contacting her)
Thomas X Forever Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 I could give you advice or I could let you know you aren't alone. My ex and me broke up 7 months ago, too. Every single day is hell. I enforced NC immediately, basically. She kept coming back. Finally asked her on a date, 5 months after we broke up. She agreed. Said she still loved me. Said she wanted to go on vacation with me this june. Few days later, she became wishy washy again and I cut her off again. Haven't ever heard from her again. It's absolute hell. So much hell that I am doubting God is real because of it anymore.
hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 dude it has been a month since i was broken up with my gurl saw her yesterday and had a wonderful time with her but i am trying the NC thing since i have yet to really establish it...just keep trying man she was my first real love too and i miss the hell out her too just take some time for urself and take up some hobbies or sumthin u are not alone brethren.
Author wontgohomewou Posted July 4, 2009 Author Posted July 4, 2009 I could give you advice or I could let you know you aren't alone. My ex and me broke up 7 months ago, too. Every single day is hell. I enforced NC immediately, basically. She kept coming back. Finally asked her on a date, 5 months after we broke up. She agreed. Said she still loved me. Said she wanted to go on vacation with me this june. Few days later, she became wishy washy again and I cut her off again. Haven't ever heard from her again. It's absolute hell. So much hell that I am doubting God is real because of it anymore. Damn man, that must be tough to have her come back and leave again. I feel you on that God thing, haha I've started to have my doubts too. But the funny thing is that I'm over what I wrote in the morning. It's just like small phases I miss the hell out of the girl, and moments like right now where I'm fine. Oh well, it'll pass eventually. I see you're from Pitt, you should come down to PSU some time next fall and we can party it up and meet some new ladies. dude it has been a month since i was broken up with my gurl saw her yesterday and had a wonderful time with her but i am trying the NC thing since i have yet to really establish it...just keep trying man she was my first real love too and i miss the hell out her too just take some time for urself and take up some hobbies or sumthin u are not alone brethren. Yours is really recent, everything must still be fresh, I remember those days, worst days of my life man. And trust me when I say I keep myself busy. I've been hitting the gym cuz I'm way too skinny from all that cross country running back in HS, been swimming, and I'm doing volunteer firefighting. I really do enjoy my life again but you know how like randomly you just miss what you and your ex had? Oh well, it's only temporary.
Beeotch Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 Well folks, it's been 7ish months since I was dumped. I asked her to stay, but she wouldn't listen. She left before I had the chance to say she was my everything. Some things were said, others were broken, but now it's far too late she's gone away. Every morning I wake up thinking about her. It's been almost a month with this whole NC thing, and it's starting to drive ME crazy. I've been having dreams about her everyday this past week and it's getting to the point where I cry myself awake. I've just had a recent phase where I'm missing the hell out of her. I don't understand why this is happening. It's like I'm a girl on her period, I'm getting emotional. Trust me when I say that I probably don't spend more than 15 minutes alone during the day. Anyone with NC experience go through what I am? Just for headers, she is my first love. I also do not plan on ever getting back with her if she decides to come back. We weren't that compatible so there is really no use. GAH! I just want to get over this girl. I was doing SOO well with this NC thing until 3 days ago. Advice please!!!!! (I have absolutely no intentions on contacting her) I don't know how comforting this is: but it is normal. You are going to have your ups and downs until you completely get over this. I ofcourse can't predict how long it will take for you to be rid of these feelings...but just keep looking forward. I have my good days, great days and bad days/moments. I just let it pass....then pretty soon I feel fine again. I just keep assuring myself of the positive things to come and why I need to do it and even remind myself of the negatives when I start to idealize.It is good that you are adamant about not contacting her or getting back with her...it is a lot easier when you know your goals and intentions. Unlike those who may have hopes of getting back together...it is probably twice as hard to endure. So just keep looking ahead;)
sugarmomma Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 I don't understand why this is happening. It's like I'm a girl on her period, I'm getting emotional. Emotions have nothing to do with being a girl or having a period. You are a human and we are all made with emotions. Some people just choose to repress them and act as if they don't exist, but as you can see, they won't be ignored. Just trust the process and you will one day get over her. I always do, emotions not withstanding.
