Softsoul Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 For those of you in serious relationships, do you ever get sick of your SO, like temporarily? My boyfriend and I had a discussion about it because we're moving in together soon, and I'm interested in your thoughts.
lovebubble Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 honestly, marriage/moving in together ruined our relationship lol.. we were better off boyfriend + girlfriend, seeing eachother for some time out of the week and having our own seperate domains. as soon as we move in together, all hell broke loose. we got more than tired of eachother.
whichwayisup Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 Ofcourse I get sick of him at times. When you live with someone, doesn't matter if it's your spouse, parents, siblings, kids, whatever, one tends to get sick of eachother at times. The key is balance, to respect eachother, give eachother space - Freedom to do other things apart, in and out of the house. If you make a big issue of it, it'll be a problem, but if you both are honest with eachother and keep communicating, then it won't be a big problem.
carhill Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 I never got tired of my wife, but rather tired of how she treated (or rather the absence of any treatment) me. In the end it was like living alone and paying her bills. At least now she's paying her own bills. The house feels just as empty except I have more time to do positive things, like post on LS Being single and alone for many years, I always promoted the philosophy of teamwork along with personal space throughout our marriage. I think it's healthy for spouses to have their own friends and do things separately and/or alone; along with that, there should be a sense of the team and the team's goals and ambitions and having each other's back in that pursuit. OP, how long have you been dating? Known each other? Moving in together, in the absence of a legal commitment, is a big step. Think it through
girl68 Posted July 3, 2009 Posted July 3, 2009 Yes, sometimes; I would assume something is wrong with you if you never ever felt annoyed with your partner at one time or another. Not all the time, everyday but sometimes- occasionally yeah. I live with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years now. And for the most part we are very happy together and spend a lot of time doing stuff together in the house and out. I'm sure there are times where I want attention and he wants to be alone, more often than not he'll spend some time with me on the couch until I fall asleep then go on the computer for a few hours before we go to bed together. That seems to work for us. But yeah, you're going to get annoyed so will he. Back to the basics: say please, say thank you, say sorry. Those 3 expressions go a loooooooong way.
Lauriebell82 Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 Like the others said, almost every couple gets annoyed with each other at some point. And when you do move in together you spend a LOT more time together. We don't ever really get "sick of each other" just, well annoyed I guess the word is. I have lived with my fiance for over a year now, and we have a rule that we always get "me" time. Which means we can watch tv or go on the computer or do whatever on our own. We also make sure that we spend plenty of time together as well. We also set aside a "date night" where it's kind of like when we are dating. He "picks me up" at our bedroom door and we go on a date. I think it's just important to remember that just because you live with someone doesn't mean you should give up yourself and what you like to do.
Lyssa Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 Not sick but annoyed at small things he'd or I'd say . We always end up teasing each other about that and work it through. It hardly happens though cause we have our own space now and then. It's important to keep things in balance as one of the posters mentioned.
mental_traveller Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 I have in past relationships, not in the last two though.
mental_traveller Posted July 4, 2009 Posted July 4, 2009 Like the others said, almost every couple gets annoyed with each other at some point. And when you do move in together you spend a LOT more time together. We don't ever really get "sick of each other" just, well annoyed I guess the word is. I have lived with my fiance for over a year now, and we have a rule that we always get "me" time. Which means we can watch tv or go on the computer or do whatever on our own. We also make sure that we spend plenty of time together as well. We also set aside a "date night" where it's kind of like when we are dating. He "picks me up" at our bedroom door and we go on a date. I think it's just important to remember that just because you live with someone doesn't mean you should give up yourself and what you like to do. Sounds like a good way to handle things. I agree with you it's important to keep up the effort and keep things fresh!
Author Softsoul Posted July 5, 2009 Author Posted July 5, 2009 Thank you everyone for the replies. carhill, my bf and I have been together for a bit more than a year, and he wants to marry me but we'll wait with that a bit. So far, I've never felt like I'm tired or sick of him (and we spend a lot of time together); I was just annoyed with him or angry. I hope it stays this way
Woggle Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Not really because my wife and I both have a room in our house that we run exactly the way we want. Either one of us can retreat there when we need alone time.
Star Gazer Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Not sick of, but occasionally annoyed... like on nights when his snoring is particularly loud. He "picks me up" at our bedroom door and we go on a date. That's SO cute!!!
Eve Posted July 5, 2009 Posted July 5, 2009 Cant say that I get 'sick' of my Hubby as such. We do things which annoy each other sometimes (.. and tend to enjoy it somewhat) but find that its more about how things are communicated than anything else. So far, after nearly 11 years we have had only 2 arguements.. thats through talking and knowing when to get out of each others way! I think its about finding a rhythm that works. When either of us is not at our best the other steps things up a bit or gives the other space. Then again this could be an example of like mindedness or the interactions of persons of a simular temperment being together. I suppose we never let anyone or anything get between us. Take care, Eve xx
Lauriebell82 Posted July 6, 2009 Posted July 6, 2009 I also think you have to learn to not let each other get to you. My fiance can display some annoying "anxiety/anal type behavior" over the apartment being messy. He gets upset if I dont use a coaster. So, I call him "Gary Poppins." It tends to break some of the tension and ease his anxiety if I lighten the mood by cracking jokes. You kind of have to get used to your partner, which happens when you live together. There will be some "kinks" to iron out most likely but like Eve suggested, getting into a rhythm with your relationship helps out a lot.
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