Thomas X Forever Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Sounds good my friend. I actually go to the local Penn State, but have to transfer possibly to the main campus this year. (Major = Psychology, and can't major finish a major in that at the local campus). You go to the main campus? We really should go meet some girls haha. If you click on my loveshack name (Thomas X Forever) then go to "Contact" you can go to my website, and my website has my email and stuff. I'd out right post it all, but this site bans you if you post your email / other websites. lol I can say my aim name = "Not ThomasX" though
Author wontgohomewou Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 I don't know how comforting this is: but it is normal. You are going to have your ups and downs until you completely get over this. I ofcourse can't predict how long it will take for you to be rid of these feelings...but just keep looking forward. I have my good days, great days and bad days/moments. I just let it pass....then pretty soon I feel fine again. I just keep assuring myself of the positive things to come and why I need to do it and even remind myself of the negatives when I start to idealize.It is good that you are adamant about not contacting her or getting back with her...it is a lot easier when you know your goals and intentions. Unlike those who may have hopes of getting back together...it is probably twice as hard to endure. So just keep looking ahead;) This was very comforting. I know how you feel though about the good, great, and bad days. I'm fine now, I actually got over it in like an hour or two. And I had a pretty good dream last night, I wish I could remember what it was about though:laugh: Emotions have nothing to do with being a girl or having a period. You are a human and we are all made with emotions. Some people just choose to repress them and act as if they don't exist, but as you can see, they won't be ignored. Just trust the process and you will one day get over her. I always do, emotions not withstanding. Haha that was just a joke, don't take it offensively sugarmomma! I am pretty much over my ex, just randomly miss her. As I said before, I won't be getting back with her. I want to meet a new girl and give her more love than I ever gave my ex. And yeah, repressing emotions can be a bad thing. Good thing I have you guys! Sounds good my friend. I actually go to the local Penn State, but have to transfer possibly to the main campus this year. (Major = Psychology, and can't major finish a major in that at the local campus). You go to the main campus? We really should go meet some girls haha. If you click on my loveshack name (Thomas X Forever) then go to "Contact" you can go to my website, and my website has my email and stuff. I'd out right post it all, but this site bans you if you post your email / other websites. lol I can say my aim name = "Not ThomasX" though Yeah I go to the main campus. You're gonna love it dude, it's like the best times of my life excluding the day I drove a ferrari and won some underage money at the casino:D. Damn you're a model man, why are you having a hard time moving on from this girl? Date some more and get over the chick. Us normal looking people should have a harder time than you do:p
Thomas X Forever Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 That's very nice of you man, thanks a lot. You have a great personality, im sure you are fighting girls off... I, on the other hand, forgot totally how to talk to girls and stuff. Like, I got so comfortable dating my ex for so long, I forgot how to pick up girls. Now I have no idea. I seriously freeze up and don't know how to approach girls anymore. It sucks man. People have said what you have said, and although I appreciate it, it makes me sad. Because I have no idea how to do it.
fooled Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 Wontgo - she was not your everything. If she was, she would still be with you. Don't ever spend time or energy on someone who doesn't see the value in being with you. This simple idea will help get you through. Believe me, I know you are hurting. It will pass. But you need to know that you are better off without her. You ARE. You must stop romanticizing what could have been. It is not. What remains is YOU. And you are worthwhile.
sugarmomma Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 Haha that was just a joke, don't take it offensively sugarmomma! I am pretty much over my ex, just randomly miss her. As I said before, I won't be getting back with her. I want to meet a new girl and give her more love than I ever gave my ex. And yeah, repressing emotions can be a bad thing. Good thing I have you guys! Doesn't sound like you are over her. You sound like a man in love to me. Running to another r is not the answer. Sometimes its okay to just chill and deal with everything until you have a clear head and heart. You want to make sure you're a better man the next time around
Olylama Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 "Don't ever spend time or energy on someone who doesn't see the value in being with you. This simple idea will help get you through." This guy speaks with strong direct wisdom. I only hope you and I both can find our manhood and pull ourselves out of this pussy whipped state we find ourselves in. There are plenty of options (females) out there. Once you rebuild your Mojo and find yourself or get a glimpse of who you are you will be able to let go and find a better model. I'm talking to myself here too Bro. We are not alone there is a world full of broken hearts.
Author wontgohomewou Posted July 6, 2009 Author Posted July 6, 2009 Hey! I would just like to make it clear that I really just go through phases. 7 days I'll be fine, 1 day I'll miss her, and it just continues. I'm still in the beginning stages of NC so I'm pretty sure this is common. Anyway, I'll update on this thread if I am ever feeling blue, but trust me when I say that 75% of the time I am happy! I used to think I couldn't be happy with my ex, but I seriously am really excited to return to college and meet a new girl!
chslt77 Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 "Don't ever spend time or energy on someone who doesn't see the value in being with you. This simple idea will help get you through." This guy speaks with strong direct wisdom. I only hope you and I both can find our manhood and pull ourselves out of this pussy whipped state we find ourselves in. There are plenty of options (females) out there. Once you rebuild your Mojo and find yourself or get a glimpse of who you are you will be able to let go and find a better model. I'm talking to myself here too Bro. We are not alone there is a world full of broken hearts. i know exactley what you mean man. this whole pussy whipped stage needs to end for me too. i left her. the next day i wanted her back but its too late. its only been a week but still think about her all the time. i think LC is the best option right now. it helps you slowly get over them because its not like they are totally out of your life. but then you have to remember that they dont want to be with you, just find the person that does. its easy to say this to other people but doing it makes yourself stronger because at least you know the power to get over it is in you. just be strong. were men, were the ones who should be running the show right?
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